What do you think to the idea, noone can make you feel inferior without your consent ?

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Not sure wgat tk make of it really as on 9ne hand I kinda agree with it
but On the other it seems very victim blaming too

Unfortunately my brain doesn’t remember to ask for consent

Nice sentiment, doesn't work in practice. It's like saying no-one can make you feel afraid without your consent, or nobody can make you fall in love without your consent. We can't detach ourselves from our emotions. Well, not that easily anyway.

easier said than done!

OK, I have studied this quite a bit, for various reasons.

No-one can survive serious bullying or abuse without a serious knock to their confidence. But mindset is important to how you react to more minor issues, and can actually alert you to red flags in more serious cases earlier on.

With help, it is absolutely possible to work on your mindset so that when someone comes along and tries to make you feel small you see them coming and take a sharp left and exit.

Obviously this is really hard when you're talking about relations (years of being put down by a parent for example, or spousal abuse, as well as many other types of abuse.

Abusive situations aside, I find it helps to remember two things:

1. No-one really cares about other adults. We are the centre of our own world. We care about our kids, obviously, but that's pretty much the limit when push comes to shove.
2. People that focus too much on other adults and judge them actually have their own issues that they are avoiding.

I don't have the time to go into this is much more detail, and the above is a bit rambled, but I didn't want to read and run. But in day to day situations - a cuntish boss, school run mums, general bitchiness, we do have a certain amount of choice, if we step back and ignore our own insecurities, to not allow ourselves to feel small.

And once we get to that point it's possible to spot toxic potential friends and partners from a mile off.

Oh ty - I'm not in the UK.

Amen to this!
The day you realise that the person who did this to you, did it because they hate themselves is mind blowing.
It changes everything and allows you to build compassion for yourself and stop the " im not good enough" voice

The fact is, ultimately, we choose how we react in any given situation, so this is fact. However, like everything, it’s not that simple - we are all pre-programmed to believe the negative. I’m a big believer in resilience, and fostering a positive mind default position, and believe this would make life a lot less stressful for all. Every reaction is a fork in the road- choose the path of positivity.

It depends on the reality of the power dynamic. Trapped in a job with a toxic boss and can’t get a new one? Doesn’t really apply. A child being verbally abused by a parent? Doesn’t really apply. A woman in Afghanistan living under Taliban rule? Doesn’t really apply.

It probably does apply to people who are very privileged.

I think it's a load of rubbish
To put it mildly

This is so good and I think sums it up well
Would loeb to hear more of your thoughts of you have time later