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Does your house feel like home?

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ToastedSmores · 20/02/2026 17:12

Just pondering today as I have been off work so I have been pottering around the house!
Previous house was a large end terraced property, ideal on paper for a family of 4, 3 huge bedrooms, massive kitchen diner, epic ceiling height etc. Lived there for 15 years, redecorated every room multiple times and it never felt like it was 'my home'.
I couldn't take it anymore and rather than redecorate (again) we decided to move. We bought a mid terraced property with exactly the same floor plan as the old house but it is much smaller (most would see this as a downside!?) The kids still have their own rooms but they are about half the size of the old house and we are now on a main road. Sounds awful right?
I absolutely love this house, from day one it felt like it was 'mine'! Like I have always lived here, I didn't need time to settle, I never pined for the old house - in fact I couldn't wait to get out and move here.
I never even think about my old house, the amount of money and sodding hard work we put into the place and it's like my brain has just blocked it out!
I was wondering, as there are a few threads about people that move and miss their old place if there are others like me that have moved without a backwards glance to their 'real' home?

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Happyjoe · 20/02/2026 18:17

Glad you're happy OP and don't have to move again :-)

I've moved over 20 times and will be moving again soon. This place am in now, nah, never really felt like home and to be honest, only one place has ever felt like home where I was happy in my surroundings, the rest have been just somewhere to live. Hoping the next one will once all the broken things are fixed and it's all decorated and it does have a delightful garden which I am sure will help.

Translatethedog · 20/02/2026 18:25

I’ve never felt home until I moved to where I am now. I had an unconventional childhood and inherited the itchy feet so have never laid roots. Home now is safe and comforting although most people would hate it! We are isolated and ramshackle but it’s everything that I want and love.

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 20/02/2026 18:30

The only place I’ve lived that didn’t feel homely was my student accommodation. It looked and felt like a jail cell. I decorated it and tried to make it nice, but then it just looked like a jail cell with some bunting up.

youalright · 20/02/2026 18:52

Yes. I love our home we have spent a lot of time and money making it our own. It is on the smaller side but I think thats what makes it feel so homely. The house we where in previously was much bigger and never felt like home it was a lovely house just not homely. Downsizing was the best thing we ever did.

ExcellentDaydreams · 20/02/2026 19:03

Yes, been there 25 years and can't see us moving any time soon. Victorian terrace, great location, nice neighbours, nice garden, as soon as I saw it I wanted it. We didn't do much with it the first few years, just the bathroom and decorating throughout because the DCs came along, then we thought we might upsize when they got bigger but we couldn't bring ourselves to move even though it is quite poky, decided to stay put and throw some money at it so now it is in much better condition and decor. I know every inch of the house and garden, it is definitely home. DCs have always loved it too. Bathroom needs doing again now though.

frozendaisy · 20/02/2026 19:51

Yes because H and our teens are here

Home for me is about people and love not buildings

I have never lived alone, I hope I never have to. I love people.

So yes it feels like home.

Laiste · 20/02/2026 20:00

This house is our fifth house.
It's a 6 bedroom detached in a big plot of land in the country. We've worked our arses off renovating and extending it. We've been here 7 years. Does it feel like home? hmmmm

My favourite home, and the one i sometimes have dreams about going back to, is a little cramped cottage down the lane where i lived for 8 years. We were squished but i loved that place and it tugs at my heart strings every time i walk or drive past it.

Mags1001 · 20/02/2026 20:09

Nope
I moved to a more affluent part of the city at 27, I'm now 51 & 3houses later I've constantly had awful nosey small lives gossipy or just damn right narcissist awful neighbours that have driven me out of my homes & others out of their homes too. Even had people who i sold to complaining because I hadn't mentioned the horrid creatures nextdoor.
So in a nutshell. Nope.
But my job doesn't feel like my job either.

letshavetea · 20/02/2026 20:21

Yes, my home very much feels like home. It’s a new build individual eco house in a small village. Totally different to our large (colder) Georgian farmhouse. It’s easy to run and clean and stylish and modern. We sold (or gave away at a pittance) all our other furniture. So it’s all new and modern here and I love it. Having great fun putting new borders in the garden and planting up. Have been here four years.It’s our fifth house. One of the things I like is being more minimalist!

