Let's raise a glass

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I always start this thread on Christmas Eve.
Helps me to take a deep breath and just be for a second.
I'll raise a 🥃 to my dad. It's been too many christmases but I still wish I'd known you better before dementia stole you x

Oh and one for P who left just before Christmas 17 years ago
still Miss you my friend
🥃

I'll raise one to a friend lost this year and another who is struggling through her first without 2 very important people. 🥂

🥂

A wee whisky for my dad who died May 2023 🥃

A wee brandy for my mum who died March 2025 🥃

but the biggest glass a tequila for my beautiful son Tony, who died Christmas day 2020 🥃 miss you always
❤️💛❤️

My ds who took his life October 2024 aged 25.

🥃

To my mum who probably won’t know it’s Christmas, my brilliant stepdad who will make the day easier for her, to our adult kids, who we won’t be with at Christmas for the first time and to my wonderful husband, who will make that feel alright.

So very sorry for everyone’s losses.

To all those who have lost loved ones, who are going through pain and trauma and anyone who need a little support ❤️🥂

A wee sherry for my much missed Mum, I miss her so much, it’s 12 years now. She was just utterly brilliant.

I’m in my parents town, finishing the shopping and about to go to the pub on my own for the first of a new tradition - I’m going to have a coffee and a Baileys in honour of my mum who I lost in September.

It’ll be just me and my Dad tomorrow and I’ll do my best to slap a smile on for him.

To us all 🥃

To my mum who died in 2003 (43) and my dad in 2019 (60), and my angel babies (2012, 2014). I’m watching DD16 and DS12 make a gingerbread house and ache that they’re missing, but am lucky to have loved them so much to feel their absence so greatly 🍷

Lucky you have loved them so much to feel their absence so greatly sums it up beautifully

A fancy glass of champagne for my mum I lost in December 2023 🥂🍾

And another for my partners wife who he lost far too young 🥂🍾

And some bottles raised for all the born sleeping babies I’ve delivered as a midwife over the years 🍼

🥃

To my darling husband - 5 Christmases without you and we love and miss you every day ❤️

To my Nan who took me in when no one else would and helped keep our family together. It's been almost 20 years since we lost you but I think about you every day. You turned my life around and I wish you could see me now, I know you'd be so proud💕

❤️

We always a raise a glass to my mum on Christmas day.

It's never been the same without her. It will be 5 Christmases this year, I can hardly believe it.

To my lovely mum 🥂 ❤️

To L who I lost 2017 - I hope you’ve opened the fizz up there and are dancing away 🥂

I echo this

It can be so very hard

And some have to try and put on a show to make it seem they are ok

It's ok to just wish for it to be over

Lots of love to many gone before us and all those who are struggling !!!!!

Thank you for all the lovely warm helpful people on here too xxxxxx

I raise a glass to my dad, my nanna, my partners nanna and aunty and to the family dog who sadly passed away in September! Miss them all! 🥂

All the amazing hunt saboteurs up and down the country who put themselves in danger's way to protect our foxes.

I raise a glass to my lovely mum who did February 2024, just two months after an out-of-the-blue cancer diagnosis.

This is my second Xmas without her and it almost feels harder than the first - I think the permanency of it is starting to hit. I’d hosted Xmas for my mum for the previous 25 years, it’s a very strange feeling adjusting to going it alone.

Am lucky to have an amazing friend who has invited me for Xmas day, so will be spending it with her and her family. And great neighbours with a large extended family who have invited me to join them on Boxing Day. I miss my mum so much, but am trying to count my blessings.

🥂 to my mum and to all of you who are missing loved ones.