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Dubai/UAE - where did you think you were?

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 01/03/2026 19:29

I’ll preface this by saying I wish the best for anyone out there, working or holidaying. I hope you are and remain safe.

but do people go there with next to no concern for where in the world it’s located? Do they pay no attention to news or the general geopolitical situation, it’s hnot exactly a secret.

are we really that dense that most people don’t look past the bling, the weather, the tax perks, the bloody influencers?

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Carla786 · 02/03/2026 13:58

MauriceTheMussel · 01/03/2026 22:33

Even IF the penalty for holding hands was death…that’s another country and their sovereignty and if you respect THEIR law and culture, you’re going to be fine. What kind of bizarre hubris makes someone think “ewwww don’t agree with these laws! Not going to conform! Idiots!”

I haven’t the energy to get nuanced so expect to be picked apart and blah blah blah, but on the “legalisation” of rape…do you know how shit rape conviction rates in this country are? What’s the actual difference?!

So in your book, people visiting, say, apartheid South Africa, should have respected the laws and culture? Or what about people visiting Taliban Afghanistan - should they respect that the laws and culture right now forbid women from schooling?

What a gem of a post 🤣

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 13:59

Right - so human rights atrocities are "fabricated rubbish". I'm alright Jack seems to be a theme

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 13:59

Bluedenimdoglover · 02/03/2026 13:57

I see your point. It's true, many people have no idea what is going on on the world if they live in their on-line influence bubble . Money to throw at things etc. I don't think many of them actually care about anything outside their little world - until something big like this happens. Then OMG - get me home to good old UK like YESTERDAY!!!! I feel for those caught up in the transit flights or simply on holiday. As for those who thought it a good idea to avoid domestic UK tax by working from an Arab state, or people who chose to work in high paid jobs in those states - that's different. Come back, by whatever means you can if you must, but pay tax here without complaining and don't beef about immigrants fleeing war zones to get to the UK. In

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Exactly. I'm anti more migration myself but I hate in when some people say refugees feeding war, or people fleeing poverty, should 'go back and help the country', but not people leaving the UK for abroad, including Dubai.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:00

Bearsdolovetrees · 01/03/2026 22:35

I’m not sure most (UK) people on here think current US is a good example? But also, it’s not a race to the bottom. We should highlight abusive attitudes to women everywhere, surely?

That law has not actually been passed anyway. A horrible Tennessee man wanted it but he couldn't get enough votes to run it, unsurprisingly

BashfulClam · 02/03/2026 14:01

DH kept changing on about going, he wants to go via Emirates in the massive plane. I told him over my dead body. I will never go to UAE!

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:02

MauriceTheMussel · 01/03/2026 22:37

Hard agree with this post. So many think the moral superiority of countries is so binary.

That post is factually inaccurate. America has not passed any such law. A tennesse Republican wanted to run it, but he couldn't enough votes to, unsurprisingly. It certainly did not pass.

Use a tad more critical thinking.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:03

ultracynic · 01/03/2026 23:32

Why Hungary?

Orban probably. I would still go there but Orban is grim.

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 14:04

It used to be legal to batter your wife in the UK - my mum was in an abusive marriage in the 80s and battering your wife was just a domestic

So because the UK criminal justice system lets women down Saudi law is Ok?

Re women. That's where we are?

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:06

Friendlygingercat · 01/03/2026 23:42

I have travelled solo to Dubai, Abu Dhabi and Oman. Also Syria, Iran and Egypt. When you visit places like that you do your research first on the people, politics and culture. You obey the dress and morality codes, dont discuss politics and avoid criticising the government. I have felt more threatened in parts of London and my home city.

People go to work in Dubai and similar please because they feel there is nothing in this country for them. Taxes are too high and there are no jobs for qualified people. If I were in my 30s/40s I would go myself.

The point is that some people here, including me, would argue that it is immoral to go to such places and arguably give suppprt to their unjust laws by following them.

If you went to South Africa in the 80s, would you argue tourists should just shut up and obey the apartheid laws?

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:06

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 14:04

It used to be legal to batter your wife in the UK - my mum was in an abusive marriage in the 80s and battering your wife was just a domestic

So because the UK criminal justice system lets women down Saudi law is Ok?

Re women. That's where we are?

That's where some women on this thread are, apparently. Very 'I'm alright, Jack!'

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:07

38thparallel · 01/03/2026 23:56

Im not just talking about proximity to trouble, Im talking about what might be considered to be ok or not ok to some degree.

Do you mean regarding human rights or countries which have a high crime rate?
We went to Rio and were warned in no uncertain terms by our hotel not to walk around.
One of the things I really enjoy is to wander around and explore cities abroad so I don’t want to return to Rio - though I’d love to return to the beautiful and interesting Pantanal.

