Accomodation cost for wedding

[MoominGang]

What would you do in this scenario? Our son is getting married in the UK. Bride to be is from here, we're not. A lot of our side of family will be flying in and will stay for a varied length of time around the wedding.
Traditionally in our country bride's family pays for the wedding and this includes one night's accomodation following the wedding.
They are organizing and paying for everything themselves and we offered to contribute too. They don't know about the accomodation rule.
I feel that our family might expect the this and we wonder if we just offer to contribute to their accomodation cost. I'm not wanting to book several rooms/ holiday homes for several nights as the cost would be huge. What else could we do to keep everyone happy?

Just to be clear, I don't expect my son, his fiance or her parents to pay, book or help with anything.
If we decide to go down this route, we'll be booking and paying for everything.
@stichguru thank you, this might not be an option for us but is the most helpful advice here.

I think if this is typical of your culture and you are generally not contributing to the cost of the wedding, then you find money to sort this out for everyone and you book it.

I’m not culturally British and it’s not typical in my home country to pay for accommodation, but when friends and family came to the UK for my wedding, my family got a holiday cottage and several friends and family stayed with them. They paid for their taxis and their meals. They also paid for the entire wedding too!

If this is important to your family, but not the cultural norm in the UK, you’ll need to find a way to pay for it. But also be quite clear that the rest of their travel costs are on them. You can’t be paying for everyone’s flights and 2 week holiday.

As they are marrying in the UK, they follow UK customs.

Historically, ie when I got married, the bride's parents paid for the reception, cars, flowers.

Nowadays, it is very common for the bride and groom to pay a large proportion themselves, so traditions are out of the window.

When both my DSs got married, they absolutely did not pay for anyone's accommodation, nor did either set of parents.

If you can't afford it, and they are unwilling to pay themselves, then they don't come!

Well you're going to have to explain to them all that their expectations are out of kilter from British tradition and culture. Sorry, but that's the only way you can go - unless you want to pay!

Are you worried that these family members will think you are tight-fisted? Or that the bride's family is tight-fisted? If you are, I very much doubt the bride's family will really care - far more likely to dismiss it as irrelevant, a foreign cultural quirk that has nothing to do with them. So - you're worried what these family members will think of you? Is that it?

Gretna Green is sounding attractive.

You are going to have to decide what you can afford in both time and money. Set a budget for both and let your international guests know what you will and will not be providing. They are under no obligation to make the trip.

if you do want to help with lodging, I would pick one hotel near the venue. Don’t over complicate things. Pick something clean and comfortable, but it does not need to be luxury. If they want something fancier or want to go with the scary super low budget place, it is on them to arrange.