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My dd popped to the pub this afternoon.

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Ponchodreams · 16/11/2025 20:28

My dd has been at her friend's this afternoon. When she got home she informed me that they'd both popped in the local pub for a drink and a packet of crisps. Now I'm sure this was a lovely afternoon for them both and I don't suspect them of any dodgy behaviour, but they are only 12😨!! I am slightly bemused by this as it's ridiculous, but would you say anything to the pub???

OP posts:
MikeRafone · 16/11/2025 22:09

Wishitsnows · 16/11/2025 22:06

Sounds like they had a nice afternoon! Can’t see the issue and it’s not illegal

It’s not legal to go to the pub under 16 on your own, you need to be accompanied by an over 18

PodMom · 16/11/2025 22:11

mzpq · 16/11/2025 21:54

Could you please link to these licensing laws that state that?

Because all I can see is AI which isn't terribly reliable, is it?

I wouldn’t know about AI as i haven’t looked at it. I’ve already posted a non AI link once. Here is another summary for you from Worthing council. Maybe you’d consider a council source better. Or you could just google yourself for stuff. Seems the Act you want is the 2003 licensing Act

https://www.adur-worthing.gov.uk/media/Media,98512,smxx.pdf

https://www.adur-worthing.gov.uk/media/Media,98512,smxx.pdf

EchoedSilence · 16/11/2025 22:11

Oh ffs. It's not that big a deal. No wonder people think MN is shit now. This place used to be funny.

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TyroleanKnockabout · 16/11/2025 22:12

mzpq · 16/11/2025 20:36

Surely your DD knew full well you wouldn't allow her into a pub without you or another adult?

I wouldn’t have known at that age. Our pub was very gastro.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 16/11/2025 22:12

Omg I read thinking she was like 17

Omg!! Yanbu at all x

BreakfastClubBlues · 16/11/2025 22:14

AmberRose86 · 16/11/2025 21:31

lol my 11 year old had her first solo trip to Costa recently and came home scandalised by how expensive it was.

“7.50 for a small hot chocolate and a tiny little cake???”

Yes, dear daughter, this is why we don’t go there every day despite it being just round the corner…

My 12yo DD went to the shop to buy a box of cereal, she called on the way home absolutely OUTRAGED at the cost 😂

This post really made me smile OP. I can just imagine them sitting there, with their J2Os, putting the world to rights!

Fictionalfox · 16/11/2025 22:14

MikeRafone · 16/11/2025 22:06

Because it’s a licensed premises not a cafe

It’s a village pub on a Sunday afternoon. If it’s anything like most villages it was probably the only place to get a drink and a snack.

Tollington · 16/11/2025 22:17

An orange juice and a packet of crisps. I think they’ll both be okay

PodMom · 16/11/2025 22:17

Even better it seems like there’s nothing in the law to even prevent them having a job behind the bar once they are legally allowed to have a job which seems to be 13yo 🤣🤣🤣

There is no prohibition on children working behind the bar under the age of 18.
The prohibitions that were contained in earlier legislation were repealed by
the 2003 act, although the law covering the employment of children still
applies. The only restriction that is now placed on anyone working in the bar
under the age of 18 is that they cannot sell alcohol unless every sale is
specifically approved by an adult.

that’s direct from a govt document

https://researchbriefings.files.parliament.uk/documents/SN04908/SN04908.pdf

pinkpony88 · 16/11/2025 22:19

I used to do this with a friend when we were about 14. We used to go for a lemonade and a pudding! Happy times 🥰

Ponchodreams · 16/11/2025 22:19

She would bloody LOVE to work in the pub!!!

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Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 16/11/2025 22:19

My daughter did similar🤣. They hung out in the beer garden & used the loo! The staff didn’t allegedly mind.

