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16 year old dsd just got lip filler

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tribiani · 27/12/2025 21:27

How would you feel about this ? Dh doesn’t have a relationship with mum, they can’t get on, he isn’t perfect but she has been very very hostile over the years, family courts involved etc, we have a good relationship with dsd, holidays and see each other once a month (live 1.30 away, mum moved, several times)
Anyway… she’s 16 so I’m not sure if it’s even legal, is it ? Her lips are massively swollen, she had 1ml injected. She’s in pain with them. I just think it’s so irresponsible to let it happen. And before anyone says, we had no idea she was getting it done, saw her a few days ago and gave her her Xmas money, no mention of it unail she’s sent me a pic earlier on! It was £70 apparently

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Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 27/12/2025 21:28

£70 seems very cheap and I’m sure you would need to be at least 18. Did she say where she went? Did she lie about her age? I’d be really cross and quite concerned about it

ItsDarkNow · 27/12/2025 21:28

Her lips, her choice I guess. But another young woman probably enslaved to social media.

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tribiani · 27/12/2025 21:30

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 27/12/2025 21:28

£70 seems very cheap and I’m sure you would need to be at least 18. Did she say where she went? Did she lie about her age? I’d be really cross and quite concerned about it

Her friends mum apparently 🤷‍♀️

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tribiani · 27/12/2025 21:30

ItsDarkNow · 27/12/2025 21:28

Her lips, her choice I guess. But another young woman probably enslaved to social media.

Yes, instagram

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VikaOlson · 27/12/2025 21:32

Sounds dodgy, I'd be concerned for her health!
You can't really control what a 16 year old does though, you have to hope by that point they are able to make good decisions.

Cat1504 · 27/12/2025 21:32

Don’t get involved

schopenhauer · 27/12/2025 21:34

Thats terrible, 1ml is loads I think and £70 is super cheap so could be somewhere very unreputable! I’d be tempted to tell her school/college as it seems like a safeguarding issue to me, allowing s teen to put themselves at risk. I hope your dsd is ok. Would keep a close eye and get her checked out if the paid persists. Quite worrisome and hope the instruments were sterile!!!

Dagda · 27/12/2025 21:35

I think it is awful young girls getting fillers. They have no need for them and their lips look like deflated balloons afterwards.

But if it was done with mum’s blessing and you don’t have a relationship with her, I don’t think there is much you can saw.

Tell her she is beautiful and doesn’t need any tweakments. Share a horror story about fillers and then move on and hope you dropped a seed in her mind.

BeforeSigourneyWeaverTheyWoveTheirOwnSigourneys · 27/12/2025 21:35

I would ask lots of questions, find out the name of the person who did it, and report them. It's illegal to have lip filler under the age of 18.

Given that it's a photo she sent though, are you sure it isn't one of those AI 'pranks'.

VikaOlson · 27/12/2025 21:37

schopenhauer · 27/12/2025 21:34

Thats terrible, 1ml is loads I think and £70 is super cheap so could be somewhere very unreputable! I’d be tempted to tell her school/college as it seems like a safeguarding issue to me, allowing s teen to put themselves at risk. I hope your dsd is ok. Would keep a close eye and get her checked out if the paid persists. Quite worrisome and hope the instruments were sterile!!!

You think her college should investigate a dodgy beauty salon/practitioner treating under 18s? I don't think that is in their job description - surely you want trading standards or public health at the council?

SimplyBudgie · 27/12/2025 21:40

If you're in England it's illegal. I'd make sure I got the name then would report them.

ItsDarkNow · 27/12/2025 21:42

@schopenhauer
How about her actual parents deal with it. Why is every issue deemed to be a school’s responsibility??

schopenhauer · 27/12/2025 21:46

ItsDarkNow · 27/12/2025 21:42

@schopenhauer
How about her actual parents deal with it. Why is every issue deemed to be a school’s responsibility??

