Would you prefer to stay at a friend's house or a hotel?

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Ive got an old friend who is in town for work and asked can she stay at ours.
She has plenty of money.

I really dont want her to stay. I dont like having visitors. Im embarrassed about state of our house. Ill have to do a massive clean/clear out of spare bedroom and tidy whole house on a weekday.
Im v happy to meet her but dont understand why anyone would want to stay in someone else's house if money isnt a factor.

I hate staying over at people's houses and would always choose a hotel if I could.

Is it just preference maybe?
DH thinks some people think its rude to stay in a hotel when they could stay with friends/relatives?

Hotel for me. But in my husbands culture they find it really insulting if you don't stay at their house or let them stay at yours. They even expected to stay with us when I was due to give birth! We live in a 1 bedroom flat so they would be on a sofa bed (it was a firm no!).

I hate staying in other people's houses, particularly if you are having to share a bathroom. I'd far rather stay in a hotel.

Hotel all the way. I only stay at my dads and occasionally my siblings houses. I just want my own space. 30 years ago l would sleep anywhere, floors, sofas ect. Far to old for that now.
We dont really have a spare room so everyone apart from my adult children stay in hotels when they vist. I will happily pay if they cant.

I like having people to stay - and I’d happily stay at a friend’s house if they were up for that. I’d prefer that to a hotel. Wouldn’t want to put them out though!

If someone asks to stay, it’s always an option to … say no 😂

I don’t mind friends staying - as long as they’re not fussy types, but always prefer to stay in a hotel - independence and our own bathroom! Over 🎄dh and I stayed for 4 nights in a P Inn close to relatives who’d have had room for us - but no en-suite.

Exactly. I've had people ask if they can stay because we are near the Channel Tunnel and it's handy to be able to make a really early start and not considered it rude at all. I get to see some friends I don't often and they get a relaxed evening with food. Win all round.

Same way I've got in touch with people if I have other plans in their area and asked if they fancy a catch-up and if it's OK to stay.

I didn't realise so many people were that uncomfortable around their own friends

Hotel - I want to be able to use the bathroom when I want to, not to be waiting around in my dressing gown waiting for it to be convenient for me to take a shower. I want to have breakfast when I want and choose what to eat. I like my own space and freedom to go to bed when I want, watch what I want on TV etc.

Hotel every time. I like my friends but I don't want to share a bathroom with them.

Hotel. I snore.

What is this obsession with bathrooms?

In the scenario you describe: hotel!

Going specifically to see a friend: stay with them as we will likely stay up very late and it’s nice to spend maximum time together, see their partner and/or DC

I hate staying at people’s houses and o hate people staying at mine. I’d have to refuse under some excuse.

She has plenty of money

I guess you just found out why. People who are loaded are often reluctant to part with it.

House generally although it does depend a bit who it is. I like staying with people and having people stay here, it's lovely to be able to spend a bit of extended time with friends instead of a few short hours out for an evening and then having to travel. I don't expect a spotless house and my friends don't expect one here. While I don't mind travelling alone and doing my own thing in the daytime I'd rather be with other people in the evening and would rather that was friends than sitting in a hotel bar (or worse room) on my own.

I'm with you op I like my own space either as a guest or a visitor .

I love having friends stay! But if they’re in my city for work they come for dinner and a casual / homey evening then go to their (work funded) hotel to sleep and get up for work in the morning. I barely like my own family on weekday mornings - no one extra please! Or friends will stay with us for an “extra” night at the weekend after a work trip to our city, but we’re inviting them.

Just say you’re busy so she can’t stay but you’d love to meet for a meal. I always prefer a hotel - much more relaxing.

I hate staying with others or having people to stay. I’d much rather stay in a hotel and have some privacy and down time, and feel like I’m not intruding. I wouid not be offended to be asked.

Totally depends on how close a friend. I have a few where I'd far rather stay with them, stay up late nattering with wine, tea and toast in the morning in pj's. Apart from those few very close friends, I'd prefer a hotel.

I'd rather stay in a hotel as I like my own space.

Just say no. It's better for your friendship to do that than have her over and resent it.

I’d much prefer hotel or air bnb.

I’m having the same issue with a very old friend who’s been requesting to stay at ours. We’ve hardly seen them in 30 years but they “fancy a catch up and a trip down memory lane”. I made one excuse after the other instead of being a grown up and just saying “sorry, no can do” and they thankfully booked a bnb!

Hotel!!!

Money is no issue for me but I love staying at friends houses, I always take them out for dinner as a thank you and buy a gift which combined costs as much as a hotel room.

I have always loved having guests and enjoy hosting, when the children were still at school ours was the open house with food on offer. Especially when they were teens. The conservatory was used as a sitting room as it had a sofa and they used to play games in there, chat and just hang out.

I would prefer staying in a flat myself and on the night I am due to meet a friend I would suggest order a delivered takeaway meal .Your friend can bring her favourite drink with her and like you, I don't drink so would have a nice bottle of juice.