How often do you cry?

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I hardly ever cry, just in relation to someone dying really. I have a friend who's quite emotional, I've seen her cry from frustration over quite small things. And many Mumsnetters seem prone to crying! So I would go years without crying, this seems quite normal to me. Well, actually, funnily enough I can cry at a film! Other than that, funerals and big things only. What about others?

Im emotional like your friend and cry with anger and frustration as well as sadness. Im also frustrated and sad a lot generally - not living my best life really - so I cry frequently but not every day usually.

Not really. Still get teary and maybe have a mini one, but I'm still grieving.

I'll avoid the big snotfests at all costs though. Can't stand the way it stuffs the nose up afterwards. Makes me feel annoyed with myself.

Personally I think a smash room would be more therapeutic than crying.

I used to cry over quite small things and because of frustration so on a weekly basis at least. But also my mental health was in the gutter and I was heading towards a breakdown. I was just so stressed and overwhelmed and completely and utterly burnt out.
I’ve changed careers (I was a teacher), focused hard on my mental health, improving my lifestyle, mindfulness yadda yadda. Couldn’t tell you the last time I cried. Probably a few months ago due to extreme tiredness (I now work shift hours including very early starts - like 4am early. I’m exhausted but happy!). But not through stress or frustration any more.

if you have friends crying very easily over small things, you are probably better checking that they are okay, because they are probably not

I don’t tend to cry even when people die, but going through a lot of stress at the moment and I would say about 3 times per week at the moment. DH has an almost permanent soggy shoulder from me weeping into it. I want the situation to get better and fast, but I might try to not go back to not being such a cold fish and keep turning to him for support.

I cried yesterday morning after reading on mn from a mother who lost her 28yr old son to brain cancer.

Daily.

Im not really much of a cryer. I tend to feel anger instead. I cried a lot as a kid but as an adult? Last time was 8 years ago when my dad died.

Daily at the moment. Mental health is shot as looking after someone whose health is deteriorating. Wouldn’t recommend daily crying but I have always been emotional person and anyone crying in my vicinity, on tv etc will usually set me off, especially at the moment!

I realised I didn’t even get the baby blues with DC7 and can’t recall crying since then. As pps have said my eyes well up at times but tears don’t fall.

These days same as you op with the add on of getting teary in response to other people’s sad events or distress but not actually crying.

Death makes me cry or similarly devastating events. Nothing much else gets me but I spent a year of so crying most days on the way to work. Really tough upsetting circumstances affecting my life and my closest people. It was my only quiet moment in the day.

Wow, such variation. The people who cry daily, is that because of difficulties in your life, or because of your emotional setting, do you think?

Some people cry to get the upper hand in socially tense situations. They soon stop if the other person keeps pressing ahead. (I don't do this kind of crying)

Some people cry when stressed because that's just how their brains work (I also don't do this)

Some people cry from genuine distress whether internal or external. I used to do this more when depressed, rarely at present, I'd love to think that's the end of it but it ain't over til it's over

Oh hardly ever. I only really cried when I was pregnant. Other than that it's death of close relatives.

Very rarely (unless watching the ending of Paddington 2..... obviously!).

Maybe once or twice a year. I didn't cry at my own wedding or children's births. I definitely don't cry at other peope's weddings. I didn't cry when my loved ones died or have been ill. I do cry at memories of such things, sad books or films, and at injustice or despair. When I have missed out on a job, for example, or after a big argument. I do feel sadness and joy, but proper tears are quite rare.

After I handed in my notice at my old job? Daily because my boss turned from frustrating to vindictive.
Since I started my new job? Not at all. So not on 7 months.

daily, never used to be a crier but I’ve had a bad couple of years health and life wise and now it doesn’t take much to upset me and get the tears flowing.

Most days. It’s fairly unusual if I don’t.

But rarely in front of people.

5 years ago when my DF died.

Most days but I’m not depressed, grieving my mum 6 years on very very life altering and painful x

Rarely now that's probably down to counselling and 100 mg sertraline.

I used to hardly ever cry - about four tears in total during my divorce for example. However I’ve been having therapy, one of the focus areas has been on learning to ‘feel my feelings’ rather than bottle them up and then burn out. I’ve cried more in the last few weeks than the last five years but it seems to be doing the trick in terms of releasing negative emotions in a much healthier way. It’s one of the best things that’s happened to me this year (who ever thought they’d say that about weeping!)

Rarely although in the past it’s been every day.

I don’t cry happy tears at peoples weddings or baby births either

One of the last times I had a really good cry in private was after the final of 15 yr old dd3 football last year seeing how she was treated by the coach. It was a culmination of months of being sidelined and frozen out by the team too (she’s a really good player) dd who very rarely cries herself , sobbed her heart out in the car all the way home. It wrecked her confidence and self worth going forward and she’s still not right. I was so angry and heartbroken for her

I used to cry quite a lot before. Then I had a tragic life experience and cried for months, inconsolably. Since then I stopped crying for little things as everything seems pretty fixable. I don’t cry anymore.