Wrinkles...do you care about comments

[whatisforteamum]

I'm late 50s and a size 10/12.Slim but not skinny.Ive aged facially from 55.
I'm focused on health so exercise yet people comment on my weight and wrinkles.
I would never mention it and while I would prefer to not have them I feel some people are so shallow to think that is the be all and end all and something to deal with.
My DM never really had any as she was a dress size 24 and dealt with many I'll health issues due to her size.
Do you care about wrinkles at almost 60.?

How many people are commenting on wrinkles?! This is so rude. I hope you tell them that. No-one should be saying this to you. Ever!

Who is commenting? That's such a weird thing to do.

I don't think I'd care. I don't care enough to do anything about skincare so I'm not sure anyone else's opinion would factor but it's still incredibly rude of them to comment.

What do you mean they comment on your weight and wrinkles? What do they say? I can’t imagine anyone commenting on mine! I mean do that say ‘gosh you have lovely skin hardly any wrinkles and I envy your figure’ or more like ‘Gosh you’re getting quite crinkly there maybe a few added pounds will smooth it out’?!?

This was my first thought too! What on earth is the matter with these people? If they're commenting negatively on any aspect of your appearance, they're the ones with the problem, not you

And wrinkles are entirely normal

You appear to know some very rude people.

'Mummy, when you smile it looks like you have gills!'

Said my 5 year old.

Colleagues.Agree not nice.They also comment on hair/ colour/styles etc of myself or customers.
One is a bit older and admittedly less wrinkly.They appear to all get gel nails which is fine.
Clearly I'm clean ,physically fit, active person.
No one in my family has gone down the Botox ,surgery,fillers route.
I don't mind or care if people do as I think it's personal choice.

Andthatrightsoon bless them.

Tell them you also have manners.

Colleagues! I couldn't work somewhere like that. I had a rude neighbour who once commented on me having grey hair. Like he was really shocked by it.

Are you happy with your face? That's the key question.
If so, the rest of the world can jog on.

I would love a magic wand to rewind ten years otherwise I'm happy.
I hardly see them except when I put my makeup on.

I dont have many wrinkles, I wouldn't care if my face looked like a map.

But I'd definitely not go around telling others they have wrinkles.

This is something that I read about on MN but thankfully haven't come across irl: rude , ignorant people who think it's ok to comment on others appearance.

I would assume OP.they are jealous of your appearance and feel the need to bring you down to make themselves feel better.

If I were you I would be so exasperated I woukd be asking them who they think they are to criticise other people.

Honestly OP please don't pay any
attention. There is nothing wrong with you. But a lot wrong with them.

Well, you have several choices.

Tell them you find their comments rude and unnecessary.
ignore them.
Put weight on and hope it smooths out some of the wrinkles.
Go for procedures to smooth your face and you might like the results. On the other hand, you may look shiny, stretched, immobile and not like yourself.

I’d go for the first or second.

Thank you snowing
today.💜
I think perhaps they would like a slim body.My exercise regime is to prevent cancers and heart conditions that have plagued my family.
I wouldn't be focused on my older face.

I’ve never had anyone comment on my wrinkles!!!.
I love mine. Growing old is a privilege in my experience

Bloomchamp agreed

Genuinely do not care if I was having a normal conversation with friends about wrinkles (im alot younger than you with plenty of them). Obviously wouldn’t be nice for anyone to deliberately point out wrinkles, but nor is it nice for anyone to point out anything about someone else’s body (unless its a compliment ofcourse).

When you realise life is short, we have such limited time with our children, partners and family, fussing over wrinkles seems so irrelevant and shallow. Luckily in my group of friends everyone is far too interested in enjoying our get togethers, chatting about travel, work, kids, planning things ahead, to even care about wrinkles. We’ve stopped caring if photos look perfect before posting and just enjoy life.

Growing old is a privilege a young person in our family was denied (leaving a young child behind). Nothing would make me inject nasty stuff into my skin or stress over wrinkles. I embrace my wrinkles from enjoying life, holidays, juggling a family, a home, a job - that’s going to add alot of extra wrinkles every week! 😁

Where on earth do you work? I’m 54 and no one in my workplace comments on my wrinkles/ figure/ hair. How rude.

Bizarre behaviour from colleagues. Mine would never dream of saying anything like this.

I'm not even 40 and worry about wrinkles. Yes...I have Botox. However, I'm only conscious of my own wrinkles. I never even noticed anyone else's, and even if I did I wouldn't comment on it!

They are incredibly rude.
I would say something back.
Or just stare at their obvious lip fillers/roots/spots etc whenever we they make a comment about you.

Think it's quite sad if people comment like this. Wrinkles are a sign of a life well-lived, character, smiling etc. Pretty much everyone over a certain age will have some wrinkles-it does vary, but unless they spend a lot of time/money on surgery/injectables etc, they can't have a Kardashian face.

I can't imagine anyone ever commenting on something like this.

I am early 60s and very smooth-faced, but like your mother that is achieved by having lots of fat to fill out the lines. I think it is true that our age it's face or figure, and that most of us would choose to avoid the health implications of obesity. Head up, OP: your lines are your medals, showing that you are ageing healthily and well.