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Anyone on their own tonight?

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TheSparklyShoe · 31/12/2025 16:03

Just me tonight and my youngest (non verbal/ASD) Looking back at photos of this time last year where me, DH and both kids had a buffet and we all watched films together. Now we are separated and it’s just me and DS.

Just went for a long walk in the woods with DS, he had an ice cream 🥶 and tonight I’ll watch the BBC Christmas ghost story and eat party food! I’ll probably be in bed at 10 😴

What is everyone else doing?

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ArtesianWater · 31/12/2025 20:13

I'm on my own and totally fine with it. I'm already lounging in bed and plan to go to sleep early. I'm up early tomorrow for a NYD walk in the hills with a good friend who I haven't caught up with for ages, so am looking forward to that.

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TheSparklyShoe · 31/12/2025 20:13

soupyspoon · 31/12/2025 20:11

Ah I saw it the other night I was hoping for another one

I really liked it.

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I wish there was more!

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chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 20:20

I’m on my own. My children aged 10 & 15 are with their dad this week.
to be honest, I’m very isolated socially get very upset when I’m on my own.
No family in the country. Best friend emigrated earlier the year.

In my mid 40’s, I find it’s the awkward age where other mums don’t want to make new friends. And equally, I don’t have a lot in common now with someone in their thirties with their first baby looking for mum friends, on maternity leave. A lot of lovely mums in that position on Peanut.
But also, not old enough to socialise with the empty nesters.

I’ve tried but the other ladies around me are all married and busy with their husband plus children/teenagers. They don’t have time really to meet up for a coffee with someone who hasn’t spoken with an adult for a few days now.

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TheSparklyShoe · 31/12/2025 20:32

LastSatsuma · 31/12/2025 18:29

I’m just at home, with autistic son, so not technically alone but I might as well be. He doesn’t really speak to me, and can’t tolerate being in the same room as me. It’s a lonely life on normal days. Christmas and New Year makes it feel more intense.

So sorry, it is very hard and isolating. Mine is non verbal but does request endless “This little piggy” over and over!

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TheSparklyShoe · 31/12/2025 21:07

chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 20:20

I’m on my own. My children aged 10 & 15 are with their dad this week.
to be honest, I’m very isolated socially get very upset when I’m on my own.
No family in the country. Best friend emigrated earlier the year.

In my mid 40’s, I find it’s the awkward age where other mums don’t want to make new friends. And equally, I don’t have a lot in common now with someone in their thirties with their first baby looking for mum friends, on maternity leave. A lot of lovely mums in that position on Peanut.
But also, not old enough to socialise with the empty nesters.

I’ve tried but the other ladies around me are all married and busy with their husband plus children/teenagers. They don’t have time really to meet up for a coffee with someone who hasn’t spoken with an adult for a few days now.

Where in the country are you?

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pinenuts75 · 31/12/2025 21:11

chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 20:20

I’m on my own. My children aged 10 & 15 are with their dad this week.
to be honest, I’m very isolated socially get very upset when I’m on my own.
No family in the country. Best friend emigrated earlier the year.

In my mid 40’s, I find it’s the awkward age where other mums don’t want to make new friends. And equally, I don’t have a lot in common now with someone in their thirties with their first baby looking for mum friends, on maternity leave. A lot of lovely mums in that position on Peanut.
But also, not old enough to socialise with the empty nesters.

I’ve tried but the other ladies around me are all married and busy with their husband plus children/teenagers. They don’t have time really to meet up for a coffee with someone who hasn’t spoken with an adult for a few days now.

Where are you from?

Frequency · 31/12/2025 21:14

TheSparklyShoe · 31/12/2025 21:07

Where in the country are you?

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I'm not up for company tonight as my house is a midden and I doubt very much that anyone wants to be subjected to the pure, unadulterated evil that is DD's chihuahua, but if this poster is close enough to me, I would be more than happy to meet for coffee/drinks/dog walks with non-evil entities after the NY.

I am based in Teesside.

chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 21:20

I’m in Kent.

Middlemarch123 · 31/12/2025 21:22

Frequency · 31/12/2025 17:25

This is the evil one, the fluffy one. I genuinely do not understand how something so cute and innocent-looking can be so evil, but he is demonic.

Aw he’s cute, love him x

Frequency · 31/12/2025 21:26

Ah, Kent is too far for me, but if you ever have reason to be in my neck of the woods, drop me a message.

Longterm though, if you don't already have one, get a dog. Dog walking groups exist all around the country and are great for meeting people. Rescues are the best dogs and usually have a support WhatsApp group for adopters. Some breeds have devoted fans that host meetups and parties. We went to a chihuahua convention recently (with the not evil ones). Toy breeds aren't really my cup of tea, I love DD's dogs, but I wouldn't have chosen them but she made some great friends while we were there.