School should be made aware not saying they need to ‘deal with it’. Not sure what anyone can do really, what’s done is done. No need to be angry at me.

ItsDarkNow · 27/12/2025 21:49

I’m not angry.

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tribiani · 27/12/2025 21:50

I know we can’t do anything, I was just shocked someone would actually do it on a child. Seems insane ? Mum had told her she could get it done so we can’t say otherwise. If I asked the name of who did it she wouldn’t tell me anyway !

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Themagicfarawaytreeismyfav · 27/12/2025 21:51

Whoever did it won’t be insured because she is under 18. I would be reporting them to the local trading standards. Her mother is also extremely irresponsible to allow this to happen. I would be questioning what else happens while she is at her mothers.

PermanentTemporary · 27/12/2025 21:51

I’d be absolutely horrified. I’d be googling symptoms of complications because I know there can be bad ones. I’d want to sue whoever did it out of business and I’d want to take away her phone forever and send her to a convent school. Only some of these actions would be reasonable.

RudolphTheReindeer · 27/12/2025 21:53

16? Is that legal?

GlitzAndGigglesx · 27/12/2025 21:59

Regardless of how cheap it was what kind of mother approves of their underage daughter getting that done? My eldest DD is 14 and I'd quite frankly laugh in her face if she asked for that done

Bodypumpmum · 27/12/2025 22:00

i think this is terrible!
she needs to be reported!

NancyJoan · 27/12/2025 22:07

1ml is a lot to have done in one go, in a very young face that presumably had plump ish lips anyway. The swelling and ache will ease, but first they will probably bruise like mad and look a bit grim.

Definitely illegal for under 18s (also illegal for an adult to book for an under 18year old). £70 is dirt cheap, and there are so many risks from going to an unqualified practitioner.

Particularly risk of vascular occlusion, which can result in tissue death, or nerve damage. These can happen even with a qualified injector, but lack of knowledge/training in facial anatomy makes it much more likely.

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tribiani · 27/12/2025 22:11

NancyJoan · 27/12/2025 22:07

1ml is a lot to have done in one go, in a very young face that presumably had plump ish lips anyway. The swelling and ache will ease, but first they will probably bruise like mad and look a bit grim.

Definitely illegal for under 18s (also illegal for an adult to book for an under 18year old). £70 is dirt cheap, and there are so many risks from going to an unqualified practitioner.

Particularly risk of vascular occlusion, which can result in tissue death, or nerve damage. These can happen even with a qualified injector, but lack of knowledge/training in facial anatomy makes it much more likely.

Oh god this is scary. I didn’t want to bash her mum (Mumsnet can be very hard on stepparents) but it’s just fucking madness that she would be okay with this. If she was 18 I don’t think you could really do much but at 16 they’re very much still your responsibility and I would be putting my foot down. Dsd is a kid, she’s grown up in this awful generation of instagram models/influencers and the Kardashian’s so it’s all she’s seen, but her mum should know better.

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beadystar · 27/12/2025 22:19

It’s not legal at 16. £70 is very very cheap for fillers… and 1ml is a lot for a first go. Hopefully they’ll settle but unqualified injectors are dodgy. They’re likely to look lumpy and a bit mad, and that’s if she’s avoided medical issues. Deranged doing that to a child. Do your best to find and report the ‘practitioner.’

OriginalUsername2 · 27/12/2025 22:27

I’d hate it, but what can you do. DP could call his ex and be angry about it, or express his disappointment with DD but at the end of the day they’ll do what they want.

COUNCAT14 · 27/12/2025 22:39

It is illegal for under 18. But I would be most concerned that it was £70 for 1ml and the fact she is in pain. Fillers themselves cost more than that at wholesale price (or so I believe) so I’d be really worried about what has actually been injected. I pay around £220 for 1ml and that’s not the most premium brand! Please report this. Although it’s not going to change the outcome for your DSD, another teen could come off even worse.

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