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People who have been all around America

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Fgowfms · 18/12/2025 18:28

Where was your favourite place? I've only ever done the east coast. I liked Washington DC. NYC was too crowded. I went this summer but I probably won't go to the US again for a few years.

If you've been all around. Tell me about it however. If you lived and worked there what was it like?

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Merrilydancing · 18/12/2025 22:33

California blew my mind, was really expecting just a big urban LA type sprawl and it’s really not. So much beautiful scenery, just blew my mind and the people we encountered in passing were so friendly. Just loved it.

ComplexSatsuma · 18/12/2025 22:46

I'd love to see Seattle before I die! Home of grunge 🎸

Fionasapples · 18/12/2025 22:50

SabrinaThwaite · 18/12/2025 21:59

We got married in SF in 1993 - it was quite edgy then with lots of homeless people on the streets, and especially around City Hall. I always remember walking up the road with DH from the (respectable) hotel to a local bar hearing ‘hush my mouth there’s a white woman coming through’ (from a 6’4” bloke in heels and a frock). Fab night though.

I love that quote!
What a fabulous place to get married.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 18/12/2025 22:57

ForTipsyFinch · 18/12/2025 18:28

I haven’t been, but I would love to visit Nantucket.

I didn't find it that impressive truthfully. Its a cute little touristy island that used to be a fishing port, but to me it just mimicked a million similar places in Europe. I can see why to an American it is unusual. Met my Dh there though so it's meaningful to me!!

SabrinaThwaite · 18/12/2025 22:58

Fionasapples · 18/12/2025 22:50

I love that quote!
What a fabulous place to get married.

It was so memorable!

Got married on the staircase in City hall. Outside, I took a photo of DH, he took a photo of me, and then we found someone who looked liked they wouldn’t steal the camera to take a photo of both of us. Lunch in Chinatown, afternoon on the beach (DH rescued a surfer who’d been knocked out by a big wave) and then inveigled our way into a hotel with a dentists conference where we played the poor English newly weds (which we were - wedding cost $80) and got free drinks all night.

Happy days.

ForTipsyFinch · 18/12/2025 23:01

Dontlletmedownbruce · 18/12/2025 22:57

I didn't find it that impressive truthfully. Its a cute little touristy island that used to be a fishing port, but to me it just mimicked a million similar places in Europe. I can see why to an American it is unusual. Met my Dh there though so it's meaningful to me!!

I’m not American, I just think it looks really pretty. But I do think that about New England generally 😄

trainedopossum · 18/12/2025 23:14

”No-one honks their horn because the majority of people carry guns so you never know who your honk might piss off (this was how a local colleague explained the silent traffic to me).” I’m on holiday in Florida (another open carry state) and they have the noisiest traffic jams with people constantly using their car horns!

I used to love New York City but it’s not what it used to be. I hope to go back to Arizona and the Grand Canyon, which is an amazing place.

SabrinaThwaite · 18/12/2025 23:44

trainedopossum · 18/12/2025 23:14

”No-one honks their horn because the majority of people carry guns so you never know who your honk might piss off (this was how a local colleague explained the silent traffic to me).” I’m on holiday in Florida (another open carry state) and they have the noisiest traffic jams with people constantly using their car horns!

I used to love New York City but it’s not what it used to be. I hope to go back to Arizona and the Grand Canyon, which is an amazing place.

Don’t honk your horn was the advice given to us in Texas 25 years ago. TBF, never had a problem and the four way stop system always worked like a dream.

Ponderingwindow · 19/12/2025 00:14

We don’t honk our horns in general, but I have never once heard anyone associate it with guns. We are just very, very polite people. I live in the Midwest. Being polite is an essential part of the culture.

HundredMilesAnHour · 19/12/2025 01:44

Ponderingwindow · 19/12/2025 00:14

We don’t honk our horns in general, but I have never once heard anyone associate it with guns. We are just very, very polite people. I live in the Midwest. Being polite is an essential part of the culture.

