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Care to share the oddest thing house guests have done in your home this festive period?

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CharlieWeasleysWife · 01/01/2026 15:32

We've had many guests over the festive period and most have been an absolute delight. However, have just waved off a few of DHs friends and they:

Removed phone chargers and toiletries left in the guest room/bathroom and taken home

Used (a used!) dish cloth to wipe their face then replaced on the sink

Complained we won't allow scary/violent TV until our young children are in bed

WTF?

Edited for typos

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SquirrelFan · 03/01/2026 20:51

Dontlickthebin · 03/01/2026 14:17

  1. Brought an (unwrapped) Happy Meal gift as a present for DS

  2. Wiped his shoe clean with the jay cloth from the kitchen and put it back. When confronted replied with something along the lines of "But I want to look smart when I go out..."

(Different guests btw)

Omg I just remembered. My FIL was here for Christmas and had stepped into something gross outside. I walked into the kitchen to find him cleaning his shoes with a damp paper towel on the breadboard on the side.

HoppityBun · 03/01/2026 20:55

GreenSmithing · 03/01/2026 18:46

OK, the door handle. It was an honest mistake rather than an accident, and it wasn't at Christmas.

I live in a Victorian terrace which still has all the original interior doors and door furniture. It's also the style of house where one room leads into another.

A relative had an appointment in my city and came to stay while I was away on a work trip. They were on their own in the house. Like another poster's FIL they are quite heavy handed. In particular, and I had noticed this previously, they open doors by grabbing at the handle and kind of yanking. They don’t turn the handle all the way down.

I'm sure you can see where this is going...

It turns out that antique door handles don't deal very well with this type of treatment. Relative found themselves in my living room with the door mechanism completely jammed. At this point, they are in a pickle. They can leave by the front door, but they can't get into any other room in the house...

So they trot around and knock on all my neighbours' doors, until they find someone who they borrow a screwdriver from, then come back and unscrew everything from the door until eventually they get it open.

I came back a couple of days later to find the mechanism in bits on the coffee table, and no explanation of why.

Suffice to say the door has never stuck before or since, and I don't let them stay at mine on their own any more...

I have no strong feelings about flannels.

Thank you! I can now face 2026 with equanimity

HoppityBun · 03/01/2026 20:56

Blorengia · 03/01/2026 20:25

Yes. This is also the usual custom in the Middle East and Islamic custom.
The right hand is for eating, handling food, and social interactions like shaking hands.

As a child, I was told that it was because there could be no guarantee of clean water for washing

Ladybugheart · 03/01/2026 21:26

Witcherwitcher · 01/01/2026 16:03

Guilty. I’ve lived and worked in many different countries and households. All my host families laugh about how much loo roll I go through. My Mum and Dad too when I was a child. Also my DH! Unfortunately, my DC take after me! Loo roll eaters 😂

Yeah I'm terrible, seem to get through so so much.

mullers1977 · 03/01/2026 21:30

ManyPigeons · 02/01/2026 16:52

Every house I’ve ever stayed in… how else would people wash their face and take off their makeup? And you can’t take your own because then if you use it the morning you leave it’s wet in the suitcase.

Use one of the towels provided. It doesn't need to be for a specific body part.

MySilentLions · 03/01/2026 21:42

Festivespirit85 · 03/01/2026 19:29

Crikey! I do feel sorry for her, it must be hard for her.

Feel a lot more sorry for her kids living with that level of issues.

MySilentLions · 03/01/2026 21:43

OldBoldCold · 03/01/2026 19:33

I came down for breakfast, dressed as is the custom, in the PIL house. MIL looked at me and asked if that was what the dog had previously slept on.
And she genuinely meant it in a mean way that my bought carefully in the sales from upper end brands looked like the dog's Dunelm special blanket.

Well she’s a cunt isn’t she!

Liverpool52 · 03/01/2026 21:44

Qwerty21 · 03/01/2026 20:50

I've got to say if not one person ate a thing than you should consider if your home is clean and hygienic enough and how good your food hygiene is, I can't imagine not one person eating otherwise, sorry

Or people could just be arseholes.

Unpaidworkmakestheeconomytick · 03/01/2026 21:52

Zebedee999 · 03/01/2026 10:01

Had a guest take my brand new Apple charger (£30+ back in the day) and leave their manky non working one at mine in its place. I am still flabbergasted by that.

Just bought one, still thirty quid. $19 in the States translates to £14 here. Greedy bastards.

CarrieMoonbeams · 03/01/2026 21:54

@Gabitule @Hollyleaves I don't know why but I find it quite amusing really. She has got progressively weirder as the years have gone on, in that she gives me what my late mum would have called "backhanded compliments" but then tries to copy me later. This has been going on for the entire 35 years I've known her!

(This is in relation to my SIL poking her finger into my brand new facial cleanser - WHICH I DON'T USE WITH A FLANNEL - and having a scoosh of my perfumes.)

MaggieFS · 03/01/2026 21:57

Galatine · 03/01/2026 20:32

How do you remove your hosts door handle by mistake?

You’ve missed it!

Please read many entertaining posts about flannels. Or jump to 18:46.

Frankiejoy · 03/01/2026 22:27

My sil and her wife often stay. They are naturists and wander around nude all the time. I have to admit they are a better sight than mil when she stays. I still find it odd for siblings in their 40's to hve breakfast naked with their mother.

Differentforgirls · 03/01/2026 22:34

Zebedee999 · 03/01/2026 10:00

I ususally use soap/water/towel. But a flannel is good for a quick freshen up all over.

Imagine inviting guests for Christmas and they wouldn’t stop talking about flannels.

