Are you having enough fun in life?

[Sundriessundries]

I just watched something on tv that triggered this thought in me. It made me think I’m ’optimising’ so much of my life (trying to be healthier, happier, calmer etc), but I don’t know how often I’m having fun.
Feel a bit shocked that I haven’t prioritised this tbh.

Define fun.

I'm having fun keeping healthy, shopping for and cooking healthy foods, going for hikes, yoga and exercising to keep fit. Spending time meditating reading and having down time. Travelling and seeing exotic places.
Meeting people and having conversations, coffees, brunches and lunches. Isn't that all fun?

What did tot watch? I feel like life is such a grind and the world is so backwards the fun moments are fleeting.

Just a random sitcom with a dad giving advice (bit cliched) to have more fun but it just made me stop and think.
I think I see a difference between stuff I do which is ostensibly enjoyable but not actually fun…. Like what do I do that’s really joyful and genuinely fun?!

I hear this! I enjoy lots of things, but fun is different to me. Fun is freewheeling down a hill on a bike, the big flume at Center Parcs and rollercoasters. They are all FUN. I love gardens, hiking, reading, TV, seeing friends and family, but it's different.

I think so. The big flume at centreparcs makes me panic personally but I have fun with friends, with my kids, with my husband, AND at work, which is all a hell of a lot more than a lot of people can say.

I think so. Depending on how you define fun.

I have a fun job and a fun hobby. My friends are fun to be around. My family are generally fun to be around. The media I consume is fun.

But I think you could easily look into my life and say that it is in fact not fun, boring even. But it's fun to me.

I have lots of fun 😁 live music and binge drinking are the main things plus I have loads of fun at work because I work with amazing people. We can laugh at anything 😊

I think maybe I’m not a very fun person… but hard to know whether at this late ish stage in life it’s better to be myself or try and be more fun?

Fun to who though? As long as you’re having a nice time, who cares? :)

I feel the same way. I feel okay most of the time, but rarely really laugh or feel excited anymore.

I've realised most of my time is taken with work, chores, admin, practicalities of life, and even the 'fun' stuff isn't always actually fun eg day trips with kids etc.

Not actually sure how to introduce more laughs though...

I'm enjoying Traitors. That's fun. 😊 And in Jan that counts for double.

I think fun to - and for - myself… throw your head back laughing type fun… can’t think of when that last happened?!

Yes this is me 100%. It definitely contributes that a lot is structured around what the kids enjoy.

I know exactly what you mean - I tend to pursue things that are for self-improvement, exercise, learning skills, and while there might be moments of fun, that’s not the objective!

I try and clock things that are purely fun for me and add them in. So playing on my paddleboard with my DH - fun. Going to a good theme park - sheer fun. Trying something random like axe-throwing - fun.

It might not have been for a long time, and I am also a naturally serious person, but can you think of times when you have felt that lightness?

My fun (dancing all night, playing and watching sport, taking some fun drugs, having sex, playing games, going to comedy/theatre nights, trips away to new places, going to parties, gardening, singing in a choir) would be other people's idea of hell.
My mum's perfect fun day would be stating at paintings for hours at the national gallery. It would.not be fun for me.
I think seeking pleasure and fun insmall.and large doses is essential.to living a full life.

As well as typing with my glasses to ensure I add lots of random fullstops. That is definitely.fun.

I know what you mean OP. Some things are enjoyable and some are exhilarating.
The things I’ve done over the last year that I would say are ‘fun’ are Skiing, messing in the snow with youngest DS, music festivals, nights out dancing with friends, playing music together with DH and DC, doing a beach sauna with a cold water swim with friends, body boarding and playing pickleball. So I think I am lucky enough to have quite a lot of fun - like you I keep fit and healthy to optimise my life but I don’t necessarily define exercise for the sake of exercise as fun - just necessary and sometimes enjoyable.

I think so , I like to meet ip
with friends every week and we have a good laugh. I eat out, travel, go on lots of days out and trips to the cinema which are all fun for me.
My aqua aerobics classes are also fun.
I don’t have too much drudge in my life.

No I am not. I'm 64 work full time in an exhausting NHS job and i've become too tired to see friends, go to my usual clubs or do anything but sleep.
I'm pissed off with it. Maybe I need another iron transfusion.

Week off this week and crap year last year do I made it a point to hit the new year running so I went to see a friend, brought the dog to a far away park, visited an art gallery and tomorrow and driving home to see my mum and take her out. Am going to make the kids take part in a board game night tonight too so yes, for the first time in a long time I actually feel like I can say life is fun at the mo!!!

This is really interesting because I don’t feel I laugh hard much at all anymore. When I do it’s generally with my children. Occasionally with friends but that’s not as often due to my little spare time being spent with kids. I too am not sure how to fit/add more fun in when I don’t have much spare time and can’t really force mates to catch up more.

Nope.

I really thrive on spontaneity and I have two primary age children. Obviously their needs come first but I’m really not having a lot of fun at this stage in my life.

I probably have one day a month where I feel like I’ve had “fun” in the sense that I think of it - where I’m really happy, really enjoying whatever I’m doing (whether it be work or leisure) and really thriving on the company of those around me.

Can you go part time or retire? Too exhausted to enjoy life is not good for anyone, especially once you’re in sixties etc!

For me, fun really means meeting up with my friends. (Or with DH solo, but we never really get to do that.) I do try to prioritise it and probably manage it about once a fortnight, even if it’s just grabbing lunch with a friend on a day we’re both working in London.

If fun means doing specific activities like going to the cinema, rock climbing, clubbing, a spa day, then no. I basically don’t ever do anything. I just meet friends for a drink or lunch or coffee.

Sadly no, thanks to my husband of 20 years running off with someone I have a new mortgage which I have another 3 years to pay off. Ungrateful swine, he had a great life with me and he said to me recently he wishes he's stayed because his life is shit now. So I blocked him on everything. He isn't coming back after turning my life upside down.
I'll get over it, I have a feeling I'm anaemic again, I pay for private iron transfusions because the pills don't work on me.I usually feel fine again 2 weeks after having one.