If you already have a dog find your local dog walking group.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 31/12/2025 21:29

Just me and dd(6 nonverbal)

got pretty woman on now

got some shloer and plastic champagne glasses for when it gets close to midnight - I would like for dd to be awake 🥰

Bluffinwithmymuffin · 31/12/2025 21:33

Actually, if you look closely enough, I think you can spot the evil lurking beneath the fluffy surface 😄
I’m on my own too, not sorry about that, since I’ve never enjoyed the whole ‘feel single, see double and pay triple’ aspect of NY, even when I was young. New Year’s Day is much nicer.
Happy New Year everyone, and big love to whoever’s struggling or feeling sad tonight.

Kitterkitkat · 31/12/2025 21:34

Yes, happy to be as pain behind the ridge of my nose has restarted (cold). Boyfriend is also staying in, same thing. We'll see each other when we've recovered.

The only problem is that I'm too tired to cook properly so may just get crab pate on bread and snack on grapes.

Middlemarch123 · 31/12/2025 21:37

Frequency · 31/12/2025 21:26

Ah, Kent is too far for me, but if you ever have reason to be in my neck of the woods, drop me a message.

Longterm though, if you don't already have one, get a dog. Dog walking groups exist all around the country and are great for meeting people. Rescues are the best dogs and usually have a support WhatsApp group for adopters. Some breeds have devoted fans that host meetups and parties. We went to a chihuahua convention recently (with the not evil ones). Toy breeds aren't really my cup of tea, I love DD's dogs, but I wouldn't have chosen them but she made some great friends while we were there.

If you already have a dog find your local dog walking group.

Echo every word.
I have cats, my favourite animal, I’m the quintessential mad cat woman.
But, for my job, I walk dogs. Currently have six who I walk daily, with a waiting list. They are gorgeous, as are their owners. I have met so many lovely people on my daily walks, some of us meet up regularly, a couple of walkers have become close friends. If you need a friend, get a dog, they will dote on you, and make you other friends too.

Soonenough · 31/12/2025 21:40

Can't wait for it to be over. Also living with Ex . Tomorrow out for dinner with DD and SIL without him so that will be nice . Think I will be in bed by 10:30pm to avoid it all.

ArwenUndomniel · 31/12/2025 21:52

I've done the last ten years alone, and I don't usually mind but for some reason this year I'm feeling very lonely. I'm at a point where all my friends are married with kids and I'm the only outlier, and they seem to have less and less time for me jow. Still, I'm watching a documentary about the Mushroom Murders and thinking at least nobody has tried to poison me, so there's that. Will be heading off to bed shortly.

chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 21:54

Dogs great friends. I have two yorkies. They are rather crazy though but so loyal and cute.
I need to find dog walking groups. I’m back at work next week and then I get home after 6pm. This is not ideal for dog walking groups. I think there are dog walking groups but they meet mid-mornings.
I need to find a group on a weekend.

I’m terrible company to myself. My emotions get the best of me. I’ll be much better when I’m back at work on Monday around people all day.

Here is a photo of them having a puppacino.

chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 21:58

D

Anyone on their own tonight?
youredeadtomesteven · 31/12/2025 21:59

DP is in his office on the PlayStation and has been for at least 3 hours. I’m sure he will get off at around 2:30am.

BackToRealitySigh · 31/12/2025 22:01

I'm home alone tonight. Kids with their dad & was meant to be at a friend's houseparty but she's not well so jas postponed NYE.
Had a big chinese, eaten some of the Christmas chocs/sweets, tons of fireworks already outside. Might still be awake by midnight....

Kittylicker · 31/12/2025 22:03

I used to love being with friends on new years eve but for the last 15 years been alone since retiring & now 200 miles from my old friends.

Starseeking · 31/12/2025 22:14

I’m alone this year as my DCs are now with their Dad for the rest of the week. I’ve always found NYE to be a bit of an anticlimax, so I’m glad to be at home doing nothing.

Currently enjoying a large drink, while watching Netflix. Hopefully I’ll be able to stay awake for the call from other relatives at midnight though.

Nucleus · 31/12/2025 22:17

Older DS is working, younger is gaming, and DH has retired to bed ill. I might as well be alone.

carly2803 · 31/12/2025 22:38

yes - its honestly no big deal for me!

have the kids asleep, animals around me - exactly how I love to spend my time regardless of the day it is!

Frequency · 31/12/2025 22:42

chickenwraps · 31/12/2025 21:58

D

They are gorgeous. I don't like Yorkies after I was attacked by one without provocation when I was a child, but those two look adorable.