Lavagir1 · 03/01/2026 22:47

SquirrelFan · 03/01/2026 20:51

Omg I just remembered. My FIL was here for Christmas and had stepped into something gross outside. I walked into the kitchen to find him cleaning his shoes with a damp paper towel on the breadboard on the side.

🤢 I'd have had to burn that breadboard. Possibly the FIL too!

ILoveEllieKildunne · 03/01/2026 23:06

robinslittlehelper · 03/01/2026 19:28

My DS aged 5 came into the living room telling everyone he had cleaned his sister’s potty. Some time later I asked him what had he used to clean it . “Daddy’s face cloth “ came the reply .

Oh dearie me!!

CharlieWeasleysWife · 03/01/2026 23:20

Op here. Just back to say I've not managed to keep up with the flannel chat whatsoever, apologies, didn't realise it would raise this much feeling. Glad we got a conclusion on door-gate though.

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Dogaredabomb · 03/01/2026 23:28

We have always used several flannels a day each and have a massive stash.

If a towel gets very old and raggedy I cut it into disposable flannels for travelling. In case we encounter a no flannel emergency.

Flutterbees · 04/01/2026 00:05

I found an extended family member poking around in my medicine cupboard cobbling together a random assortment of probiotic tablets, herbal stomach tablets and herbal IBS drops, with which she proceeded to make a ‘tea’ by putting boiling water in a cup and tossing the random assortment in. I was speechless…(a) that she’d poked around in my medicine box, (b) that she’d helped herself, and (c) that she thought she could mix and match what she wanted and make herself a healthy drink! Apparently (according to another family member) she thought she had a UTI coming on and wanted to try to head it off (one of the medicines had cranberry in it). Weird!

Flutterbees · 04/01/2026 00:18

Also, I never use a flannel and do not provide them for guests. I travel a lot and can’t remember the last time I saw a flannel in a hotel room. Even if I saw one, I wouldn’t use it and I’d never use it on my face (could have been used to wash someone’s butt!). For those who query face washing in the absence of a face washer…I wash my face morning and night - in the morning I wash in the shower, at night I use a cleanser and wash/rinse my face off over the sink before patting it dry with my towel.
Hope that helps!

Dogaredabomb · 04/01/2026 00:19

Unfortunately I was a very bad guest once and accidentally pissed in the corner of the bedroom.

I was 13 and was staying with my parents at my mum's childhood friend's house. They hadn't seen each other for 20 years and we'd flown to Canada to stay with them.

They gave me their son's room which was a very small single and had an electric keyboard right up against one side of the bed. Which created a little square of carpet in between the head of the bed, the wall and the keyboard.

I woke up in the night utterly desperate for a pee and very confused got out of the bed on the wrong side and ended up in the little square.

It was too late, I had started to pee and didn't think I should crawl over the bed to get to the toilet so I had to stand there and do the most enormous piss of my life on my mum's friend's shagpile carpet.

I did not have the courage to confess so 🤷🏼‍♂️ thankfully they're all dead now.

Differentforgirls · 04/01/2026 00:25

Flutterbees · 04/01/2026 00:18

Also, I never use a flannel and do not provide them for guests. I travel a lot and can’t remember the last time I saw a flannel in a hotel room. Even if I saw one, I wouldn’t use it and I’d never use it on my face (could have been used to wash someone’s butt!). For those who query face washing in the absence of a face washer…I wash my face morning and night - in the morning I wash in the shower, at night I use a cleanser and wash/rinse my face off over the sink before patting it dry with my towel.
Hope that helps!

Very much so as not one other poster has shared their flannel routine with us.

BigTubOfLard · 04/01/2026 00:39

Grumpalot · 03/01/2026 18:39

I don’t get this apparently brilliant wiping advice at all. It’s leading me to think I need to ask…how else do people wipe, if not reaching behind with one hand? Confused

You don't reach forward between your legs; instead you stay seated, lean forward a little and reach right around the back then go in between your cheeks.

Link below is to health line article that describes it better than I can.
share.google/4S63uYTHQR3OpGBhy

localnotail · 04/01/2026 00:45

ManyPigeons · 02/01/2026 23:32

So do you just not wash your face morning/night? Don’t take off your makeup or cleanse your face?

How do you wash if not with a flannel? Everyone I know uses them - they’re piled in my best friends bathroom, my mums, my husband, my old flatmate, my uni flatmates bathrooms!

This is so interesting! So you cant wash your face without a flannel? I wash my face by smothering it with facial cleanser foam/ gel, rinse it with water and then dry it with a towel. Never used a flannel, never felt the need! Must be an English thing.

TeaRoseTallulah · 04/01/2026 01:09

BruceAndNosh · 03/01/2026 14:58

Try Wype. I'm evangelical about the stuff

Go easy with that stuff,it was like using battery acid when I tried it, ouch!

TeaRoseTallulah · 04/01/2026 01:16

Bulldog01 · 03/01/2026 16:56

Not Christmas.But I really needed to mention,when my Husband and I got married,we held the wedding party at our flat.My mother & step farther stayed the night of our wedding :0(

In the morning they asked if I wanted to keep any left overs from the wedding food & drink.I said no, take the lot,they did!

I was shocked that they would be so petty.They took the glasses,which belonged to them anyway.But pretty much took all the food & drink! & Cut a huge chunk of wedding cake to take with them.

I will never forget that day almost 42 years ago! Truly awful way to treat the Bride & Groom!

Can you explain what the issue was? They asked if you wanted to keep any food and you said no and told them to take the lot,so they did as you told them.

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