Would This Offend/Annoy You?

[MarmaladeSandwich7]

This happened a while ago but it still plays on my mind so I would appreciate an outside opinion. I have an FB friend who travels a lot, which is great. For context she is early 60s & childless. I was FB friends with her DH too. Happened to comment on a photo taken on one of their short breaks “ Are you guys ever home?” & soon after her DH blocked me! I messaged her about it & she said not to take it to heart as he was removing several friends from his list. He did unblock me but didn’t add me again. If someone posted that on my page it wouldn’t bother me at all!

Are you actually friends with him as well as her? If not I'd delete someone who comments on my pictures.

I would percieve the message you wrote as passive aggressive.

It wouldn't offend me to the point of blocking you but I do think it's quite a rude comment to put on a holiday photo.

I was when I commented

I absolutely meant no offence - it was meant as a jokey comment. They do go away a lot but if you have the finances & the freedom then why not?

It's possible he's got flack from others so had a clear out of who he sees as 'negative' people.

I wouldn't worry about it.

He sounds like a complete drama queen.

Do you know both of them irl and do you actually ever chat to him?
If not, he just purged and your comment brought you to top of the list.
Tbf it did sound bit passive aggro as pp said

I wouldn't mind that message at all.

@MarmaladeSandwich7 , some people see the worst in everything. I would have thought you were jokingly appreciating my lifestyle. People have said similar to my husband and I because we’re retired now and go on a lot of lovely holidays.

I don't see the worst in everything at all. But writing 'are you ever at home?' most certainly has a judgrmental air & i would never write that & would not appreciate it written on my holiday photo..

I travel a lot but don't so social media...

Yeah I agree. Especially as it sounds like the OP is friends with the wife but not the husband in real life. I'd be like, fuck off then.

It does sound a bit judgey tbf.

I think it's fine. It's a normal, jokey thing to say. If the DW said he's having a cull if FB friends then I would believe her.

It happened to me: someone unfriended me, someone who I thought of as a good friend, I'd known her for ages, we'd stayed at each other's houses, etc. I couldn't think why she'd done it. Told a mutual friend and she'd been unfriended too, and said she'd apparently been having a clear-out of people she didn't see often. I don't understand that, but there you go!

I’d think it was a slightly weird thing to write and wonder whether the commenter was in fact having RL conversations where she rolled her eyes and said ‘Dave and Emma are off in Greece again! Fine for some, I suppose!’i in a PA way.

I wouldn’t be in the least offended or annoyed, but I’d think the person who commented was probably not that alert to nuance.

I think it was quite a rude thing to say. I wouldn’t have removed you as a friend but would have rolled my eyes.

I’d also find it odd if someone messaged me to ask why my husband has deleted them off Facebook.

Yea it’s kinda rude. You may have thought you were joking (and this comes under the ‘banter’ definition which is never received well) but it’s hardly an original comment. I wouldn’t block you though.

I wouldn’t have asked if I was I unfriended but he initially blocked me!

I know him irl - he used to give my friend & me lifts on nights out & he was always very friendly, although we never actually socialised. I used to chat to him at his place of work too.

They do go away A LOT

Some people honestly do just remove people from Fb without thinking about it!

It's not something I would have written but nor would it have bothered me if someone wrote it to me.

I don't think I'd have really noticed it much or paid it a great deal of attention.

I think it would have been an ok comment in person as then the tone would have been clearer, but in writing on a photo it could have come across as judgy/critical.

Also I’d find it weird tbh if somebody that I’ve only chatted to in passing started commenting on my photos, you never socialised with the husband so I would say you’re an acquaintance not a friend.

Tbh in his shoes I’d have thought you were being both rude and weird, I’d probably have left it for a while and then quietly unfriended you.

Blocking you was a bit extreme though.

My friend was tagged in the photo I commented on.