You don’t honk your horns in general? You must visit very different US cities to me then. Texas is the only place where I’ve ever experienced such silence during rush hour traffic. Consistently silent every day.

Friendlygingercat · 19/12/2025 02:00

Spent a year living in Nevada near Las Vegas. In interesting but surreal city. Loved New England, Rhode Island. Didnt like NYC felt unsafe. Loved Florida.

Tezza1 · 19/12/2025 02:11

mindutopia · 18/12/2025 18:42

Lived in the US for 30 years. There are some really interesting bits that are very unlike anything we have here. The Florida Keys, Nantucket/Cape Cod, the South West in general (Arizona, New Mexico, Utah, Colorado), Montana, the Pacific Northwest (Seattle, Portland, Bend and rural areas around all of them) are all very interesting.

I used to live in San Francisco and didn’t love it, too touristy and a bit boring, and too many drug users for me.

But all the places above are very cool and where I’d like to take dc back one day (we all have dual citizenship, for now anyway unless we are forced to give it up).

The challenging things about America are just the lack of decent public transport and it’s just not safe. I can walk around just about anywhere in the UK and feel safe. I don’t lock my doors just when I’m roaming around at home. I definitely wouldn’t go wandering around at night a lot of places in the US. I definitely used to come home and immediately bolt my door behind me. It was a very different sense of being constantly hypervigilent of my surroundings that I’ve rarely experienced in the UK.

I am Australian and in my yoof I visited the US and one thing I really remember was a flight over the Grand Canyon in a Piper Cherokee. Plus, off topic, a helicopter trip over San Francisco Bay - spot Dirty Harry locations). About 15 years later I fell in love with Tony Hillerman's Navajo Nation Tribal Police books and have always wanted to re-visit and spend longer exploring the places he mentioned. And yes, I know he admitted in his biography that his sense of direction was all over the place. I have been prevented sadly by chronic illness.

Actually, thinking about it, so many places that I loved I found I visited because I loved them in a book or movie

Bloody Malcolm Saville; his books that I read as a kid had me go on the most hair raising drive of my life in my late 20s. The Stiperstones in Shropshire. I also visited Majorca solely because of the cover of one of his Marston Baines books.

RitaIncognita · 19/12/2025 02:22

HundredMilesAnHour · 19/12/2025 01:44

You don’t honk your horns in general? You must visit very different US cities to me then. Texas is the only place where I’ve ever experienced such silence during rush hour traffic. Consistently silent every day.

The no horn honking rule (unless necessary to warn about a dangerous situation) is definitely a Southern thing, also possibly Midwestern. It's a joke in the South that you might grow old waiting if the car in front of you won't go through the intersection after the light turns green.

RitaIncognita · 19/12/2025 02:27

I'm American and lucky enough to have traveled throughout most of the country. I grew up in coastal Georgia, and the lowcountry cities of Savannah and Charleston are still among my favorites.

An area of the country that often gets little notice in threads like these is Western New York. It's a beautiful part of the state, and the people are very welcoming and friendly. It's dotted with many interesting and picturesque small towns. It is also home to the Chautauqua institution, a major cultural center.

Delphinium20 · 19/12/2025 05:01

Glacier National Park and Grand Marais, Minnesota (on Lake Superior)

Whatsthatsheila · 19/12/2025 05:19

Mcpdon · 18/12/2025 18:40

I like the national parks. Yellowstone and Yosemite.

With a stop off at Lake Tahoe in the summer.

SelfRaisingFlour · 19/12/2025 07:00

I have lived in California and agree with others about the amazing national parks in the US.

San Francisco is still a beautiful location and still nice in places, but the Downtown area was zombieville when I was last there about 3 years ago.

I have also been to Nashville a few times. It's a fun, booming city and rural Tennessee is gorgeous.

everdine · 19/12/2025 07:45

Fgowfms · 18/12/2025 18:54

What did you all love about it?

One of the first things I loved about NYC was the skyscrapers. I would walk down 5th Avenue and just look up and see them!

