Parenting is just one worry after another

[BlueOceanFish]

My children are teens now but it’s relentless worry. my current worries are:

• Illness that won’t shift - possible tonsils or glandular fever or who knows what. This is zapping their energy and they are just miserable
• worry about GCSEs - the stress, not getting results needed
• finding school hard and demanding and just being exhausted as a result
• not getting on with Dad who just wants to do a fun activity with one of them and they don’t want to

i know these aren’t massive but it’s the little draining things.

Im working long hours currently in a very stressful job. DH is running his own company.
i just don’t feel present. I wish I did not have to work!

No one tells you about the relentless worry!!!

Sprry a rather dull post but I can’t sleep. Just needed to put it down and see if anyone gets it.

I agree it is relentless. I have a GAD diagnosis so the worry is magnified tenfold. I have accepted the fact that I will always worry and try to make the most of the good bits.
A pp up thread said that we are told beforehand about the worry so should be prepared. In my experience, nothing can prepare you for the level of worry involved until you actually have children. I don't agree that we already know. All I ever heard was, how amazing being a mum is. And, yes, it is. But your life is never the same and the worries are part and parcel of that.

I miss the days when you could share your worries at baby group. Now there are just brief moments like this thread and some school events when you can have a chat and realise that everyone else is worried about the same stuff as you are.

Just had a vision of a mum's group for teens. Mums could chat about their fears of GCSE exams, underage drinking and teen relationships over cake and coffee, whilst the teens could sit on soft mats in the corner, gaming on their phones and looking surly.

I mean, there is a whole board on here covering 'teens'.

Plus, don't you naturally have friends with teens of their own by the time you have teens ?
From all sorts of areas - maybe your baby group gelled, or school friends' Mums, or other parents from sports teams or other hobbies they have done / that you've shared lifts with / that you've stood side by side on the touch-line or pool-side or wherever over the years, let alone siblings or old mates with similar age dc, or even colleagues or anywhere else you chat to people.