CluelessAboutBiology · 20/02/2026 21:10

No, I hate it. I moved into DP’s house 3 years ago so I didn’t choose it. I would never have chosen it. It’s ugly, strange room proportions, tiny kitchen, big front garden yet small back garden. On a steep hill.

i hate the decor, its old fashioned but not in a warm and cosy way. I’m trying to make changes but DP doesn’t think anything needs changing. I don’t think it’s because he particularly likes it as it is, rather he’s lived here for 10 years so he’s used to it. I’m trying to explain that I want it to be “our” house not “his” house.

mondaytosunday · 20/02/2026 21:22

I love my current house, but it’s not in the location I want so I’ll probably sell it next year. I haven’t lived longer than 8 years in any house my whole life ((I’m 63), with the average probably 3 1/2 years

Foxybyname · 20/02/2026 21:43

Yes, 100%.
I bought this house after leaving my husband of 24 years. Been here 2 years now and it's my very favourite place to be. A perfect day for me is being on my own (sorry kids!) just pottering around.

It's quite a quirky house with a very striking feature that everyone comments on - positively!

I always think it's my reward for sticking it out with my ex for as long as I did!

Barnsleybonuz · 20/02/2026 21:47

Yes absolutely. I bought the house as a single mum. It was cheaper than I expected, smaller than I expected and not in a location I expected. It was love at first sight. I didn’t let anyone see it. I would prefer one more room downstairs but that’s the only thing I would change. I’ve done quite a bit of cosmetic work to it and people always comment on how lovely it is. I adore it, I don’t have a mortgage on it and I know that if I want to I can stay here forever

Buscobel · 20/02/2026 21:57

Our last house felt like home the minute I walked through the door. But I didn’t like the location and we needed to downsize. In theory, this is a better location, but not welcoming and the house doesn’t feel like home. Maybe it will in time.

Snootsnoot · 20/02/2026 22:01

I do find it funny how some houses can just give you a huge mental block. Nothing seems to work out how it should for seemingly no reason. My last house was like that with everything, from plants in the garden to curtains, everything just was slightly off. I have had 3 houses and it is the only one I have known like it.

chunkychoos · 20/02/2026 22:02

Yes, even though I have always rented. I’ve lived in 4 houses in 29 years. I have always taught my children that it doesn’t matter what house we live in - home is where WE are

enok · 20/02/2026 22:04

No hate my house

danij5873 · 20/02/2026 22:08

I absolutely adore our house, it’s completely home. I’m not too crazy about the town we live in so we might move in future but I’m just not sure I could leave this house! It also makes me feel really weird thinking about anyone else living there?! (It’s a new build)

hididdlyho · 20/02/2026 22:11

Sort of does. It was the first house we bought and we've improved it a lot of the decade we've been here. It was always meant to be a foot on the ladder though, so we've been mindful about not spending too much on home improvements. There's enough things I don't like about this house (downstairs bathroom, no hallway and an overlooked garden) that I don't think I'll miss it too much when we move on.

AWedgeOfLemonAndASmartAnswerForEverything · 20/02/2026 22:13

Yes, this house is my Howard's End.

MadisonAvenue · 20/02/2026 22:31

Yes, definitely. We’ve only lived here since October and it’s a new build but it felt like home as soon as we moved in.

Every house we’ve lived in has felt like home though, and before moving I’ve always worried that it would be a huge wrench to leave. My husband has always been the one who wanted to move and I’ve had to be persuaded.

I’ve only once felt homesick for one of the houses and that was around 8 years after moving, we happened to walk past the house one night and I suddenly really missed living there. Oddly it was a 1930s semi with two decent bedrooms, a box room and one very small bathroom and it had been a money pit so not a dream home by any stretch of the imagination and we’d moved from there to a spacious three storey new build.

