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Would love to know your response to this!

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 20:23

Bit gobsmacked really! Is this 2025 or 1960?

I will try to keep this brief!

Bought a ring at an auction, love it. Emerald and diamonds, got it at a really good price when I bid for it. (Not a lot, about £250, I was lucky, worth more)

Anyway, it's an emerald centre stone with little tiny diamonds round the edge.

On holiday recently I realised I'd lost a tiny diamond from it, and it really showed so took it to a well recommended jeweller near where I live. Husband and wife team, they've been there for 30 years, great reputation.

To repair it would need complete resetting, as he has to remove the central stone, and repair the claw sets of the whole thing. Cost far more than I would've thought but had asked elsewhere too, and this guy is good.

So to rebuild the ring, it was £350, but I know I got a bargain so decided to go for it.

The wife took the ring to the counter and said...

"Would you like to go home and ask hubby if it's OK to go ahead?"

I was not rude but said very firmly. "No. It's my ring, it's my money"

The woman behind me sniggered, she got it.

I'm amazed this sort of thing exists in this day and age. I'm old, but haven't been confronted with this for quite a while...

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CalmShaker · 14/11/2025 20:39

I think with it being a ring she probably thought your husband would pay, not to be belittling but just as a 'he should pay' thing.
What did your husband say?

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 20:42

I didn't even tell him! I bought the ring and would pay to have it repaired if it needed it.

Maybe it's just me. I'm of an era where my husband had to agree and sign rental agreements etc. I've sort of moved on from that....

My adult DCs thought it was badly hilarious...

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vincettenoir · 14/11/2025 20:46

CalmShaker · 14/11/2025 20:39

I think with it being a ring she probably thought your husband would pay, not to be belittling but just as a 'he should pay' thing.
What did your husband say?

Edited

Who cares what her husband said? It sounds like you dealt with this well OP. I would have been pissed off too.

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lemonraspberry · 14/11/2025 20:54

It happens. I was after new windows for my house which I was paying for. Whilst on the phone arranging for someone to come round & quote they asked if I had a partner/husband. When I said I had a partner they insisted he would have to be there as well, with the salesman, to help make the decisions on type of windows etc.

needless to say I went elsewhere for a quote.

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 20:56

lemonraspberry · 14/11/2025 20:54

It happens. I was after new windows for my house which I was paying for. Whilst on the phone arranging for someone to come round & quote they asked if I had a partner/husband. When I said I had a partner they insisted he would have to be there as well, with the salesman, to help make the decisions on type of windows etc.

needless to say I went elsewhere for a quote.

Oh, yes, I get that. I pay for some stuff and if I ask for a quote, I don't need a husband to OK a go ahead.

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IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 14/11/2025 21:05

I just want to see a pic of the ring!

MCF86 · 14/11/2025 21:11

I wouldn't have even liked the assumption you had a husband, let alone that he held the purse strings!

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 21:13

IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 14/11/2025 21:05

I just want to see a pic of the ring!

Haha... g'wan then... here it is, with missing diamond...

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 21:14

oops

Would love to know your response to this!
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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 21:14

MCF86 · 14/11/2025 21:11

I wouldn't have even liked the assumption you had a husband, let alone that he held the purse strings!

Well, exactly! I could've been on my own or widowed or whatever!

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RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 14/11/2025 21:15

What a lovely ring.

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 21:16

Thanks! I really liked it... I did an online auction, and was told I got it a really good price so I didn't mind spending money on it.

My ring, my money!
(excuse old wrinkly hands lol)

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IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 14/11/2025 21:33

It’s beautiful. I do love a vintage ring! The repair will be money well spent x

Sk3l3t0n · 14/11/2025 21:49

Took my car in recently and was explaining the issues. Husband turned up, husband who does not drive the car and has not experienced any of the issues but was meeting me to collect me and drive me home. Suddenly I no longer excited, I was merely a long distant memory to the mechanic who focused all his attention on my DH and explained everything to him 🙄

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jumpingthehighjump · 14/11/2025 21:50

So bad, really is!

