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Surprised by not being able to get ambulance

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FrenchFancie · 20/12/2025 09:35

This is in no way to have a dig at the ambulance service or at the hospitals (but maybe slightly at the junior doctors strike) but I have been really surprised recently when, for the first time in aaages, I have had to call 999 twice, and on both occasions wasn’t able to get an ambulance.

firstly my daughter was having an asthma attack, and not responding to medication. After 10 reliever puffs we called, and were told it would be a 1-2 hour wait. So we stuffed her in the back of the car and drove like idiots to the local hospital instead, where she was seen straight away. But it was a scary midnight drive. Her asthma plan states to ring 999 after 10 puffs and the ambulance should attend within 10 minutes.

second was through work where a child was having an epileptic seizure and again, we were told it was an unknown wait time, possibly 1-2 hours.

both of these things I felt really scared about, wanting urgent professional help and support, but it wasn’t available. I know I’m not going to get an ambulance for an adult with broken ankle, but kids with quick onset, possibly life threatening conditions, I was shocked there was nothing available.

is this the same now everywhere? It’s been years since I had to call 999 (like 10 years) and got a quick response last time (daughter fell off changing table, was in London and overreacted to her banging her head but the crew were lovely).

I don’t blame the ambulance service or 999 operators - in fact on both occasions the operator sounded stressed and upset they couldn’t get me help.

what, if anything, can be done about this situation?

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BertieBotts · 23/12/2025 19:59

FrenchFancie · 20/12/2025 09:50

The only reason I wondered about the strike was, if there are fewer doctors in a&e then ambulances will have to wait longer to hand over patients, meaning they aren’t free to answer other calls.

The problem is it's not an unusual state of play. The Ambulance documentary programmes/999 one show this quite clearly. There was also a Panorama recently where a reporter went undercover as a call handler.

Wait times for ambulances are terrible and have been for some time. It's a huge problem.

Reallyohreally · 23/12/2025 20:05

C8H10N4O2 · 23/12/2025 11:02

GP services have always been private businesses - not the choice of politicians but demanded by the GP lobby as the price of cooperation with any form of “nationalised’ health care.

Private health care was housed in public hospitals at the demand of the consultants' lobby. Bevan “stuffed their mouths with gold” - the price doctors demanded to stop blocking public healthcare.

Many senior staff making spending and policy decisions are clinical or former clinical staff. Its simply not true that NHS staff over the past 70 years have had no say in management, spending and priorities and procurement. Doctors lobbies have driven a huge amount of the decision making by politicians - everyone used to love doctors, everyone can be persuaded of the bad faith of politicians. There has never been a shortage of doctors wanting to play at politics - just look at the state of the “science optional" BMA currently.
And yes there have been plenty of lousy decisions by politicians and some fantastically stupid structural changes but its not true that the medical lobbies had had no influence. Don’t forget also that for most of the life of the NHS, doctors as a group have voted right, not left.

Mostly though, politicians did not dictate a culture which treats patients as supplicants rather than the reason for the NHS existence.
Politicians did not dictate the retention of antiquated business processes which make patients’ lives so much more difficult and could only ever survive in a monopoly system. One of the biggest problems for the NHS is the culture of we must be “grateful” however bad it is, or that its “free” and that a complaint is some kind of nasty attack on the holy NHS.

There is no reward or bonus beyond job satisfaction for the staff doing an exceptional job, there is no penalty for those who do the bare minimum or treat patients poorly. That is fundamentally wrong.

Across Europe state backed insurance models result in private companies provide good healthcare, often very significantly better and more timely than is available under the NHS. Its not an accident that countries moving to state backed healthcare in the post war period looked at the UK and thought “no thanks”.

Yep I know the French system well and yes you need to top up part of the fees but everyone has insurance for that , usually subsidized through their work place. People on minimum income get it through the state . Serious ilness ( cancer heart diabetes etc) is fully covered even without private insurance anywzy. People can choose where they go , so they make their own mammogram appointment or ultrasound or blood test etc . There’s not the hanging around waiting for a letter from the NHS. They can easily get second opinions. Access is more restricted in deserted rural areas , so everything isn’t rosy but if you want that ultrasound asap there’s nothing to stop you driving miles away to have it.
The NHS isn’t free and while it was and is a wonderful concept the British public deserve better for their money.

Rhaenys · 24/12/2025 06:43

I don’t think it’s everywhere. A couple of years ago my DM was able to get an ambulance when she didn’t really need one. I was really shocked by it all.

