More and more i don't want to go out

[Nightshiner19]

Im F and 54. DH & DC

More and more I don't want to go out. Happy to go to friends/family houses - or them to mine - and the local pub occasionally, but other than that i'm just happy at home. I'll travel to go on holiday. I have to go to the office twice a week, which I dread.

There is always so much going on at home. This weekend for example ... the dc each had private tutors at home. I had a load of washing to do. We planned and booked our holiday, which took several hours. A food shop turned up.
I baked. We sorted out some plans for later this year. My PT came over. DC needed lifts .. and then it was sunday evening and I still haven't done everything I need to do.

Should I be worried but I don't want to go out as much ? Im leaving the house less and less lately

I'm the same, and yes it is an mn thing to want to say at home. I'm 66 and retired and I go stir crazy on days when the weather is so bad I can't go out. It's summer here atm and I go out several times a day. I don't need to have long conversations with people, but I like to say Hello to a few, or even just see others out and about. I'm off out for a long walk and a coffee out shortly.

Understandable, people are hard work and life is challenging.
I think it depends on the time of year also.

I feel differently in the Spring and Summer. In the winter when it's cold it's a bit of an effort to go out
Often if Im out in the winter I can't wait to get home.

I love being in. My BF is the opposite so she comes over to me.

When people say they like being in etc, are they including the garden in summer.

In the summer you can still be at home but out enjoying the sunshine. It's a nice thing to do and also if you don't go out what about fresh air?

I’m also the same, it’s not that I want to stay in all weekend, it’s just that I’m most happy doing nice day things like dog walks and lunch with my DH and feel like my evenings with him and my SD eating good food and sharing a mutually enjoyed tv show is my very happy place.
I have a few weekends with friends and other family and always enjoy it but it’s home with DH where I am happiest.

Yes. I hate to stay in all day. Every now and again a day nesting is nice, but not often. Maybe every couple of months.

Are you me ?! I could have written this

I only feel FOMO when we have a nice weather even though I have a garden it's so overlooked I don't enjoy being there id rather be in a park or stately garden.
I only go out due to DC really or I'd leave maybe once a month. I love online shopping and staying home.. outside lots of rude strangers, noise, pollution, diseases.

I have been quoted six times on this thread saying I like to be out and about. That makes me happy. I feel that mabe by my 70s and 80s circumstances may force me to stay in. I don’t want that to happen any sooner thanks. I’m still working and planning for and actively working towards a healthy and active retirement.

I’m 56 and enjoy doing stuff out of the home and then super enjoy being indoors afterwards. I like to go out one evening a week and the most I can do in is 13 evenings.

I find my mental health dips if I spend too long in the house. I need to get out, exercise & feel fresh air, but I appreciate that’s not the same for everyone.

It’s not a mumsnet thing, because mumsnet is always packed full of people saying “only on mumsnet!” in an eye-rolling way.

Those people don’t seem to realise they are also on mumsnet and are themselves part of the demographic. Logically there are all types of people here. You’ll also find similar threads on Reddit and videos on YouTube about people that don’t feel the pressure to be out all the time.

Lots of people like staying at home, lots of people like going out. That’s okay!

Imagine how much more crowded the world would be if we were all the same and hated staying in. It takes all sorts.

I tend to do something out of the house about once a month (aside from any appointments I might have). That’s enough for me. I see no point in going out just for the sake of it. Waste of time and often money! I have a lot of crafting hobbies, my garden takes a lot of work. Then general chores. Any DIY, decorating, home maintenance stuff etc. I have loads to do in the house. Also wfh, thankfully!

I actively avoid evenings out now though, although I did go to a gig last week. But generally if I’m going to do something it will be a daytime thing. I used to laugh at my mum for not wanting to go out after dark and now I’m the same 😂I like to be all done and relaxing in the evenings.

Don't give up hope. All the people I know in their 70s and 80s are out and about a lot. My late DF, who died at 89, had a busier social calendar than I did. My 81 year old neighbour and I were out walking for 90 minutes a couple of evenings ago, my friend in her 70s is hardly ever home.

I still like going out but I have become a brunch/lunch/matinee type person..I like people coming over for dinner but I'm not a massive fan of going out in the evening these days.

I definitely have less of a preference for being out and about than when I was younger but I still love being among people. I find them very interesting.

I think another reason for lurching towards day time trips when you get older is the driving at night reluctance. I know so many older people who went from an evening meal with friends to a lunch date .

Just be careful that you don't rely too much on your children and DH. Really important to not make them feel that their role is to keep you company.
I have had family members and friends in similar situation to you and they really struggled with "empty nest"syndrome. Particularly the two who's no longer had their DH around (1 death, 1 left).

I don’t mind going out if I need/want to, but I’m my mid 50’s I’ve realised that I love my home. I’ve got it the way I want it decoration wise, it’s cosy and I enjoy being here.
I had doubted myself in the past, looking at SM posts where people are gadding about and appearing to be having a fabulous time. But most of it is fake, and there’s nothing wrong with being where you want to be.

I’m the same. I like going out for coffee or lunch, but in the evening I want a shower and PJ’s, and to relax.

I agree with the thought it’s fine if that’s what you like. I love being at home but also I like to step out, but not all day or late nights. Smaller things such as brunch, seeing a movie or clothes shopping.

A friend of a friend is a single mum to 2 DD 20 & 22. They go to their dads eow. On the weekends they are at home, the mum expects them to do things with her. I see this as ''keeping her company''. If they are go out with their friends, unplanned, and leave the mum with no plans, because she was expecting to do something with them, she gets resentful. The mum has lots of friends, but cannot bear to be home alone, ever.