Is it weird for DH to go to a wedding alone?

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It's a colleague of DH's. I've never met the colleague or his partner. I've never met any of DH's colleagues.

DH feels he should go. I agree. I've offered to go with him. But the logistics are a bit of a shitshow. Its easier if I don't go. I'd prefer not to go.

How weird is it if DH shows up solo?

Edited to add: We've both been invited to day and evening bits

Ok cool. In that case I guess if you would quite like to go and you have an invite then say so.

Is it that he doesn't want to at all, or he'd rather go alone?

It's perfectly normal to go alone to a work colleague's wedding. Don't overthink it.

These days with the popularity of childfree weddings my husband and I haven’t been able to attend a wedding together for 4 years! Whoever is closest to the couple getting married gets to go

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Same as people who don’t go to the cinema or cafe alone.

Perfectly normal especially when one person doesn’t know the bride or groom, or else one parent needs to look after children.

Genuinely lost count of how many things like this DH have done separately now. We've maintained our own sense of self, own colleagues, own friends, as well as many wonderful joint things. He also loves to party and stay up late whereas I don't, so even if we went together we'd probably leave separately. Really don't think being married means you need to be attending everything together all the time. Though many others seem to have that impression.

Of course it isn't weird. I'm skipping a childfree wedding on a Friday.

It's my husband's godsister, and my MIL is outraged that I'm not treating it as the social occasion of the year and neither is my husband. She keeps pushing him to book accommodation, but I might be post-surgery too, and we aren't even booking a holiday.

Life is a LOT easier when you learn to listen to your own wants and act accordingly when it comes to optional socialising.

Perfectly fine.

A lot of single people attend weddings too! I don’t think it would be weird at all, I doubt anyone would notice.

For everyone saying what if you're single, I don't think its odd or go without "a" partner, I do think at most weddings it would be unusual not to go with your DH, if you have one, and assuming no complicated circumstances meaning it's not possible.

Not odd for a colleague's wedding. .

Well I’ve always gone to weddings on my own. Why would it be weird? I thought weddings were great for meeting future partners so plenty must go solo.

It’s not weird at all.

I've been to plenty of weddings where I've been in a relationship and they've only invited me, especially when it's someone like a colleague that DP barely knows.

so single people should never go to their friends or family members weddings?
Nice...

There's a thread going at the moment about co-dependent couples, might be worth you looking at! Personally I can't think of anything more boring than going to DP's work parties, I barely get the chance to see my own friends/colleagues, why would I want to waste my precious free time with people I've never met?

normal for us, we’ve both done it once or twice over the years.
I went to a colleagues wedding last year, dh has met a couple of people I work with in passing but none of those people were even going. He’s not mega sociable with new people, he wouldn’t have enjoyed it and I would have felt responsible making sure he was ‘having a good time’ (which he wouldn’t have been 🤣). Much easier for all concerned for him to stay at home. My colleague who was getting married and his wife would have been charming and polite to him but I daresay it didn’t detract from their special day that he wasn’t there!

Not even a little bit weird

I went to a colleagues wedding with out my DH. I'd say its fine

Not remotely weird

If its a colleague then there'll be loads of work people there that your dh knows and likes, and you probably don't. I'd say no for myself even if I could go, he'll have more fun without you, with his work mates and you won't have to make small talk with strangers. Sounds ideal! During covid we went to loads of weddings alone as there was such a tight attendance number, think maybe 30, so it was just the person we each were friends with who got the invite - it was actually way better as it was just close friends (I thought!) Let him go have fun with all his friends from work and don't stress at all about it.

It’s fine, Dh has gone to many weddings alone. Some when I’ve been away. Some that were childfree. I’ve also gone to one or two when we didn’t have childcare and it was too much of a hassle and neither of us wanted to go all that much.

Definitely not weird. I would feel the same. I would t want to go if I knew nobody. Tell him to go alone

I'm going to a wedding in a couple of months alone. Well, me and a friend are being each others dates, leaving the husbands and kids at home

It was logistically simpler that way. Plus our husbands would know no one. I hate weddings knowing no one.

Of course it isn't weird. Loads of people go to weddings on their own. I have.

What is weird is you offering to go when you don't want to. I made that mistake once when one of DH's work colleagues, who I didn't know at all, was getting married. Never again. It was awful. There were a couple of subsequent invitations in later years, but I didn't make that mistake again.

He accepts his part of the invitation if he wants to go, you decline yours. That's all there is to it.

Thanks, this articulates what I mean.

I wasn't at all intending to apply that single people shouldn't go to weddings 🙄Or that me and DP are co-dependent what the actual fuck😑

I meant that I thought it'd be unusual for someone in a couple to go to a wedding solo. In other words, if there is a partner, then I thought the assumption was that you went with that partner. I was checking whether this was also the case for colleagues weddings.

There'll be lots of DP's colleagues there but all with their partners because they live close and colleagues and partners all know each other, and hang out together outside of work. I'm the only partner who isn't in the 'group' which is made up of the colleagues and their partners and kids in some cases.