Tellallofthetruth · 24/12/2025 11:24

C8H10N4O2 · 23/12/2025 11:02

GP services have always been private businesses - not the choice of politicians but demanded by the GP lobby as the price of cooperation with any form of “nationalised’ health care.

Private health care was housed in public hospitals at the demand of the consultants' lobby. Bevan “stuffed their mouths with gold” - the price doctors demanded to stop blocking public healthcare.

Many senior staff making spending and policy decisions are clinical or former clinical staff. Its simply not true that NHS staff over the past 70 years have had no say in management, spending and priorities and procurement. Doctors lobbies have driven a huge amount of the decision making by politicians - everyone used to love doctors, everyone can be persuaded of the bad faith of politicians. There has never been a shortage of doctors wanting to play at politics - just look at the state of the “science optional" BMA currently.
And yes there have been plenty of lousy decisions by politicians and some fantastically stupid structural changes but its not true that the medical lobbies had had no influence. Don’t forget also that for most of the life of the NHS, doctors as a group have voted right, not left.

Mostly though, politicians did not dictate a culture which treats patients as supplicants rather than the reason for the NHS existence.
Politicians did not dictate the retention of antiquated business processes which make patients’ lives so much more difficult and could only ever survive in a monopoly system. One of the biggest problems for the NHS is the culture of we must be “grateful” however bad it is, or that its “free” and that a complaint is some kind of nasty attack on the holy NHS.

There is no reward or bonus beyond job satisfaction for the staff doing an exceptional job, there is no penalty for those who do the bare minimum or treat patients poorly. That is fundamentally wrong.

Across Europe state backed insurance models result in private companies provide good healthcare, often very significantly better and more timely than is available under the NHS. Its not an accident that countries moving to state backed healthcare in the post war period looked at the UK and thought “no thanks”.

I agree with much that you say . There are indeed corrupt and greedy senior doctors . Narcissists , sociopaths & psychopaths exist everywhere & particularly in the higher echelons of politics and medicine .
I’m trying to state that it is really hard for a decent doctor , finding themselves within a corrupted , broken NHS to bring the public’s attention to the deliberate political decisions that have brought us here .
If they try , the public’s wrath comes down on THEIR heads and so , like many who have tried before them , they leave . Many doctors and nurses DO care about their patients but soon find it impossible to work for the current NHS .
I know , of course , about the status of GPs without the NHS .
So many practices are now owned by American health companies who restrict the tests and services that the GPs are allowed to offer , enormously reducing the quality of medical care for us but maximising profits for shareholders.
An analogous situation can be found in the UK’s privatised water companies , sold off by Thatcher et al to foreign companies who care nothing for polluting & ruining our waterways & seas .
It’s a tragic mess but not the fault of MOST doctors , immigrants nor Boomers .

angela1952 · 24/12/2025 13:10

Reallyohreally · 23/12/2025 20:05

Yep I know the French system well and yes you need to top up part of the fees but everyone has insurance for that , usually subsidized through their work place. People on minimum income get it through the state . Serious ilness ( cancer heart diabetes etc) is fully covered even without private insurance anywzy. People can choose where they go , so they make their own mammogram appointment or ultrasound or blood test etc . There’s not the hanging around waiting for a letter from the NHS. They can easily get second opinions. Access is more restricted in deserted rural areas , so everything isn’t rosy but if you want that ultrasound asap there’s nothing to stop you driving miles away to have it.
The NHS isn’t free and while it was and is a wonderful concept the British public deserve better for their money.

I absolutely agree with this, the French system is so much better and I'd be happy to pay for insurance to cover the top up. In fact it would probably not cost the average person much more than currently, if not less. Hopefully there would be no need for so many people to resort to private health care which could mean that staff remain working in the NHS and things will improve.
At the moment we're all paying through the nose for the NHS and do deserve a better service. The aspect of choice in the French system means that poor providers don't get the business, good providers get more patients and hence more money to put into their business for extra operating theatres, clinic space, staff and equipment. Also the people who misuse the NHS one way or another, be it uneccessary A&E trips or doctor's appointments, end up paying for the time that they are wasting.
I'm happy to pay if I get what I'm paying for, at the moment that is simply not the case. I don't think that the average citizen realises just how much they are spending personally on the current sub-standard service. And so many people are paying for private Health insurance on top of this.

