Unsolicited comments from strangers - what’s your rudest/funniest one?

[maria199]

Bit of a funny one really but yesterday I was about to go for a walk near a nature area and I was putting my 4 month old in her pram. She had just been in the car for a little while so when I put her into the pram she started crying (don’t worry - she loves the pram and was fine as soon as we started walking!)

As I was putting her in a woman in her late 60’s/70’s walked past with an elderly man and she says to the man “oh a little crying baby! must be hungry!” She then asked me how old my baby was so I told her 4 months old and she says to me “she sounds hungry!” I said “no she’s just been fed (she had), she just doesn’t like being put down” (in a friendly way) and she says to me “oh you’ve spoilt her then!” and laughed. I was a bit taken aback because how can you spoil a 4 month old baby?? 😂

Anyway, she walked on and it wasn’t exactly a malicious comment but it did make me think why on earth do people always love to comment, especially to people they don’t know!!!

It just made me curious - what are the funniest/rudest/weirdest interactions people have had from strangers when out with their baby?

Poor Robert Smith, out of control again

Once I was doing a big food shop with my two children, as I was packing the older cashier shouted about the big age gap between them, and then asked if they had the same father! I was really annoyed as after we had our son we tried for many years and had miscarriages. My daughter was newborn and son 10.

Buying sanitary towels and a random woman came up to me and said “you wouldn’t need those if you lost some weight”. I don’t even know what she meant- do slim women not have periods? That was almost 30 years ago and I still wonder wtf that was.

Getting off a bus early one morning, when the driver suddenly yelled down the bus to me, out of nowhere, "Are you pregnant?".
On the metro with eldest dd when she was a few months old, a lady asking me whether she was a girl or a boy. When I said my baby was a girl, this lady was very insistent that I was wrong, it was a boy. Ok then.

This just gave me a flashback to being about 16 years old. I had been drinking and had gone back to my boyfriend’s parent’s house. Being wasted I was in a trance looking at the framed family photos. For context the bf and his older sister are practically twins, same hair, eye and skin colours, face shapes, noses, hair textures etc. also beautiful, model-like humans. Their older brother has a completely different colouring and look and unfortunately didn’t inherit the same beauty.

I asked if she’d cheated or found him somewhere and felt bad. Dead seriously questioned his parentage.

I married the boyfriend and thankfully have a wonderful relationship with my MIL, who somehow still thinks I’m funny, but I apologise on behalf of all of us that have asked that question!

Going back to the mid 90s, I was 14 and doing my work experience at a solicitors firm based in Liverpool City Centre. Was on my lunch break, sat minding my own business on a bench on Lord Street. Some fella was stood on a soap box ranting about God, Jesus, saving us from sin etc. I was just eating my sandwich. Next minute a random lady sits down next to me, turns to me and says “I bet you think he’s crazy eh?!”, with a bit of a chuckle. So, being polite, I reply, just nodding and saying “yeah a bit but each to their own”.

At which point she says “I used to think he was crazy until I welcomed the Lord into my heart. You should too to avoid being judged. I mean, do you realise the kind of sinful messages you are sending men when you choose to wear such a short skirt and the lustful urges you can stoke in any man”.

I stood up, adjusted my black, just above the knee skirt that was part of a smart suit, looked her in the eye and said “Firstly, shame on those adult men, for being so weak and pathetic that they would consider behaving inappropriately and potentially illegally with an under age girl”. “And shame on you as a woman, for perpetuating body shaming and damaging sexist stereotypes as an excuse for disgusting behaviour.”

I walked away having had my teenaged i
eyes opened to some of the more disappointing aspects and attitudes of our society and its treatment of women, attitudes which are sadly very much prevalent 30 years later.

A lady in Boots once asked me where I thought the shampoo was and then said ‘Not that it will make the slightest difference to you, it never does to your sort’. I was 38, unexcitingly dressed and with boringly normal hair. Often wondered what she meant 😆

Back in the earky 2000's, guy in a nightclub randomly asked me how old I was. I responded, im 24.

