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Tourette’s/BAFTAs offensive language

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Lochroy · 23/02/2026 16:37

I wasn’t watching, I’ve just read the article on BBC news. I will admit I know little of Tourette’s and therefore posting to understand.

The tics agree involuntary, and often use offensive language. But what I’m struggling to get my head around is excusing use of the N word because it was caused by the disability when it was (seemingly) only directed at black people?

Also presumably it’s learned vocab so children don’t have swear words as tics? How does this develop?

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TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:09

BillieWiper · 23/02/2026 20:01

I heard neither of them were spoken to at all about the incident afterwards to explain the guy had TS or ask if they were alright?

It was announced at the start and during the ceremony.

BillieWiper · 23/02/2026 20:09

DeftWasp · 23/02/2026 20:04

I guess they knew, as I guess the film was in the programme of awardees attending, so whilst maybe taken aback, I guess they knew what was happening.

As to whether they were alright, they are two grown men, a rude word was shouted, of course they are alright!

There's a possibility they were offended and not keen on how it was broadcast though?

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 23/02/2026 20:09

I wrote a long reply on the other deleted thread so here it is again.

I have a neurological involuntary movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia that was caused by some prescribed off label antipsychotic called Pericyazine, after a head injury and post concussion syndrome.

Unfortunately it is a bit like Tourette's and Parkinson's disease combined and includes involuntary movements of my face and body, and occasionally the symptoms include Tourettisms - tic-like sounds such as repeating my own words. Luckily I don't swear with this symptom, but if i did, I'd be educating others about my condition and making them look into how it works. Dopamine dysfunction is a part of both Tourette's and Parkinson's, and my TD, so.we really can't bloody help it.

Michael J Fox is a hero of mine too, and I believe anyone who's in the public eye with these shitty conditions are brilliant.

Living with a neurological condition is crappy, and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone ever.

AnotherChangeDay · 23/02/2026 20:10

DeftWasp
Yep, I think that's what the OP meant - just watched the news piece on it on C4.
I find it interesting that the N word was used when two black guys were on stage, rather than some random profanity.
I'm not suggesting it wasn't a genuine tic moment, but I'm interested to see that the tic may be focussed on a particular situation.

I find it interesting that the N word was used when two black guys were on stage, rather than some random profanity.

But that is the whole point!!!

Because people with Tourette's know it is a racist word, and it becomes so overwhelming with being the word they DON'T want to say and gets bigger, and bigger and BIGGER until

it BURSTS out

John actually should how un-racist he is - because he was so trying not to say it and the pressure was too much

If people don't see the correlation between him saying this to black men, and shouting "fuck the Queen" to the Queen (again - KNOWING FULL WELL HE SHOULDN'T!!) then I despair.

Choppychop · 23/02/2026 20:11

Highly recommend watching ‘I swear I can’t help it’ the documentary behind the ‘I swear’ film. It is brilliant at explaining Tourette’s and includes a child diagnosed at 8 years old who is doing really well at 15. Also of course, all about John. You will never judge him after watching this.

Aberdeenusername · 23/02/2026 20:11

Lampzade · 23/02/2026 16:50

Has he apologised for his actions ?

Why would he or why should he?? It’s his disability it’s quite unbelievable how badly educated people are in this subject. It’s involuntary him shouting that word. It literally forces him to shout the most obscene words do you not think he's punished enough living with that day in day out.

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:12

ItsameLuigi · 23/02/2026 20:04

The irony to stay stop infantilising black people, after saying a grown man saying the N word is equal to a 1 year old saying it.

Its exactly the same because he can’t help it

I mean, did you miss that bit?? Or are you just being ableist, or goady?

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 23/02/2026 20:12

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:02

There is evidence to show that people with Tourette’s make discriminatory comments they don’t mean and believe in.

But it’s VERY odd to assume that people with Tourette’s are racist until they prove otherwise. Do not say the same of other groups?

As I said two thing can be true - a slur can unintentional and still cause real harm to the Black person who hears it.

Thats not the fault or problem of the person with Tourette’s. What exactly aren’t you getting?

Black people can still be harmed by this.

What are you not getting.

IceOnTheLake · 23/02/2026 20:12

Aberdeenusername · 23/02/2026 20:11

Why would he or why should he?? It’s his disability it’s quite unbelievable how badly educated people are in this subject. It’s involuntary him shouting that word. It literally forces him to shout the most obscene words do you not think he's punished enough living with that day in day out.

Clearly some on here think he needs a bit more punishing. It's so depressing.

Nosleepforthismum · 23/02/2026 20:12

whereismyhusband · 23/02/2026 18:21

Okay, I’m going to assume you’re a woman.

Let’s say you’re speaking at a huge work event. You’re nervous. This is a huge moment in your career. You’ve put hours of effort into your speech, this is your moment. Maybe you’ve endured lots of sexist abuse in the past.

You’re finally on stage. You’re getting ready to speak and someone yells a misogynistic slur at you. You have to continue your speech. In that moment, are you really going to sit and think “oh maybe it was XYZ that caused it”?

No. You’d be upset. You’d be shocked and overwhelmed and to be honest very fucking angry that your moment was interrupted in such a way.

You then find out it was someone with Tourette’s. Does that provide an explanation? Yes. Does it undo those feelings and make the moment any less hurtful? No.

It’s ironic that those preaching empathy and understanding refuse to have any for the men who were abused.

I disagree tbh because I think I would be completely fine with it if I knew afterwards the person was a Tourette’s sufferer. I really cannot imagine a single thing someone could say to me that I would not forgive knowing their condition - and I’m really going to some dark places to try and think of the worst things someone could say.