KiwiFall · 24/12/2025 15:02

mumsneedwine · 20/12/2025 10:10

@FrenchFancie there are not less doctors in A&E during strikes, there are the same number and they are consultants. They step down to cover all resident doctor roles. So waits should be less. But they are not because there are never enough staff in A&E.

This. It’s clinics run by consultants that get cancelled so they can cover A&E and the wards. The wards are full and sadly a lot of these people do not need hospital care but are not well enough to discharge them home to take care of themselves. Therefore A&E can’t move people to the wards. If A&E are full an ambulance crew have to stay with said patient until handover. This on top of people ringing for ambulances when that’s maybe not the most appropriate way of getting them medical help.

Reallyohreally · 24/12/2025 15:26

KiwiFall · 24/12/2025 15:02

This. It’s clinics run by consultants that get cancelled so they can cover A&E and the wards. The wards are full and sadly a lot of these people do not need hospital care but are not well enough to discharge them home to take care of themselves. Therefore A&E can’t move people to the wards. If A&E are full an ambulance crew have to stay with said patient until handover. This on top of people ringing for ambulances when that’s maybe not the most appropriate way of getting them medical help.

Its not the public’s fault though. If they order an ambulance maybe it’s because they couldn’t get a GP appointment etc etc It’s been hammered into people not to stretch the NHS . No one in the right mind wants to sit in A and E for hours or in ambulance for no reason.

KiwiFall · 24/12/2025 18:33

Reallyohreally · 24/12/2025 15:26

Its not the public’s fault though. If they order an ambulance maybe it’s because they couldn’t get a GP appointment etc etc It’s been hammered into people not to stretch the NHS . No one in the right mind wants to sit in A and E for hours or in ambulance for no reason.

I’ve been sat in A&E for hours and hours with my children so I do know it’s a last resort. I was merely saying there is a small minority that call when it should be pharmacy/GP/111 or out of hours GP, which is true. I’m not blaming every single member of the public.

Arran2024 · 24/12/2025 21:00

Reallyohreally · 24/12/2025 15:26

Its not the public’s fault though. If they order an ambulance maybe it’s because they couldn’t get a GP appointment etc etc It’s been hammered into people not to stretch the NHS . No one in the right mind wants to sit in A and E for hours or in ambulance for no reason.

They won't send an ambulance to anyone who calls for one. They categorise all the calls and some people will be redirected to other services like 111

Reallyohreally · 27/12/2025 20:30

KiwiFall · 24/12/2025 18:33

I’ve been sat in A&E for hours and hours with my children so I do know it’s a last resort. I was merely saying there is a small minority that call when it should be pharmacy/GP/111 or out of hours GP, which is true. I’m not blaming every single member of the public.

, I just mean it’s kind of counter productive and letting politicians off the hook to blame the public in any way at this point but I understand what you mean .

Nat6999 · 28/12/2025 22:33

NewYearNewNameWhoKnew · 20/12/2025 11:08

It's not lack of staff it's lack of beds. Wards are full of mostly frail elderly due to flu season being particularly bad. Many people can't be discharged home because social care has fallen apart. Bed blocking is a real problem and we need to talk about the failure of social care - the NHS picks up the pieces because we cannot discharge someone unless they have somewhere safe to go to. No ward beds means people can't be moved out of ED or the acute admission unit, so ambulances physically cannot bring in new patients and end up stuck in the car park.

That also means elective surgery gets cancelled as no bed available post-op.

Population growth & particularly the increasing number of elderly people is a massive problem - we knew this was coming 20 years ago and politicians ignored it. They still are ignoring it with all the talk of 'analogue to digital' and 'more community based care' - makes no difference to someone with a limb fracture, or who is suddenly unable to walk, or as pre pp, has an acute severe asthma attack.

We need more paid carers, more care homes & for the NHS to be able to charge social services for hospital care once someone is fit for discharge but stuck in hospital waiting for a package of care or placement in residential/nursing home.

My mum has been in hospital for 12 weeks now, she needs a care home but due to her complex behaviour & needs 3 homes up to now have rejected her. She no longer knows us, her brain won't connect to her limbs to mobilise, she has stopped eating, was 14 stone she went in & now weighs under 8 stone. I wish they would just stop treating things like the frequent infections she keeps on getting, make her comfortable & let nature take its course, she has no prospect of getting better & no quality of life. The ward she is on is full of patients in identical states, no wonder health & social care are over run.

