I am part a group - It has nothing to do with trans people however recently a trans member joined. Since then there has been a lot of focus on pronouns and specific trans related terminology and we have been asked to sign an official, legally binding agreement to be respectful to everyone including views we do not agree with. This was included among other things we had to agree to - but I do have to say that we have never been asked to sign anything like this before.
I want to be clear that I do believe trans people exist and that it is possible for someone to feel more like a woman even if they are a man or vice versa. I have met a few trans people and I loved them and their personalities - not romantically. I fully respect trans people.
At the same time I have a number of womens health conditions and my identity as a woman is very important to me. I actually felt offended when this new member asked what my pronouns were. I felt they were implying I might not feel that I’m a woman? I also believe that if someone is trans, they should be shared by the persons own free will and they shouldn’t have to be asked? Since their arrival they have also wanted everyone to tell them about their pronouns which feels very private to me.
We are being pressured to add pronouns to our emails and we have upcoming meetings about trans people. This is the only trans person in the entire group. We have been a small team and have known each other well for years . Has anyone else experienced something similar? How have you managed maintaining your boundaries while still being considerate of others?