Brazil and India for example have severe poverty and inequality. Is that a reason not to go to a country?
Any opposition or criticism to the regime is dealt with severely in Cuba and the only shops with plenty for sale are those who take dollars - which few Cubans have apart from the ruling regime.
Should tourists visit Cuba?

No, I don't think people should visit undemocratic states like Cuba.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:08

saraclara · 02/03/2026 00:07

Well I visited Iran a few years ago (beautiful country, wonderful people, but a terrible government) so I'm not about to criticise anyone for visiting a neighbouring country. This thread is basically just (very) thinly disguised snobbery.

How is it snobbery?

All the people I know who've gone to Dubai are well-off.

SerendipityJane · 02/03/2026 14:08

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:00

That law has not actually been passed anyway. A horrible Tennessee man wanted it but he couldn't get enough votes to run it, unsurprisingly

I wonder if this was in the PPs mind

The case is notable as the first attempt, at least in the state, to charge a pregnant woman for suffering a miscarriage.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alabama_v._Jones

Alabama v. Jones - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alabama_v._Jones

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:09

saraclara · 02/03/2026 01:42

Jeeze. I'll admit that I've never been tempted by Dubai, but the sanctimony on this thread is pretty nauseous.

Is this more or less nauseous to you?

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www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/w3ct854r
www.google.com/url?
sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=

www.newyorker.com/the-runaway-princesses&ved=2ahUKEwjTm96SqYGTAxXaU0EAHdLbA5AQFnoECB8QAQ&usg=AOvVaw2DRw5ySs6XVR1mSlQatUqd

www.theguardian.com/global-development/2024/apr/25/kafala-labour-system-gulf-women-talk-about-life-as-a-domestic-worker-in-the-gulf

Remember also it us illegal to criticise the government.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:10

SerendipityJane · 02/03/2026 14:08

I wonder if this was in the PPs mind

The case is notable as the first attempt, at least in the state, to charge a pregnant woman for suffering a miscarriage.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alabama_v._Jones

Maybe- disturbing. It did not pass though.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:11

Twooclockrock · 02/03/2026 01:29

In that vein then we should not travel to

Dominican republic
Thailand
Cambodia
India
Morocco
Any country in Eastern Europe
America USA
Mexico
Cuba
Anywhere in Africa, notth south east or west
Nearly all of South America
China
Turkey
Cyrprus
Northern ireland

Because they either have conflict or border conflict zones..

I would definitely rule out non democracies like China & Cuba. Some people are also thinking of democracy and morality of government.

How bad is the conflict in NI though? America is not at war or next to a war zone either.

SerendipityJane · 02/03/2026 14:12

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:10

Maybe- disturbing. It did not pass though.

This time.

Effic · 02/03/2026 14:12

White western colonialism still writ large it seems. We know better. We are better. Everyone should be like us 🤢

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:15

Effic · 02/03/2026 14:12

White western colonialism still writ large it seems. We know better. We are better. Everyone should be like us 🤢

What?

So do you think we should be more like Dubai?

Do you not think it's possible for some Western countries to be objectively better on some counts than some non-Western countries?

How is that 'white colonialism'?

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 14:15

Effic · 02/03/2026 14:12

White western colonialism still writ large it seems. We know better. We are better. Everyone should be like us 🤢

I don't think people challenging human rights issues in other countries means that everyone should be like us

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:17

Jlom · 02/03/2026 04:28

You can sit safely in front of your TV/device and feel clever for finding reasons why every country and activity might be too dangerous and scary or you can go out into the world and experience it.

There's a middle ground. It's not only about danger but about morality & democracy.

Meadowfinch · 02/03/2026 14:17

I'm with you OP. I've never understood why any sane woman would go anywhere near the middle east. Israel maybe, but none of the Arab states.

Find yourself on your own in any of them and you are at a serious disadvantage. I travelled a lot on business, sometimes alone and it doesn't matter how well planned, booked in advance, how well financed your credit card.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:19

Nosleepforthismum · 02/03/2026 06:17

The immediate difference that springs to mind is that if you are raped in the uk, you aren’t thrown in jail yourself if you report it.

I think for women living in Dubai and other countries in the UAE it’s perfectly safe with “freedom” providing they toe the line. Similar to an abusive relationship really. It’s not real freedom.

Spot on

SerendipityJane · 02/03/2026 14:20

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 14:15

I don't think people challenging human rights issues in other countries means that everyone should be like us

There is a convincing argument that the concept of human rights is very much a western european christian one.