Forgetting about brooklyn for a second, have you ever had to go no contact with any family members? How did they go for you?

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Did you reconcile or was it the best thing you did

I've ben tempted to many times but I don't want to lose contact with other family members, so I suck it up ATM plus the person is elderly so I suppose I've gone low contact and distant
Shame but happier that way

Not spoken to my sister in 5 years and never plan to again. Im happy with my decision.

I've been no contact with my dad for 17 years. I've never been tempted to break the non-contact, I have no desire for him to be involved in my DD's life so it's not been a difficult choice for me. I believe my DB has some contact with him and I've requested he doesn't mention me or DD. He knows DD exists but nothing about her and that's the way I'd rather it stayed. He was not a good father.

It really drives me mad when people blame the victims of abuse all the time, saying you've only got one mum etc
That doesn't happen in any other circumstances
People don't say oh your husband beats you,or controls you or whatever, oh well he's your family
But family your expected to suck up abuse by alot of people

No-one ever runs from love warmth and support do they

I haven't spoken to my sister for 14 years. She treated me like dirt growing up and it didn't change when we became adults. I just decided not to put up with it anymore and haven't looked back.

We are a blended family with now elderly parents . I know it won’t be long now until I can break all contact with that side of my non family but until that day my sister insists we are one happy family . Which is as far from the truth as I can imagine . I cannot believe I am still putting up with it

This year will be the 10 year anniversary of when I went NC with a parent. Hands down the best decision of my life.

My sister went NC with me a few years back and DH and I were delighted. I had wanted to do it for years and had gone LC but if I had done it, all hell would have broken loose for my parents.

My adult children are NC with me. Sided with their father following divorce. I am relieved. It has been a humiliating period.

I went NC with an abusive parent on order to protect my DC.

Don't regret it, but their sudden and untimely death has been incredibly difficult as had hoped for the chance of reconciliation once dc were adults.

Would choose the same again, but it still haunts me.

I went non contact for 3 years. Fortunately for me my brother did a lot of work in that time and redefined the family dynamic. I am happy to be back in the fold but it would not have been possible without the break. I did a lot of work in that time on my own boundaries and managing my expectations.
I wasn’t sure it would ever be possible for me but it was.

Went NC with my mum 14 years ago.She is dead now.I didn't attend the funeral and didn't cry.Sounds awful but she walked out on me when I was 13 and she caused so many problems in my life.I had grieved for her many times before she died.
Went NC with my Dad after he was convicted of child sexual assault.He died alone , still my Dad and the grief was very complex.
Went no contact with my narcissist sister ...yesterday.After lies she has told came to light which have had the most devastating affect on people in her life.The worst imaginable.
I'm actually a sane, kind person with a lovely husband and children.Anyone who knows me and my parents/sister completely gets it.
I have only felt I had no choice to protect my own children from them.

Both my brother and I were NC with my mother for 23 years until her death. She was a vicious alcoholic with MH issues. We did not see her but we did pay for her care home. Zero regrets. We were all relieved when she passed.

2.5 years since I had contact with my dad. It was a drip of behaviour towards me escalating in a big argument. He makes no effort with DS(12) beyond sending him a cheque twice a year. No regrets.

I am 54 and haven’t seen or spoken to my father since I was 16. I just cut him out of my life. If I had been in a position to do the same with my mother I would have done. My mother is now dead and has been for 20 years. My father I don’t know.

I went NC with my DM about 8 years before she died; really it should have happened many years before due to the way she treated me in terms of emotional neglect/abuse growing up.

She died nearly two years ago and I didn’t attend the funeral or see her in the hospital, and for that I have been cast out of both sides of my family pretty much. My DF has been bad-mouthing me to his family so that most have cut me off, and of my DM’s family only an aunt will speak to me, but I also find her to be a bit of a flying monkey so I hold her at arms length.

