Is it weird for DH to go to a wedding alone?

[Smoppender]

It's a colleague of DH's. I've never met the colleague or his partner. I've never met any of DH's colleagues.

DH feels he should go. I agree. I've offered to go with him. But the logistics are a bit of a shitshow. Its easier if I don't go. I'd prefer not to go.

How weird is it if DH shows up solo?

Edited to add: We've both been invited to day and evening bits

Not weird at all, especially for a work colleague!

Are you invited? I think it’s fine for a colleague. Will other colleagues be there?

Not at all. I presume you have been invited out of politeness since you don’t know either party, so the couple won’t mind. If your DH is happy to attend alone, it’s fine if he goes alone.

Perfectly normal for him to go alone if it’s someone you don’t know. If you don’t want to go, then don’t go. If he doesn’t want to go alone then he can decline the invitation.

DH and I often used to attend weddings solo, especially when the children were young and we could get babysitters. In fact, sometimes we still do if it's someone eg a work colleague of his, and he is likely to sit with a bunch of other colleagues. Don't think twice about it!

Not weird at all. Even if it was considered so by some people, in your position I wouldn't care.

Makes much more sense for him to go alone. Just make sure that's clear when you RSVP that he's going alone.

Why would it be weird?

Well you shouldn't be offering to go if you're not invited or he hasn't a plus one.

If he wants to he should. But you shouldn't press him to if he feels like he CBA and doesn't know them well enough.

Or just send a card and maybe a small gift or just politely decline it. It doesn't sound like they're his best mates.

I think for a family wedding, unless because of some dire circumstance, it would be odd, but not for a colleague.

I don't know 😅I guess I just always think of weddings as a couple thing

For a work colleague I’d say fine

But what about single people? 😂

I am invited 😂

I'm not pressing him to do anything. He's very close with this colleague so feels he should go.

Obviously I'll leave the card and gift to him.

What if you’re single? Been to plenty of weddings in my own. Always felt weird to bring a random plus one until I had a proper plus one!

It's fine and loads do it

Sorry, it didn't come out right

What I meant was that if you're part of a couple, you get invited as a couple and you go as a couple.

No couples aren't joint at the hip they can do there own thing especially when you wouldn't know anyone and he will be with his work colleagues. Wouldn't you still go if it was your colleagues/friends and your partner couldn't

It's fine, no one will bat an eyelid.

Dh went to a few workmates weddings alone, sometimes we couldn't get babysitters other times it was just a group from work, it is fine.

We are invited to a wedding in the summer and i don't know a soul and the other work group are younger than us i am not really looking forward to it, but said i would go with Dh

You don’t get in!!

Not even vaguely weird. Weird you would think it's weird.

Thanks all.

It's weird you think it's weird

Only on MN have I ever seen the idea that people in couples should always go to weddings together. In my experience a wedding of a work colleague is nearly always a single invite and a group of colleagues hang out together. Or if the marrying couple only know one of you it’s fine for them to invite just that one person as an individual

It's not weird at all - plus ones of work colleagues are often not even invited.