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What treatment would King Charles get

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Notreadyforit · 12/11/2025 06:51

Got a call a few hours ago from hospital. My dad was at friends for dinner this evening, tripped and fell on way to the car. The scan showed fractures and he has a brain bleed. I was told they’d probably need to operate at another hospital and they sent the scans to another hospital who said they don’t need to operate and monitor him where he is. I assume he probably left the house around 10. A and E is busy, with a 13 hour wait. Hospitals are at capacity. Dr Google says quick action and operation (I know, I know). He can’t speak, can barely move one side, has vomited and was trying to push something out of his mouth which ended up being a blood clot. I’m wondering if the treatment path is right for him - how will I know? What would they say if it was King Charles? My poor dad - I spoke to him earlier today and all was fine. They want to monitor him in resus for another five hours. There is no ventilation, no masks, just vulnerable patients and shitloads of viruses about.

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Notreadyforit · 21/11/2025 14:15

It’s not EOL in the traditional sense. It’s due to brain damage. Since that decision, he has moved leg he was unable to move, communicated, not had more seizures (med controlled). I don’t know what new baseline would have been. They said it might get worse before it got better, but when things started to change, that was it. It may have still reached the same conclusion, but improvement wasn’t factored in.

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Notreadyforit · 22/11/2025 03:27

I hope I’ve done the right thing not letting my children see him. They’re desperate to.

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MyChristmasCheerHasBuggeredOff · 22/11/2025 04:10

How old are your children?

Notreadyforit · 22/11/2025 06:24

In primary school.

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TheApocalypticiansApprentice · 22/11/2025 08:20

If it were my parent they would very much want to see their grandchildren …

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 22/11/2025 08:48

How does he look? If he’s very battered and bruised, or with machinery, it may scare them.

You can prepare them for how he is though, explain that he doesn’t look very well, but be reasonably clear. Don’t say he’s a funny colour when you mean he isn’t his usual healthy skin colour, he’s a bit greyer. Children’s imagination can be enthusiastic. ‘A funny colour and attached to machines’ can leave them imagining he looks like a transformer.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 20:23

Notreadyforit · 22/11/2025 03:27

I hope I’ve done the right thing not letting my children see him. They’re desperate to.

You should let them see him!

Vitriolinsanity · 22/11/2025 20:31

I would not begrudge KC the standard of treatment he, and everyone, should get. Maybe if he were to visit our hospital on any given day or night, particularly night, he would certainly consider himself one extremely lucky fella.

I have come to realise and experience that it is now mandatory to spend +24 hours from arrival by whatever means in a corridor on a trolley if you’re very lucky, and if you are less lucky sitting upright in a small ante-room with a dozen other poor souls before hoping to win the golden ticket onto a ward.

sickleaveornot · 24/11/2025 20:49

@Notreadyforithow are you doing x

Notreadyforit · 26/11/2025 05:53

Thanks for asking. Running on fumes, walking through concrete. Dad very weak now and his breathing is laboured. I don’t know if he can still hear me or feel me holding his hand.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 20:23

You should let them see him!

My DC's were in the house when my fil died of cancer ( Boxing day) and they held his hand the day before and chatted to him.. They were in primary school. They also spoke to my dad on the iPad before he died on the COVID ward. They weren't traumatised and I think it helped them process that they could say goodbye. One think I will say it's dad and fil passed away soon after. I think they both felt seeing them was closure. Thinking of you. It's hard

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/11/2025 09:30

Notreadyforit · 26/11/2025 05:53

Thanks for asking. Running on fumes, walking through concrete. Dad very weak now and his breathing is laboured. I don’t know if he can still hear me or feel me holding his hand.

Oh darling I'm so sorry.

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Allisnotlost1 · 26/11/2025 14:27

Notreadyforit · 26/11/2025 05:53

Thanks for asking. Running on fumes, walking through concrete. Dad very weak now and his breathing is laboured. I don’t know if he can still hear me or feel me holding his hand.

i believe he can hear you, and what’s more you will know that you held his hand and talked to him until the end. Love to you.

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/11/2025 14:32

They say that hearing is the last thing to go so he may be able to hear you. And even if there is no conscious thought left for him, he will be comforted by you.

sickleaveornot · 26/11/2025 18:54

Notreadyforit · 26/11/2025 05:53

Thanks for asking. Running on fumes, walking through concrete. Dad very weak now and his breathing is laboured. I don’t know if he can still hear me or feel me holding his hand.

Sending love 💝

Notreadyforit · 27/11/2025 06:50

He died this morning with me holding his hand telling him how much I love him. I stayed with him for a couple of hours, until a doctor became available to certify his death and then had a final hug. I don’t know if I believe in an afterlife. If there’s one, I hope he’s enjoying himself with Mum and getting to still be a wonderful grandad to his grandkids who didn’t make it to birth. Rest in peace my darling dad.

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Luna6 · 27/11/2025 06:58

So sorry for your loss. X

SugarMiceInTheRain · 27/11/2025 06:59

So sorry about your darling dad. Your love for him shines out from your posts. Sending you my condolences and a virtual hand hold. 💐

CrowMate · 27/11/2025 07:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

fancyfrogs · 27/11/2025 07:04

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family x

Applepe · 27/11/2025 07:09

So sorry for your loss. Something similar happened to my dad. Take care of yourself and your family.

Cornishmaiden · 27/11/2025 07:28

So sorry for your loss. I lost Mum earlier this year in very similar circumstances. One day at a time was what has got me through. Sending love to you.x