I used to like going to St Patrick’s Cathedral as I liked the architecture. I would often go on the Staten Island Ferry as it was free and it was a good way of seeing The Statue of Liberty.

The theatres on Broadway had much more leg room than a lot of London theatres!

I would take the subway to Coney Island and walk along the Boardwalk and I spent endless hours walking around Central Park!

It is just a great place to visit/ live and so much to see!

MyIvyGrows · 19/12/2025 07:52

I’ve only been to the big cities (and got the train from LA to San Francisco, which was glorious) but I loved Chicago. Would recommend to anyone, it’s wonderful.

RedRosie · 19/12/2025 07:56

For me, the North Western states. Oregon and Washington State are glorious. For cities, Portland and Seattle. Wonderful natural assets and interesting people. And you can visit Canada so easily from there.

ApplesinmyPocket · 19/12/2025 09:06

Over several years from 2015 onwards, I and my daughters took 5 of the long-distance Amtrak trains from East Coast to West, and up the west coast from LA .to Seattle (and vice versa.) It was absolutely the highlight of my life, and we got to see so much of America! So many states and such incredibly varied scenery, from the vastness of the mid-west with its tiny towns and huge landscapes, to some of the big cities.

Funnily enough, we never got to New York and I don't regret that, but Boston, Chicago and San Francisco were all amazing in their different ways (we stayed overnight at each, with my favourite by far being San Francisco, such a pretty place with flowers and hills and views over the Bay and a real holiday feel with te Embarcadero and fish and chips on the front there (seagulls, tho!!!) and at the time it had a wonderful shopping mall (since sadly closed, alas) once you got away from the Bay area. (As others have said, I hear it has gone downhill since those days, which is a huge shame.)

I wouldn't call it a cheap holiday exactly, but the trains themselves are very good value. The California Zephyr went through some amazing landscapes (Rockies, Colorado river) and I think, cost about $400 for the entire journey of thousands of miles. Mind you, that was our first trip and we unwisely thought we could spend three nights in 'Coach' - they have pretty decent, spacious seats which recline, and blankets handed out etc. It was hard on our backs though, so we always had sleepers after that at considerably greater cost, but well worth it, and came with the bonus of included (excellent!) meals. I felt well looked after on those trains - each coach has its own attendant who fills up the coffee early in the morning and doesn't take any nonsense from passengers. BIG glass Observation car like a lounge, with swivelling seats and amazing views both sides, on every train.

Gosh, this is long, sorry! But as you can see from this map, if it posts readably, it's a cheapish and fun way to see as many states and cities and towns and landscapes as you can.

People who have been all around America
Rocknrollstar · 19/12/2025 09:09

I’ve travelled a lot in the States but the city I liked most was Boston. We love NY for the theatres and vibrant atmosphere but Boston is calmer with a lot of history. The drive down the West Coast is amazing.

cantbearsed27 · 19/12/2025 09:18

Cities I've been to are NY, Boston. Washington, Chicago, San Francisco, LA, and Vegas. I wouldn't go back to any of them tbh although Vegas is mind blowing and fun for a few days.

The NP's are what make America worth going to for me, but overall I'd rather go west coast of Canada. Canada just has a nicer feel in general IMO and the west coast is absolutely stunning. I prefer Vancouver to any of the US cities I've been to.

Not that I'd go at the US at all while Trump is in.

ResusciAnnie · 19/12/2025 09:22

Big Sur

Bryce Canyon

Antelope Canyon

Weirdly quite liked Sarasota - wish we’d done the Keys - Florida itself has a very weird vibe IMO and it’s the one place I felt like I was about to get shot at any minute 😂 but I did have a little baby so was on high alert. And very hard to find vegetarian food!

North rim of Grand Canyon

San Francisco which lots seem to hate but I have a lot of fond childhood & family memories there.

Would love to go to Montana and Oregon/Washington state.

ResusciAnnie · 19/12/2025 09:28

Hearst castle was the worst day of my life 😂 bored out of my brain and melting. In my defence I was 10 years old.