Contrarymary30 · 23/02/2026 20:12

Mt563 · 23/02/2026 17:00

It's still hard to hear though. Even if you know the intention isn't to hurt.

Black people now use the N word to each other . Like gay people use the word Queer which was once an insult . When I was young calling someone black was deemed insulting , the polite word was coloured . Times change . The man who said the N word was probably mortified . It is an awful disability to cope with .

godmum56 · 23/02/2026 20:13

Overtheatlantic · 23/02/2026 17:58

I don’t believe that abuse is only abuse if there is intent. I’m not proposing anything so don’t try to provoke an argument. But if someone is incapable of understanding that they are being abusive then I believe their access to the world should be limited. This is obviously an emotive subject.

He absolutely understands it. He can't control it.

MrsChristmasHasResigned · 23/02/2026 20:13

DallasMinor · 23/02/2026 16:59

I think that racial slurs that are irrelevant to what’s being filmed should be edited out. Black people aren’t a teaching moment.

I felt terrible for the actors onstage and that the apology was not immediately made to them, then the explanation of why it happened. Its still a hurtful, awful word and the stunned look on their faces was so terrible to see.

RoastBanana · 23/02/2026 20:15

Of course it should have been edited out. It doesn’t matter what the intention of the person shouting it was or wasn’t. What matters is how it will be perceived by those to whom the BBC chose to broadcast it.

In this case the BBC chose to broadcast it to the public; thereby legitimising every school playground racist who shouts that slur at other kids.

The BBC cannot claim to have Tourette’s; it just chose to show racial slurs because if doesn’t think they matter. Contemptible.

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BlushingBrightly · 23/02/2026 20:15

RedToothBrush · 23/02/2026 19:05

Yes you have. You've shamed him. The best thing to do with Tourettes is to offer an explanation. That's it. Done. Having to apologise and deal with the shit and shame of this is enough without people wanting on about how others were abused. They absolutely were not.

Who knew so many people on here had done their NVQ level 2 in How To Definitely Say What Is And Isn't Abuse Like It's Totally Clear Cut? Not me.

TheEdenSide · 23/02/2026 20:16

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 23/02/2026 20:09

The irony of people on this thread saying have a thought for the the person with Tourette but in the same breath turning round and saying 'I am not listening to you, just man up Black people'.

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There are notable black people who are calling JD racist. Yes they should “man up” or stop blaming a disabled man. Being black doesn’t make them always right or mean that we shouldn’t call them out for Theo own prejudices

ZookeeperSE · 23/02/2026 20:16

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I'd already assumed that at least some of the people being so vociferous in their defence of the remarkable disability campaigner, John Davidson, were racists - and in no way, whatsoever, gave a shiny shit about disability and how affects people on a daily basis - but well done for making it so obvious.

DeftWasp · 23/02/2026 20:16

AnotherChangeDay · 23/02/2026 20:10

DeftWasp
Yep, I think that's what the OP meant - just watched the news piece on it on C4.
I find it interesting that the N word was used when two black guys were on stage, rather than some random profanity.
I'm not suggesting it wasn't a genuine tic moment, but I'm interested to see that the tic may be focussed on a particular situation.

I find it interesting that the N word was used when two black guys were on stage, rather than some random profanity.

But that is the whole point!!!

Because people with Tourette's know it is a racist word, and it becomes so overwhelming with being the word they DON'T want to say and gets bigger, and bigger and BIGGER until

it BURSTS out

John actually should how un-racist he is - because he was so trying not to say it and the pressure was too much

If people don't see the correlation between him saying this to black men, and shouting "fuck the Queen" to the Queen (again - KNOWING FULL WELL HE SHOULDN'T!!) then I despair.

Thanks for the detailed explanation, had no idea that is how it works, I assumed a random word just popped out.

Awful thing to have to live with.

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Livelovebehappy · 23/02/2026 20:17

Rhubarbandcustardd · 23/02/2026 19:55

They are reclaiming it when they do that and it’s an entirely different context

not comparable at all - you are being ignorant

it’s not for anyone to decide how it’s received only those people themselves and certainly not by white people

And you would be correct if we weren’t talking about someone with a disability whose intent was not to use it in an offensive way. People on here are indicating the word is triggering. I’m just stating that if it’s triggering, then it’s triggering in every context surely?

Misnofitness · 23/02/2026 20:18

Overtheatlantic · 23/02/2026 17:58

I don’t believe that abuse is only abuse if there is intent. I’m not proposing anything so don’t try to provoke an argument. But if someone is incapable of understanding that they are being abusive then I believe their access to the world should be limited. This is obviously an emotive subject.

This is utterly vile!!! ‘Limited’??? What does that mean. Lock him up and throw away the key???

callmeLoretta1 · 23/02/2026 20:19

tinyspiny · 23/02/2026 16:41

No I think what she is saying is that if with Tourette’s the shouting etc is involuntary why did he only shout the N word when black people were on the stage not randomly when a white person was on the stage . It is a good question which I hope someone with first hand experience of Tourette’s will explain . Either way it should have been edited out .

Yes, quite. Apparently he said the slur three times - two of those were to women. He apparently said it to one of the black women working on Sinners, outside of the ceremony.

SpaceRaccoon · 23/02/2026 20:19

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Explaining rather than apologising is exactly the right approach, as it's important to draw that clear distinction that this is a tic, there was no intent to abuse.
Implying as you do that he's actually a racist is really awful.

Misnofitness · 23/02/2026 20:19

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Or maybe he’s suffering from his medical condition and he can’t make a statement right now. It’s incredibly ableist to assume he is racist

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