Last time trend, bawling my eyes out (Title edited by MNHQ upon request)

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Came across the Last time trend on TikTok and now I’m stood in my kitchen sobbing.

For those who haven’t seen it, it’s a trend explaining how one day you’ll pick up your child for the last time but obviously you don’t know it’s the last time. That parenting habit just ends and new ones begin.

The trend shows people videoing themselves asking their child if they can pick them up and hold them one last time, the “child” is either late teens or even 20s/30 at that point and the mum hasn’t picked their child up in over a decade

It’s a heartbreaking and beautiful trend.
Has anyone else seen these?

Bawling? And fgs last times is how parenting works, how life works. Step away from TikTok

Without TikTok pointing it out I realised I was most likely writing the last birthday card ever to my mum recently. I bawled my eyes out then.

Well aren’t you delightful. And yes I made a spelling error, I’ve asked MN if they can change it if possible.

Wouldn't you put your back out picking up a 30 year old? Mine are 40s & 50s, it would be the death of me

I must be emotionally stunted because I cringe a little when I see that trend.
Yes, you get ‘last times’ but you also get to see them develop into adults, become more independent in the world and grow in other ways.
Mine are in my 20’s now and couldn’t pick them up if I wanted to, they are both over 6ft and well built 😂

Ha! I’ve seen some people struggling, especially when the mum is 5ft trying to pick up a 6.5ft 20 year old

DD feels like bawling thinking that she'll soon have to contemplate the First Time You Pick Up Your Mother trend.

Cheeky mare. I'm only 48.

If I tried to pick up my 11 year old I think she'd probably fight me! 😂

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Surely it’s lovely that you don’t have to pick them up any more. I’ve always enjoyed my dc growing up.

Most last times are celebrations of a milestone. It's usually a good thing. A few years ago I drove past a play centre I used to frequent and said to DH 'thank god I will never set foot there again'. I also know I will never spent an hour struggling to get someone to sleep or trip over toys on the floor or strap someone into a car seat. I will definitely never have someone follow me into the bathroom or sob because their cracker cracked or start wailing in the swimming pool changing room refusing to get dressed into warm clothes because they are cold because they are refusing to get dressed. I'm so so glad to have passed those hurdles forever.

It is lovely, obviously kids have grown up and they’ve become teenagers, adults, might have families of their own…

The whole point of it is that you never know when something will be the last time do it and it’s nice to recreate that moment one last time, but with the knowledge of it being so, I feel it makes it more special

It’s sad but life goes on OP. I was sad on the last day of primary for example but very quickly got over it. I love watching my kids become who they are.

I cringe too when I see trends like that. It’s all just a performance for social media - the likes, views and ££

I don't get the need to create sentimentality, surely the whole point is you don't know or acknowledge when these things happen. Artificially creating them to make a 'moment' seems a bit pathetic to me.

Oh i like it!

I realised recently that my beautiful boys are coming into the age where they think mum is embarrassing. It's such an important developmental stage- to separate emotionally from your parents. But it still gives me a small, ache.

I might go ask them if I can pick them up.

My son is well over 6’ and plays a lot of sport. I’d be needing medical attention if I tried to pick him up.

My 4yo had a nap on me the other day and I think it might have been the last one. He is my youngest and doesn’t really nap any more and it was so lovely holding him while he slept. One of life’s greatest privileges and pleasures and I’m unashamed of being sentimental about that!

The other day I shared one on Facebook that had me crying. I'm 5ft and my 9 and 11 year old are almost as tall as me already, you just don't realise how quickly their going to grow up do you 😭

Right done it. They laughed at me, but let me try. Now my back hurts.

I always felt that you outgrow stuff like that anyway. I was exhausted lugging my deceptively heavy boys around, even as toddlers, I was just relieved when they didn't need carrying.

I suspect that the last time I did pick them up, I immediately put them down and said, "you've got legs! Please walk!"

Yep it’s the fakeness of it. Maybe the first video would have been an authentic moment which the mum then decided to put up on tiktok, but then 100s start popping up.

How many takes did they do, you can imagine mums shouting to get the perfect shots or angles: ‘you need to be laughing more loudly, stop looking so grumpy, stand here'

I get you OP. I'm not on SM platforms and the showcase of it might make me cringe, but I'm very sentimental and I really feel this. I think about how recently we've had the last time ordering happy meals as the DC are wanting adult meals now 🥲

I picked my 16yo up in the pool last summer and carried him around. I'll probably do it again at some point in a pool. I wouldn't even attempt it on dry ground!