How much do you tell your friends ?

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If you get new nails do you send them a pic ?
If you have your hair done do you send a pic ?
Do you tell them if you've treated yourself shopping ... or wait to let them comment when they see you wearing something new ?

I don't tell anyone anything. Not sure why. I've gone to a new hairdresser today, just had a trim and blow dry. I've not told anyone in conversation/passing or specifically

It would never occur to me to just share out of the blue pics of my nails or hair to anyone.
last weekend I did message my friend to tell her I’d bought something - because I was sure she had also wanted one for herself when we last spoke (and she did so I picked her one up too).

is there a reason you’ve asked this? Why WOULD you tell anyone or share a photo of a random trim?!

I do wonder also if it’s partly age, I’m 40 and just get on with my life without seeking approval or whatever from friends. 20 years ago I may have felt differently but our phones weren’t quite as sophisticated as they are now and it would have probably cost me £1 to send a photo!

I wouldn’t tell them those things. Why would i?
I tell them lots of other stuff. But not my weekly beauty regimen.

Is someone sending you these messages op?

OMG that's so weird. Why would you tell you friends about your hair (or nails)? I mean, I would tell you I tell one of my friends EVERYTHING. It's not that I keep my haircuts / nails / new clothes a secret from her but they are uninteresting to both of us so why would I tell her?

How old are you? Do you mean on social media?

It wouldn't occur to me to send someone a photo of a haircut, but it also wouldn't occur to me to wish my partner happy birthday on Instagram accompanied by a slideshow rather than just saying happy birthday to them.

I have a friend who constantly sends me selfies, nail pics, every sodding detail of her life 😬I barely acknowledge any of it and she never gets the hint. We're both well into our 50s!

My sister and I would share things like this. Friends no.

If i do mention that' i'm going for a eg haircut then I get asked to send a pic. I think this is odd. I can't work out if it's because my friend is showing an interest or doesn't believe me.

No, I wouldn't share this stuff. Unless I was having coffee with a friend and said I was off for my nails and she said send a picture, I possibly would then, acknowledging that she wouldn't really be interested. I can't imagine sending pictures of my hair post trim or anything though.

I wouldn’t dream of telling my friends any of the things you’ve mentioned. I couldn’t give a flying fuck if one of my friends got their nails done. If they sent me a picture I’d feel obliged to send ‘ooh looks lovely!’ But in reality I would think WTF.

Of course I’d say ‘hair looks nice’ if I saw them after a new hair do, but I don’t keep anyone abreast of the nitty gritty details of my life.

I would text my girly group chat and we'd all enjoy each others hair, nails or new things. We chat rubbish throughout the day, every day, just inbetween life. It's really nice.

She’s probably just being polite since you brought it up in the first place, there’s no need to follow it up literally if it was just a trim.
Maybe if you’d gone for a radical restyle!

A trim and blow dry is not a share worthy event, but in our group chat we do share if we've had a new style, have nice nails, want an opinion on an outfit, eating something that looks particularly good etc. I love seeing these little snippets from their lives.

I have a whatsapp group with some friends where we would discuss and post pics of all such stuff, and another one with different friends where we discuss other things entirely. Room for both.

Daughters not friends

I don’t get ‘new nails’, the ones I’ve always had are fine (I appreciate they do grow, so in that sense I always have new nails). I don’t treat myself shopping either. I do get my hair cut and coloured twice a year, but it wouldn’t occur to me to send someone photos of it 😂

I message my mum everything 🙈 friends, no

Same for me. I didn’t realise it was considered weird in MN land to share your life with your friends. I don’t have a mum anymore, and no sisters to share girly gossip with. Just a small close group of friends. We all dl it, including the one man in the group.

I messaged my friends with a photo of my haircut just yesterday but it was because I'd had a fringe put in. I wouldn't normally and I never send photos of my nails, new clothes, dinner etc

I wouldn't send that kind of thing, but my two best friends I tell everything to in terms of emotions/what's happening in my life. Nothing is off limits. If I'm having a problem in my marriage or etc, they'll be the first to hear about it. They're my ride or dies. I've known my bestie my whole life as we grew up on the same street, and my other best friend I've known since 6th form.

I have some close friends with shared interests who I will absolutely send a pic to if I've got a new board game or whatever though 😁

Not routinely but eg last time I had my hair cut it was incredibly bad so I did tell a friend so that so we could have a good laugh about bad haircuts together. Neither of us do nails but when she has a big event recently she sent me pictures of her trying on a couple of dresses to get my opinion, if she said she had her nails done though I would probably ask for a picture! We both have a lot of very difficult stuff going on in our lives that we talk about so like to break it up with some lightness I think!

I don’t think it’s weird- just not my bag. I don’t have a mum either or a sister, and the person I chat to most is my DH but I have a group of female friends online that I chat to regularly. We mostly talk about our kids, our jobs, our health, our mental health, books we’ve read or stuff we’ve seen on telly, politics, holidays… It’s a really big group so there are lots of different conversations going on. Some of them do share photos of nails and outfits. Probably about half the group are interested in that sort of stuff and half not.

We do share all those kind of interesting things as well. Ours is a small group, only four of us. One living in Australia and one a male. All friends from school who have gone different, very interesting directions in life. We don’t just send hair/nail/fashion pictures, though two of us did study fashion/arts so have an interest in that.
Someone up thread did say it was very weird. I share with my husband as well but he’s as interested as I am about his football team 😆

Same here.

That’s strange and I’ve definitely not done it. When I see my friends they’ll often comment on my hair and one of them is my nail tech so she knows exactly they what my nails look like. The only time I take pics is to add them to socials and tag her to support her business. She’s really good at nail art so plenty of people do this. Otherwise why take photos, do your friends not see you IRL?