Just interested - how much time did / does your company give for a bereavement

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My lovely dad passed away two weeks ago after a 6 month battle with cancer.

Work were obviously aware and if I needed to take time to be with him (to give his partner a break) I had to use annual leave.

Ive been given a weeks paid bereavement leave but it wasn’t enough so I self certified sick last week and will go and see my GP to be further signed off this coming week. The funeral isn’t for another 10 days and there’s so much to do. Concentrating on planning that plus grieving means I cannot think about work.

One of my friends was shocked I only get one week paid but another said that was the norm.

I feel guilty now for taking sick leave but work isn’t on my mind at the moment.

Is a week leave the usual? Or is my employer in the dark ages?

2 days paid (extended to up to a week for a child/spouse.)

2 days for a parent and had to take the day for funeral as annual leave

Five days is fairly standard.

2 weeks paid for immediate family members. Sorry for your loss xx

5 days for parent, spouse or child

2 days grandparent etc.

My DF also had 5 days when my nan, his mother, passed, and his company is a much better one that mine so I think it’s quite standard

Up to 5 days for a close family member.

5 days. Used to be 3.

I work part-time so I didn't really need to take leave as I could make arrangements etc in my non-working time, but I did get a day to go to the registrar to register the death and visit the funeral people, and the day of the funeral off as compassionate leave. I don't doubt that if I had needed more time, they would have given me more paid leave.

Some employers are much nicer than others.

3 days at previous company, but I was allowed to work from home at Mum's- and when I saw the GP, she said, "that's nothing like enough!" and signed me off for 3 weeks no question.

If you're arranging the funeral and executing the will, a few days just isn't enough.

I had 5 days when DH passed away. But I was also signed off sick at the time as I had undergone a hysterectomy 4weeks prior & had a further 4 weeks on my sick note.

I took a month off when my mum died and it was all paid, I have no idea whether that’s the policy but they basically said take what you need.

I’m nhs…think it’s 3 days compassionate …but everyone goes off sick on full pay…most take around 3 months off for a parent

I got 5 days when Mum died and took a further week sick via self certification. When MIL died only a few weeks after FIL I took 3 days sick to take care of my DH who was obviously devastated. I was given compassionate leave for both of their funerals.

My dad died on 28th September. I had to take 3 days to do the paperwork as he lived a distance from me and I'm the executor for his will. The funeral was on Monday. Initially I asked for Monday - Wednesday but it then became apparent this wouldn't work due to having to collect his ashes etc. So I've had 8 days off, employer is local authority. Most friends have been surprised that I didn't take much longer, but my actual team have made it pretty obvious they expected it to be less. I'd expect to have to be signed off if I felt I needed longer, but I was ok working in between the death and the funeral. A lot of people can't and I respect that.

3 months! That’s quite shocking to me.

As a teacher when Mil died l was given a day grudgingly.

DH got 5 days. Not sure about my employer but I know most people go on sick leave until at least after the funeral.

At my workplace compassionate leave is unpaid but you can use annual leave. The last person who lost a parent took 2 days including the funeral purely due to financial reasons.

And we wonder where all the money goes that’s ploughed into the NHS?

Our policy - most people go off on long term sick leave.

Immediate Family (spouse, partner, child, parent, sibling, grandparent, grandchild, stepparent, and stepchildren): Up to 5 working days of paid leave may be granted.
Child Bereavement Leave (statutory): In the event of the death of a child under the age of 18 or a stillbirth after 24 weeks, an employee is entitled to 2 weeks of paid leave, which can be taken in separate blocks within 56 weeks of the death. This is in addition to any standard compassionate leave entitlement.

Relative or Friend (not listed above): Up to 1 day of paid leave may be authorised to attend the funeral.
Long-Distance Travel: An additional day of paid leave may be granted if the employee has to travel a long distance to attend or arrange the funeral.
Discretionary Extension: In exceptional circumstances, a manager can use their discretion to extend the leave period further, either as annual leave or unpaid special leave, depending on individual circumstances and needs.

2 full weeks - could have taken more if I had wanted to and negotiated it with my manager.

Work gave me 2 weeks when my dbro died suddenly in an accident. That was at my managers discretion, standard is a week. I tried to go back after 3 weeks but a very stressful job plus a dreadfully tragic situation lead to me taking 6 weeks off, 4 as sick leave.

My former employer used to allow 10 work days off for the person arranging the funeral. When my dad died, I was shocked to discover that they now only allow a total of 5 days compassionate leave a year.

I was told to get myself signed off. I didn't, because part of a holiday period coincided with that period, so I was able to do what was needed and I think I'm right in saying that I only took the day of the funeral. Even so, it was terribly stressful - Mum had dementia and I was also organising her care package.

Otherwise, I would probably have had to get myself signed off.

Civil Service. 5 days paid leave for close family member. I took the 5 days plus 5 days annual leave when mum died suddenly.

Some people can’t cope coming back so take sick leave. The most I’ve seen is six months for a spouse and for a child (then they lose money so they come back).