New neighbour seems bothered by normal daily noise

[ManoharDash]

We got new neighbours recently and the woman has already mentioned a couple of times that she can hear us in the evenings. I’m honestly a bit confused because we are not loud at all. The kids are at school most of the day and evenings are just normal things like getting ready for bed or me doing a quick tidy.
She told me she hears “thumping” but it is literally just footsteps. I even said I could check if something’s loose on our floor, but she just said we should be more mindful. I do get that moving into a new place can make every noise feel bigger and maybe she is still adjusting, but I can’t keep the whole family silent.
I don’t want any drama with neighbours, I just want to understand how much I should be worrying about this. Is it normal teething issues when people first move in, or should I be doing something different?

Tell them to fuck off?
This in a nutshell is what is wrong with the UK today.
We have absolutely no regard for one and other.

I think if it's just normal evening time and you're not blaring the tv or music etc, then she can't expect quiet/silence or particularly mindful behaviour. If its after 10/11pm then fair enough or if it's early in the morning, as people need quiet to sleep. I think basic things like being shoe free (shoes on stairs are super noisy) and not having anything turned up crazy loud is fair enough but you can't always be on edge at normal times of the day. You might need to just say to her what you can/can't do and that's that. See if she notices a particular time or activity that she finds particularly difficult but generally you can't all be silent. If you live in a terrace then you hear the neighbours, that's just life.

Indeed - just like the neighbourcunt that has no regard for the OP....

You don't know this. And neither does the OP.

I had this once with an upstairs neighbour. I felt quite sorry for her. She was clearly unwell..I would get notes shoved through my door about the noise..it was just me in a tiny fully carpeted flat and I was barely home. One day she complained about the noise when I had been away for the weekend and not even there. It was very stressful knowing that she was listening out for every tiny sound I made and her notes were horrible. So. Be nice but you have to keep on living freely in your own home. Some people are extremely sensitive to sound and if your neighbour is like that, any sound whatsoever will be a problem to them. In that case it is up to them to find solutions.

What are you on about?

The neighbour has no regard for the OP - their complaints are at best, spurious and at worst, laughable.

What is the OP and family to do - sit in silence?

Get real. The neighbour is a CF and very fucking unreasonable.

I'll try again.

@ManoharDash has not made any effort to find out if the neighbor's complaint is out of order. She has assumed all her house noise is reasonable. It doesn't mean it is, doesn't mean it isn't.

Local Councils, when advising about such things always but always recommend speaking to the neighbours first, finding out more.

I have it in mine I wanted to cry when I first moved in I found it so irritating. Luckily we realised it was an issue before we renovated upstairs so that got sound proofed. Never hear a peep. Downstairs I can hear a lot they have loud voices and 3 kids. I would soundproof if I was doing major works downstairs. Weirdly I can never hear their tv that sound doesn’t travel and I know it’s on an adjoining wall. I think it’s more to do with the back of the house than their living room. And yes I will mute my tv to see what thing they are arguing over 😆

The OP owes neighbourcunt nothing.

Neighbourcunt is the one with the issue about noise. Neighbourcunt has made unsubstantiated noise claims.

Neighbourcunt can fuck off or get the Clowncil to install sound devices to measure the alleged noise to see if there is as much as neighbourcunt thinks/claims there is.

The OP has no obligation to assist neighbourcunt other than to tell her to get to fuck. Thats all that neighbourcunt deserves frankly.

So the answer is aggression and to tell people to fuck off rather than work together to see if there actually is an issue and go forward?

Ok, sorry that you're 'another one of those'. Have too many already. Neighbourcunt, ffs.

I was the "neighbourcunt" as pp succinctly called it.
They claimed normal living noise but run washer an high spin every second night at 1am with no padding, vibrating my kitchen and wall which was attached to bedroom wall, and sounded like army parade was marching through when "walking" which was extremely audible in my flat. Alongside all the shouting, sorry talking. And night music on.
I didn't even live below them, but above them. Swear they "walked" on ceilings.
I lost money surrendering tenancy because the "normal living noise" was that unbearable. Combination of loud people and shitty build. I am not some princess who demands absolute silence.

Not saying OP is like that, but we don't know do we. So maybe some postets should chill bit.

You need to find out from your neighbour exactly what the issues are; like others have suggested, going round to hear things from their side when this noise is happening, or changing something your side and awaiting further comment - or not! - from your neighbour.

One of the issues may be the construction of the properties, but also, some people are just much louder than others, and I’m not sure they realise half the time!

In our previous home (end of terrace) despite the stairs being on opposite rather than our adjoining walls, we could hear whenever anyone when thumping up and down the stairs, and that family seemed to love slamming doors! In our current home, we’re in a semi and we have a family adjoined to us who seem unable to speak at normal volume - they’ve had sound complaints from others in the road who aren’t even attached! We haven’t ever complained formally, though once had to tell them to knock it on the head when a loud weekday party ran into the early hours and I was up for work at 4:30am that morning. We also used to hear their eldest son, with the loudest booming voice, playing online with his friends. However, we never complained and just stuck on noise cancelling headphones, and now we have an eldest teenage son who plays online with his friends whose bedroom adjoins that of the eldest son next door, and we don’t tell him to quieten down; they can be on the receiving end of some normal teenager noise for a bit!!!

Generally speaking we are a much quieter household than most, and we’re sensitive to noise from others, but if that noise isn’t unreasonable then we just pop our noise cancelling headphones on until it passes. But having also lived next door in the past to someone whose frequent arguments we could hear and whose dogs barked for up to 20 hours a day - no exaggeration, we had records where we nearly got to a point of reporting to environmental health - I know how ill it can make you and how stressful it is, so I do think it’s important to establish whether your normal is most people’s too loud and if so you need to make some changes, or whether your neighbour is just more sensitive to noise and therefore it’s on them to resolve.

Wow- are you okay? I’m going to have to assume that this thread is triggering something for you because presumably you’ve been in the OP’s situation and didn’t take it well?

If this is your regular level of language and empathy, I’m also going to assume your own neighbourcunt was probably entirely reasonable in their expectations and the victim in the situation.

Genuinely found this post of yours uplifting and amusing at the same time!

Always appreciate people that bring a smile to the world 👍

That's an escalation to the original post.

I'm guessing you vote reform??