Does height difference matter in a relationship?

[Benny91]

As I’m 6ft 4in and my girlfriend is 4ft 11in, is this weird for a relationship? What do you think?

As my girlfriend and I occasionally do get looks from people.

It does to me
that height differentiation would be a deal breaker for me unless the person in question was ticked every other box
I predict this will go down like a sack of shit

I'm 5'7 and BF is 5'3. It does sometimes feel awkward in public, but never when were alone together and that's what counts!

I know BF has felt frustrated in the past that very tall men "take" all the short women 🤣

Only practically. I'm also less than 5ft and my OH is over 6ft, and I've never felt self-conscious or anything like that, but when it comes to things like choosing furniture, storage layouts etc, the height difference really matters then!

My Auntie is 4ft 10, my uncle is 6ft 2 (at least he was until he started shrinking)
They've been married for 45 years.

Does your back not hurt? Does she get neck strain from trying to look up at you all the time?

Im 6 feet tall, dh 5 feet 8. Not an issue.

Weird in what way? If you are attracted to each other and love and care for each other, why does anything else matter? My parents have a height difference and it has never once being 'weird'.

Isn’t that the joy of life ? That we come in all shapes and sizes and colours and lumps and bumps? You have to ignore what other people think and date/love the person you enjoy spending time with… should we all get old and wrinkly anyway?

It's not weird, but it matters to me personally as I'm 5'9" so prefer a bloke to be taller than me.

The same height difference between me and my DH. We’ve been married for 34 years now and it has never bothered us.

I'm 5ft and DH is 6'3". No neck strain but at 60 I have no lines on my neck and a taunt jawline! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm 5 feet 1 and my husband is 6 feet 5. Never, ever been an issue.

I’m going to hide once I’ve posted this: I have never been attracted to any man who was shorter than me. Although at 5’6” this hasn’t caused me many problems. Apologies for being shallow

I know a happily married couple who are 5ft3 and 6ft8.

I know several happily married couples where the husband is quite a bit shorter than the wife.

My own DH is just short of a foot taller than me. We’ve been married nearly 30 years.

It’s really not relevant.

Why would it be an issue? Do you mean what others think of you in public?

Don't bother with that at all.

You could be 'perfect' and someone, somewhere, could still think negatively of you.

Most likely people won't think anything of you or your gf at all, but the strange judgey ones will always find something to criticise strangers on, because they are mentally protecting themselves from their own insecurities.

Weird is completely the wrong word IMO and it's not as simply as just height. I'd say it also depends on the build of the two people.

IMO It can look unusual if the female is significantly taller than the male.

I dated a man who was much much shorter than me - had I not ended it because he was abusive, I would've ended it due to the height difference (people laughed at us a number of times and commented on the difference). We met online and his profile stated he was of average height. He was very slim, almost petit in build. I'm not large but certainly not petit.

Not at all a problem. I am very short and my DH is over 6 foot. However when we were in our 20s he had a few odd looks which made him uncomfortable because I looked very young for my age and was often mistaken for a teenager. In fact I’m older than him!

I had a very tall female friend who used to be furious about very short women dating very tall men. The way she saw it, they had no business “taking” the very few men who were taller than her, when just about every man was already taller than them. She nearly had an apoplexy when another friend who was under 5’ started dating (and later married) a 6’7 basketball player!

Genetically speaking I suppose it makes sense though - you’re more likely to produce average height children that way.

My parents are 5ft and 6.4. Never looked odd or got comments although Mum complained endlessly about not being able to reach / see stuff.

Seem to remember reading shorter than average women were subconciously attracted to taller than average men because it would make their children taller although this may be bollocks.

My Dad (shorter than average) jokingly used to same the same about tall men and petite women. 😆😆😆

Similar height difference for me and DP.. doesn’t bother us at all

@BlueIndigoScarlet as a short woman, I always hated how the short men in clubs would target me!

Really? Why would it bother you are long as they were nice?

I’d still love my DH even if he were the same height as me. He’s not defined by his height any more than I am.

It was the feeling of being targeted because of my height. I’ve had tall and short boyfriends and just so happened to marry someone taller than me. I would love him if he was short too. I don’t choose men because of their height and so I didn’t like being treated that way.

Would you have even given him a chance if he'd been shorter than you?