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My car died and I’m devastated - hand hold please

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whyyyyyisitmonddayy · 23/01/2026 17:30

I’m being so ridiculous but keep in mind I’ve got a really bad kidney infection so I’m in a lot of pain. I can hardly walk.

My car died. Clutch went. It was a landrover nearing 20, had a name (from previous owner - on paperwork) and it was falling apart. It was my first car and gifted to me by my mum who had it for six years. She was a tricky thing to drive but she took me everywhere.

she was my freedom. I’m 21 and a student. I’d gone car camping in her. I did delivery driving from her. Saved my ass while hydroplaning, going through flood water, etc. I spent 100s of hours behind the Wheel. Getting drive through food by myself and parking up for some quiet. I’d repaired her road size and put away money to repair her failing turbo (her clutch went first and it was far too expensive to fix). I’d gone on holiday in her, slept in the back, she dropped my bags of for other holidays. Hell, she even dropped me off at school, at college, at uni…

I defended her when my boyfriend rightly told me she was a hunk of junk who needed to be scraped. She did. But I still cried when she broke down after her torque went.

im lucky enough im able to get another car but nothing is catching my eye. My life is falling apart and im barely holding it together already. And now my sweet old car is gone. it’s silly, but I loved the way she felt to drive. Terrible MPG though. I took such good care of her too.

OP posts:
blackheartsgirl · 31/01/2026 12:31

Oh op I do get it. I was really upset when my old mondeo had to be scrapped a few years back l, it had belonged to my late dh and I felt at the time it was another link to him gone.

I don’t take offence at you using the word devastated in your thread title, I’ve had some serious significant loss in my life the past 4 years, my husband, my aunt, my mum, my 2 dogs within 2 weeks of each other last year and I understand that loss is a totally personal thing whether it’s a human, animal or otherwise.

you are probably really struggling with your emotions with many different things at the moment and it’s all been projected into your car, I get really attached to things as well.

brightnails · 31/01/2026 16:52

whyyyyyisitmonddayy · 31/01/2026 10:51

It’s not just my gearbox, though. It’s my torque converter, my turbo, my rear diff, the window motor, rear windscreen wiper, locks, electrical wiring, and a leaking sun roof. And a few other things.

it’s a freelander 2 - and an early one. Known for these exact mechanical failures and on the “avoid” list of years to buy. I’m not fixing it because it’s triple the value of the car.

👍🏽

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