He said, oh you better get a move on if you want to have children, all your eggs are getting stale.

Thanks!

I had this! Health visitor asked if my kids had different fathers as “they had different skin colours.”

They are the exact same shade lol

A really creepy man sat next to me and my son a few years ago and asked me how much I'd spent on lunch. He then proceeded to lecture me about how I could save for a house and save that money for my mortgage (most people think I am early 30's or late 20's). I relished in telling him that I lived in a 1.7 million dollar paid off house because I started investing when I was 24 and was now in fact, 43 years old. He shut right up and ate his lunch.

when heavily pregnant a random man asked me if I was ‘sure there was only one in there?’.

the bump was huge but it really bothered me

Many years ago my (then) boyfriend asked my pregnant friend, who already had a little boy, 'What are you having this time? ......... A baby?'

I had this too, one very light blond dc and one dark, with an obvious big age gap. Had been asked a few times in relatively quick succession so when I was asked again "they're so different, do they have the same dad?" I just replied "do you know, I'm really not sure"

My friend has been asked this by a school mum whose child is in the same class as both kids as they are twins. How she fathoms twins can have different fathers is anyones guess.

A man once asked me if my newborn baby and my 2 year old were twins!

I am pale and have an afro, I was once asked whether I was mixed race or if I was interracial instead

My sister lying on a sunbed on holiday was told by a guy sunbathing nearby she had feet like a tyranasaurus rex ( she has arthritis in her toes) rude or what !

Was round an ex boyfriends mates house having some drinks with a bunch of people including some I'd not met before.

Sat in a group and got chatting to one of the girlfriends about my new uni housemates. Mentioned how one of them was an amazing cook and would share her Ghanaian dishes with us, also said I thought she was absolutely stunning. Ex piped up and said he didn't agree - I said well maybe she's not your type and that's fine. Random guy we hadn't met before looked at my ex, looked at me and went "She's not your type? Is she skinny then?"

I was stunned and just stared at him - full aggressive eye contact

He then said "oh no I didn't mean it like that I meant she's skinny because she's from Africa"

Wtf??

Walking down the street with my 2 children, both aged under 8 at the time. A woman stops and says ‘are they brothers? do they have the same dad?’ I say yes but felt really uncomfortable. ‘How can they? They look different and have different coloured skin.’ I can’t remember my answer but I felt so rubbish for a long time. Hard to explain why exactly but was also embarrassed for them that they heard such a strange‘accusation’ from a random person.

I agree that pregnancy and small children seem to make people think it's ok to make random comments to strangers.I was out walking my newborn DS in his pram trying to settle him, and he was crying. This random old lady came up to us, tapped the buggy and said "You ate too much fish during pregnancy, that's why he's crying. That's your fault" 🤣

Yep I got that from a nasty piece of work in my current job. So inappropriate and just plain nosey. Who gives a damn if they are or aren't anyway?

That's amazing !🤣 I might use that answer with a particular nasty,.nosey person in my work!🤣

At the local swings with my then three year old ds, I dropped my handbag . A tampax rolled out onto the ground ..
A man, who was walking his dog , that I barely knew, except to nod to, saw the rolling tampon and said “ oh I’d thought you’d gone past all that “ 😳
I was 41 😩

i was having a hair cut before i got married and the hair dresser asked if he was the father of my 2 children, then said you can tell they come from the same father, they are like two peas in the pod

in the coop, looking at the cakes, an elderly man said - you look like you have been eating all the cakes.!

Years ago. I was out with my few months old baby. This man said congratulations to me. Then asked if it was a girl or boy.

I said she was a girl, then he said he taking the congratulations back.

At a birthday party with my clearly austistic 3 year old (at the time), when one of the mums gave him a pointed look then asked me with a genuinely tinkly laugh 'And just how many tins of tuna did you eat while pregnant with him?!'

I think she was expecting everyone to be impressed with her mistaken understanding of mercury.

Just replied 'None.Tastes like cat food' and sauntered off to count the floor tiles with DS 😬