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weirdthread · 14/11/2025 21:57

lemonraspberry · 14/11/2025 20:54

It happens. I was after new windows for my house which I was paying for. Whilst on the phone arranging for someone to come round & quote they asked if I had a partner/husband. When I said I had a partner they insisted he would have to be there as well, with the salesman, to help make the decisions on type of windows etc.

needless to say I went elsewhere for a quote.

I have a feeling this one might come out of bad past experience. It might be a policy to save them loss and hassle.

Bjorkdidit · 14/11/2025 22:06

Just when you start to think we're past this sort of shit, you come across someone who appears to be stuck in the past.

I've been away this week and did a coach tour one day, at least 3 times the tour guide (a woman in her early 60s, I'd estimate so not that much older than me but apparently decades older in mindset) said the women on the bus should ask their husbands to buy them things from the gift shop.

She also said that if the men didn't want the included wine when we stopped for lunch they could ask for a beer.

DarkRootsBlue · 15/11/2025 09:41

I had a heating engineer come round and he commented that an outlet pipe needed some cement around it. He followed that with ‘Do you have a husband? A son?’. I found it really awkward, I have neither and felt judged. I was embarrassed so weakly just said ‘No’ and he apologised. Which made it worse!

It caught me off guard. I’ve lived alone for 20 years and am more than capable of a bit of minor DIY.

Poorabbeywalsh2 · 15/11/2025 09:53

Lol..... the Handmaid needs talking to......I like to think I'd laugh at her question than respond with anger. More like " ... what's he got to do with this" ....... and then tell her I'm widowed which would teach her a lesson. For sure it's a beautiful ring OP. Good for you. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

isitmytime · 15/11/2025 10:01

I was on the hunt for a new car and went to a show room with my now EXH the car was for me, only me, being paid for solely by me. Found one I liked and was asking the salesman for more details. Every answer was directed to EXH the salesman went over the specifications to EXH (who in fairness kept saying tell her, she’s buying it) I walked out, without saying another word, after he told EXH all about the cars performance and then opened the back door and told me it had rear speakers.

when I bought this house after divorce a carpet company asked if my “other half” would come in to sign the purchase agreement…I hadn’t mentioned any “other half” because I didn’t have one! They didn’t get my business either.

Crinkle77 · 15/11/2025 10:04

This shit is annoying but perhaps she thought that if it was an engagement ring that your husband would be paying for the repairs. She was wrong to snigger at you and should have apologised for her mistake. Reminds me of when my sister had a problem (not sure what exactly) with her sander and went to then DIY shop and asked for a replacement part of a particular size. The guy said something like 'are you sure he's measured it right' and she said I know it's right cos it's my sander and I measured it. The guy was suitably embarrassed!

BillieWiper · 15/11/2025 10:05

I would've probably tried to make her squirm a bit by saying 'I don't have one.' with a wide grin.

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jumpingthehighjump · 15/11/2025 11:56

Crinkle77 · 15/11/2025 10:04

This shit is annoying but perhaps she thought that if it was an engagement ring that your husband would be paying for the repairs. She was wrong to snigger at you and should have apologised for her mistake. Reminds me of when my sister had a problem (not sure what exactly) with her sander and went to then DIY shop and asked for a replacement part of a particular size. The guy said something like 'are you sure he's measured it right' and she said I know it's right cos it's my sander and I measured it. The guy was suitably embarrassed!

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No, it wasn't the woman serving (husband and wife team in an independent shop) who sniggered. It was a woman who came into the shop and was waiting her turn to be served and I could tell she just got it!

And the woman serving would know it was not an engagement ring, given I'm grey haired and old! And it was on my right hand, and I took it off my finger in front of her.

Your sister and the sander! Glad guy serving was embarrassed!

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Crinkle77 · 15/11/2025 11:59

Ah right sorry OP sorry I misunderstood.

BruisedNeckMeat · 15/11/2025 12:03

Definitely rather old fashioned! If I’m being charitable though, considering it was quite an expensive repair, perhaps she was giving you an opportunity to leave without embarrassment??

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