People might be all tea and sympathy for the likes of Brooklyn Beckham, but back in the real world they judge harshly those who stand their ground against their parents. Believe me, I’ve found that out the hard way and combined with complex grief emotions I have never felt so alone and disliked in my life.

My advice would be to do what feels right for you with being NC, but be very circumspect about who you tell about it. The more people that know, the more they will gossip and judge.

I went NC with DH'S adult daughter earlier this year. It took her a while to realise it was serious. DH received a deranged email, when she found I had blocked her. I think he answered it and told her why, but so far no reaction. And I don't give a toss! Thirty years of treating me like scum, then she did something unforgivable. DH warbled on about if she said sorry we could go back to normal. Yeah, right, love that. But not this time.

NC with abusive parents for 15 years. My mother has told others her own version of why, she even told people I was SA by my grandad and therefore have “issues.” Says I refuse to forgive her even though it wasn’t her fault.

for the record, that never bloody happened ! But she doesn’t like my grandad either so that works in her favour too. She always makes herself the victim of some higher evil, so never takes any responsibility. Should tell you everything you need to know about why I will never let her anywhere near me again. Nothing is off limits to lie about so long as it works for the spin she’s putting on things. Also spoke often about how she had cancer. A cancer survivor she’d always say, she beat it in her early 20’s. Took me years to find out she only had some pre cancerous cells lasered.

Best decision I ever made.

Over 20 years estranged from a parent and I will never look back. I feel small bouts of envy when I see other people’s relationships with their parents but that just wasn’t meant to me for me. My parent has made no effort to contact me for reconciliation. Not even through some major (good and bad) life events.
I also hate when people throw around “you only get one mum/dad”. Yeah, and some of them should never have been given that title on the first place. Blood means naff all.

My mum has cut off one of her nieces. She’s not particularly bothered if other people are in contact with her but doesn’t want to hear about it and will shut down conversations.

The crime committed (and it was a crime) wasn’t personal but my mum has very strong views on it.

I've been no contact with my dad since around 2011. He's missed my wedding and my 2 children have never met him. Very minimal contact with my older brother.

I’m NC with my Dad although slightly different as we’ve never been ‘high contact’ after he left when I was a newborn. There was some attempt at reconciliation when I was late teens but I just didn’t give a f about him and his bullshit excuses so I walked away. I have built a good relationship with my half-brother and we see each other fairly regularly, but there is an understanding that I don’t want to hear about ‘his’ Dad and I don’t want ‘his’ Dad hearing anything about me, which he fully respects.

I’m NC with my dad because the only thing he saw as a reason to contact me was to try to get my mum back. Every time he got drunk that was all he talked about. He didn’t know anything about me and didn’t care to know.

Totally with you. People who haven’t been through it have no idea.

I’ve had NC with my dad now for 8years, he sucked the life out of me since my parents split when I was about 6yr old. He wouldn’t drop me and my siblings outside our own house so made us walk down the street, he’d take me to football games ( I hated football ) never listen to me, never supported me, after he had a very serious life threatening operation, I’d had enough! We had a fall out and I haven’t spoken to him since. My brothers sees him but me and my sister don’t. That’s the hardest bit about it all as it can cause arguments between us siblings which is so unfair. I just don’t talk about him now. I’m happy with my decision but my husband sees it so differently, he was bought up Jehovah, got kicked out of home at 17 and doesn’t ( I should say isn’t allowed contact ) have contact with his mother. He wants to so bad and loves her so much. If it’s something someone is deciding to do I can tell you now it’s not an easy decision it’s hurts a lot but if it means protecting yourself and family then people need to support that.

good luck op.

I am the fifth of six siblings. I think we only served to enslave my mother and as a weird status symbol for my father, because neither of my parents actually like children. The only one of my siblings who I would say is normal is my younger brother - he was the only one who got at least my mother's love and attention, probably because she could finally see light at the end of the tunnel.

I pretty much checked out of my family when I was 11. Nobody noticed.😄