Reallyohreally · 28/12/2025 23:17

Nat6999 · 28/12/2025 22:33

My mum has been in hospital for 12 weeks now, she needs a care home but due to her complex behaviour & needs 3 homes up to now have rejected her. She no longer knows us, her brain won't connect to her limbs to mobilise, she has stopped eating, was 14 stone she went in & now weighs under 8 stone. I wish they would just stop treating things like the frequent infections she keeps on getting, make her comfortable & let nature take its course, she has no prospect of getting better & no quality of life. The ward she is on is full of patients in identical states, no wonder health & social care are over run.

This is indeed an issue that’s just going to get bigger and bigger imo. We are physically healthier and healthier which is wonderful and living longer lives which is great if we hold in to our mental cognition , I don’t know how society is going to manage if people get to say 90 /100 on average without finding effective medication to treat dementia. How is the world going to manage? I’m sorry about your Mum it’s an awful thing to go through for her and for you.

boothandbones · 28/12/2025 23:36

Reallyohreally · 28/12/2025 23:17

This is indeed an issue that’s just going to get bigger and bigger imo. We are physically healthier and healthier which is wonderful and living longer lives which is great if we hold in to our mental cognition , I don’t know how society is going to manage if people get to say 90 /100 on average without finding effective medication to treat dementia. How is the world going to manage? I’m sorry about your Mum it’s an awful thing to go through for her and for you.

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I’ve done a living will. Basically if I’m diagnosed with dementia I don’t want any treatment for anything except pain relief. I’ve given it to my GP, have a copy at home and a copy on my phone
my mum with Alzheimer’s had a chest infection which went to sepsis and my dad hadn’t done POA despite me constantly bugging him about it. Thankfully the doctors were sensible and we didn’t treat the sepsis, she died peacefully

Reallyohreally · 29/12/2025 00:54

boothandbones · 28/12/2025 23:36

I’ve done a living will. Basically if I’m diagnosed with dementia I don’t want any treatment for anything except pain relief. I’ve given it to my GP, have a copy at home and a copy on my phone
my mum with Alzheimer’s had a chest infection which went to sepsis and my dad hadn’t done POA despite me constantly bugging him about it. Thankfully the doctors were sensible and we didn’t treat the sepsis, she died peacefully

isn’t the thing about living wills that they won’t work with dementia because we won’t have the capacity to agree when the time comes ? But yes I really must do one !!

boothandbones · 29/12/2025 08:35

Reallyohreally · 29/12/2025 00:54

isn’t the thing about living wills that they won’t work with dementia because we won’t have the capacity to agree when the time comes ? But yes I really must do one !!

It should be ok because I’ve done it while I have capacity to state what I want when I don’t have capacity. If that makes sense!

Periperi2025 · 29/12/2025 09:43

boothandbones · 29/12/2025 08:35

It should be ok because I’ve done it while I have capacity to state what I want when I don’t have capacity. If that makes sense!

If you make it whilst you have capacity and you don't use it to ask anyone to do anything illegal, it is just refusals of treatment options and care. Then it is legal.
But you must do it when you have capacity, likewise you can only set up a LPoA for health and welfare whilst you have capacity and once you've lost capacity the option simply is not available to you anymore.

I wrote my advanced decision to refuse treatment in my 30s, i intended to update it as i age (particularly the DNACPR bit, once i hit 70 i have no intention of having CPR for a non healthy setting cardiac arrest), but there will be no doubt that it was done at a time of full capacity.

Reallyohreally · 29/12/2025 10:54

Ok I am definitely going to look into one !!

Probablyshouldntsay · 29/12/2025 11:20

I left the ambulance service because of this :(
it broke my heart leaving people to it for hours.
However, I would say 50 percent of jobs people just panicked and lacked the common sense in the moment to help their loved one into a car and drive to a & e. It is totally understandable, and remember you can actually call from the car as you are travelling if you are worried things are getting worse for the patient on your journey (ie you can call and say I am travelling southbound on the A425 heading to local hospital and xx is happening).

Turnerskies · 03/01/2026 10:20

Probablyshouldntsay · 29/12/2025 11:20

I left the ambulance service because of this :(
it broke my heart leaving people to it for hours.
However, I would say 50 percent of jobs people just panicked and lacked the common sense in the moment to help their loved one into a car and drive to a & e. It is totally understandable, and remember you can actually call from the car as you are travelling if you are worried things are getting worse for the patient on your journey (ie you can call and say I am travelling southbound on the A425 heading to local hospital and xx is happening).

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