Just interested - how much time did / does your company give for a bereavement

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My lovely dad passed away two weeks ago after a 6 month battle with cancer.

Work were obviously aware and if I needed to take time to be with him (to give his partner a break) I had to use annual leave.

Ive been given a weeks paid bereavement leave but it wasn’t enough so I self certified sick last week and will go and see my GP to be further signed off this coming week. The funeral isn’t for another 10 days and there’s so much to do. Concentrating on planning that plus grieving means I cannot think about work.

One of my friends was shocked I only get one week paid but another said that was the norm.

I feel guilty now for taking sick leave but work isn’t on my mind at the moment.

Is a week leave the usual? Or is my employer in the dark ages?

It’s not shocking, it’s bollocks.

3 months? Really?

We get 3 days but managers (in some teams) are good with compassionate leave. I think the expectation where I am is for close relatives most people are off between death and the funeral.

I think it's a week, but then the rest is down to line managers. If someone is unfit to work through grief there's no point them being in.

3 days for next of kin, none for anyone else.

3 months! Bloody hell. I think that's disgusting, if that is a verified figure.

3 days

Three days at my work

It used to be 5 days but they recently updated the policy for immediate family to 2 weeks.

We have a flexible policy depending on the circumstances. A young team member lost his mother suddenly. He was off on paid bereavement leave for 2 weeks and then paid sick leave for another 2.

We are guided by the needs of the individual and circumstances.

I took 3 days when a family member died, and another for the funeral. It was what I needed at the time and felt right for me.

When my mum died I got 3 days then my manager was threatening to fire me. I eeked another 2 (only child and only one doing all plans for the funeral etc) then handed my notice in when I got back. His mum died 2 years later and he had a breakdown.

I got 2 and a half weeks paid, went back to work and my head wasn’t in the game and got signed off by the doctor for another 2 weeks (first time I’ve ever been signed off).
So 4.5 weeks in total paid.

i then took a week unpaid to sort out a lot of death admin which needed to be done.

Company was really good about it! I cannot fault them.

I’m horrified! One of my p-t members of staff had booked holiday when his DD was ill and then died. He had a total of 4 weeks off, but that was his choice, I would have allowed another week. He also was given his leave back. I don’t understand how employers expect staff to work when they are still grieving.
I know “life goes on” but our company’s mantra is the staff will step up when you ask them to, in the future.

I'm local government. 3 days for an immediate family member (parent, partner, child, sibling). That includes the funeral too.

Most people get signed off sick instead.

3 days including the funeral for immediate family member. Death of a parent in law needs to be taken as annual leave, with only 1 day given fur the funeral.

We get 3 days, including the day of the funeral, for a parent, spouse or child. It’s only 2 days for a sibling or grandparent and 1 day for the funeral only for a more distant relative or close friend. Obviously most people do use sickness leave to cover longer following a bereavement and I don’t think management would expect someone back after 3 days, it’s just all the official policy covers.

2 days paid leave and only for grandparent, parent, spouse, child, grandchild.

Officially, 2 days paid bereavement. However I lost my father in the spring and when I requested additional unpaid leave the HR team just quietly signed the time off as paid leave (outside of my annual leave allowance).

When I worked the policy was 5 days but we always said people could have more. Generally speaking it was whatever they needed.

2 days paid (different employers for both parents). Df 30 years ago, my line manager just said go to dr and get signed off with stress
(I was, it was very sudden.) And mum, my lm(deputyhead) at the time had the rep of being an utter twat, just told me to come back after half term(she died a week before) and self cert only IF I was ready. So Simon, thank you.

When my daughter died I got 5 days, I used up the rest of my annual leave for everything else. I could have had longer but it would have been unpaid.

but bills and whatnot still happen.bereaved or not.

Sorry for your loss OP. One day at a time

Well of course it’s with a fit note …..I mean why would someone come to work on the day of parents funeral when they get sick leave paid 🤷‍♀️

Disgusting? To take time off sick when your parent dies and you cannot work due to stress and grief? ….glad I work where I do then , where there’s no one like you

I'm a teacher, think it's a week. When my mum died I was working 3 days/week - she died on a non working day and her funeral was also a non working day so I think I only had one actual day off. That suited me best, I needed to be busy.

That's actually disgusting

just want to make the point also that following the death of a child there is statutory parentsl bereavement leave available of 2 weeks - it isn't at full pay though