Our new house feels like it was supposed to be ours. Our son bought a house just around the corner and we saw this house being built, it’s on a private drive of three houses and we particularly liked the position of this house. Unfortunately we saw the sold sign appear before we had an offer on our house. There was another on the development that we quite liked though so when we accepted an offer we immediately called to enquire, only to be told that it had sold the previous day but the sales advisor said that a sale had just fallen through on another house and it turned out to be the house we’d been coveting. We were cash buyers and our buyer was also a cash buyer and she was living in rented accommodation and was keen to move ASAP so we completed six weeks later.

Tumbleweed101 · 20/02/2026 22:32

I've lived in my house over 20 years and still see my childhood home as my home rather than this one.

However, thinking of downsizing and since I've been looking at other houses I'm finding they aren't matching up to where I am now (i'd be doing a council exchange, for context). It's as if it has made me finally realise this is my home.

The main reasons I think I've struggled to consider this home is that we did a lot of private rental moves before this one so part of me felt like each house was temporary. I split with my ex and had to raise my children here alone so it was 'our' house before it became 'my' house. My dad is still living in my childhood home and it still feel familiar as soon as I walk through the door. But I hadn't considered, until one of my adult children made a chance comment, that my children feel the same about this house. My youngest two were born literally in the house so they have only ever known living here.

LibertyLily · 20/02/2026 23:17

No, it doesn't.

We sold the first of only two houses that have felt like home to me back in 2007. It was a gorgeous 6 bed Victorian detached house on the south coast that we'd put everything into restoring (DIY) from several rundown flats/bedsits. It was in the perfect location and everything about it was exactly how we wanted it - but at 3500 sq ft it was way too large for us.

I pined for that house through the next two we owned and renovated. They both lovely in their own way - one was Tudor, the other a semi-rural Georgian thatched with 0.3 acre garden - but I never had that feeling of being at home in either.

Then, in 2014, we found a stunning detached mid Victorian three-storey cottage with an Arts and Crafts extension up in the Midlands. Despite having been empty for years and needing a ton of work, I felt like I was home from the first moment we viewed it. The garden - although neglected - had superb bones and the house itself was full of original features. We collected Art Nouveau and Arts & Crafts furniture etc back then and I had visions of creating the perfect backdrop for our stuff. Sadly my dad had just died, then - three months after purchasing 'the dream home', my mum died too and our business also began failing. We struggled on for a while, stripping the house back (it was a forest of woodchip wallpaper), prepping it for rewiring, new kitchen etc, but eventually we realised we'd have to sell and made a loss when we did. Coming on top of everything else, I was heartbroken particularly as it's the one house we never finished renovating - I still feel I let the place down.

On the rebound we bought a little detached mill in Wales that had been repossessed. Yet again we put everything into making it a beautiful home, but our hearts weren't in it. Despite this, we lasted six years, during which time we created a 0.5 acre garden from scratch, as well as completely reconfiguring the layout of the house. By late 2023 we couldn't wait to sell and knew that we should start thinking about moving home to the south of England. Of course this meant potentially downsizing as we'd never get as much house for our money as we had in Wales.

Whilst we were in the process of selling/buying, our old Midlands house came onto the market again and I was so sad as now we couldn't afford to buy it back.

The little West Sussex semi-detached Georgian cottage we eventually bought was a compromise (but it is two minutes walk from the seafront 😊) and I hated it from the moment I stepped inside, which didn't bode well! We're gradually putting all the character back and DH - who loves it - thinks he can persuade me to make this our 'forever' home, but he's wrong. Whilst I love everything we're doing, it still doesn't feel anything like home, nearly 18 months on, and I can't see that it ever will.

I think that became we don't stint when we renovate, we do end up with homes that are lovely (imo, obviously!), but if that spark isn't there, whatever we do will never make it feel like home. Fingers crossed for next time🤞

Autumnlife · 20/02/2026 23:21

I felt like this was home the day we moved to it in December 24. We’d lived in our previous house almost 30 years and sadly no matter what we did do it I never loved that house. Don’t get me wrong I had my kitchen done twice the second one I’d dreamed of. Since moving here we’re slowly changing everything and I’m putting my stamp on it which I’m finding fun making this house a home.

LibertyLily · 20/02/2026 23:25

Because not became 😆

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