RightOnTheEdge · 16/11/2025 22:21

tonyhawks23 · 16/11/2025 21:58

Our village pub or our local weather spoons would both be completely fine for my 12 year old to pop in to, completely normal here.neither are remotely rowdy but very civilised.village pub even sells sweets behind the bar.

I work for Spoons and your 12yr old should definitely not be allowed in there without an adult.

Under 16s are not allowed in without and adult and are definitely not allowed to be served at the bar.
We are really strict about it at our pub so from a professional point of view I am clutching my pearls 😆🤣

My Spoons on an afternoon is usually full of retired people, people working on laptops and families, so it wouldn't be an unsafe place to be though.

MikeRafone · 16/11/2025 22:22

under the age of 18 is that they cannot sell alcohol unless every sale is
specifically approved by an adult.

how are you going to to get around this ^

MarxistMags · 16/11/2025 22:23

It's hilarious 😆 I know it's wrong but you have to admire their initiative !

seaelephant · 16/11/2025 22:23

As a child, the village local would give us a tin of juice and a packet of crisps to take away with us. Once we were 16 could we sit in with a pint 😄

PodMom · 16/11/2025 22:24

RightOnTheEdge · 16/11/2025 22:21

I work for Spoons and your 12yr old should definitely not be allowed in there without an adult.

Under 16s are not allowed in without and adult and are definitely not allowed to be served at the bar.
We are really strict about it at our pub so from a professional point of view I am clutching my pearls 😆🤣

My Spoons on an afternoon is usually full of retired people, people working on laptops and families, so it wouldn't be an unsafe place to be though.

Is that because your pub is seen primarily as a drinking pub though? Not sure as I’ve never been to Spoons, I’m aware they sell food but what’s the balance?

Also different pubs, especially chains can set their own rules. So does the bonkers boss of Spoons just have that as company policy?

Some specific pubs can also be restricted as part of their licence from being able to admit unaccompanied under 16s.

HonoriaBulstrode · 16/11/2025 22:24

She would bloody LOVE to work in the pub!!!

When is she thirteen, OP? 😁

KilliMonjaro · 16/11/2025 22:25

A child can legally buy non alcoholic drinks in a pub - depending on the pub’s policy.

alexdgr8 · 16/11/2025 22:26

The details depend on the conditions imposed by the licensing authority.
Also the management may set their own policies and further restrictions.
I Find some of the attitudes on here quite concerning.
Glad to hear that Wetherspoons at least are upholding reasonable standards.

PodMom · 16/11/2025 22:26

MikeRafone · 16/11/2025 22:22

under the age of 18 is that they cannot sell alcohol unless every sale is
specifically approved by an adult.

how are you going to to get around this ^

They do this in my village co-op. So a 16yo is serving and I have a bottle of wine. 16yo Mollie shouts over to 18yo Jim, “hey can I sell this” while waving my wine in the air. Jim glances over at me, decides I’m obviously of an age and tells Mollie to go ahead.

Howwilliknow122 · 16/11/2025 22:26

TomatoSandwiches · 16/11/2025 20:44

If you've been with mum and dad to the pub before then surely it's reasonable to the 12yr old that they could also go to the pub, it's just like McDonalds or the supermarket to them.

Said no parent ever... 🤦🏻‍♀️

alexdgr8 · 16/11/2025 22:27

PodMom · 16/11/2025 22:26

They do this in my village co-op. So a 16yo is serving and I have a bottle of wine. 16yo Mollie shouts over to 18yo Jim, “hey can I sell this” while waving my wine in the air. Jim glances over at me, decides I’m obviously of an age and tells Mollie to go ahead.

A Co OP is a grocery store.
Not a pub.

PodMom · 16/11/2025 22:27

pinkpony88 · 16/11/2025 22:19

I used to do this with a friend when we were about 14. We used to go for a lemonade and a pudding! Happy times 🥰

Were you friends with my daughter 🤣

Bungle2168 · 16/11/2025 22:29

On the remote chance this is true, I give you exhibit a: parental failure.

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