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Dd just started a new job, is this normal

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Weezyi · 05/11/2025 10:24

Housekeeping. She worked 3 days then had 2 off and she just got her schedule and it says she is in for 9 days straight before her next 2 days off

Is that normal? I would be exhausted doing 9 days straight :(

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JoeSikoraTommysStory · 05/11/2025 11:54

@AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti& @Moonboots123 sitting on your arse in an office job isn’t going to exhaust anyone. Hard manual physical work like housekeeping will exhaust most people.

Weezyi · 05/11/2025 12:01

SendhelpToddlerBoy566 · 05/11/2025 11:48

It's shit. But in my 20s I was regularly working 80 hours a week and was fine. She's young, no kids, this is the time to work and build up savings.

I would argue that this is the time that she doesn't need to be stuck in a dead end job she doesn't enjoy for miniumum wage as she has no immediate responsibilities that require her to do so and its better to try and edge her way into work she does want to do now. Before responsibility kicks in and she is stuck in housekeeping forever.

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UrbanFan · 05/11/2025 12:01

Looks pretty normal to me for the industry. She's young she should be more than able to manage. Didn't she know the terms when she was offered the job?

Just crack on with it.

Weezyi · 05/11/2025 12:02

UrbanFan · 05/11/2025 12:01

Looks pretty normal to me for the industry. She's young she should be more than able to manage. Didn't she know the terms when she was offered the job?

Just crack on with it.

I don't think she asked about shift patterns. First interview, nerves, inexperience etc

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Teenytwo · 05/11/2025 12:03

i worked similar after uni and it was common. I would have sat sun mon Tue in a row then work right through to the following week for the same so 10 days. I personally liked it.

TyroleanKnockabout · 05/11/2025 12:05

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 05/11/2025 10:59

At 20 I had a full time office job for 40 hours a week and an evening/weekend job for 20 hours a week and also managed to fit in a very active social life. This shouldn’t be “exhausting” to a healthy 20 year old.

Presumably if she had 3 days on and 2 off the 9 on 2 off pattern isn’t routine?

I cannot emphasise how different an office job is to housekeeping. You can’t do housekeeping for 9 days straight, it’ll wreck your body.

TyroleanKnockabout · 05/11/2025 12:06

UrbanFan · 05/11/2025 12:01

Looks pretty normal to me for the industry. She's young she should be more than able to manage. Didn't she know the terms when she was offered the job?

Just crack on with it.

It’s not normal in the industry.

Finto1111 · 05/11/2025 12:12

TyroleanKnockabout · 05/11/2025 12:05

I cannot emphasise how different an office job is to housekeeping. You can’t do housekeeping for 9 days straight, it’ll wreck your body.

I agree. Laundry alone is extremely heavy work. And in housekeeping, there is mountains of laundry.

When i worked in housekeeping in a hotel, i didnt even have to change the beds. I just had to transport laundry from one side of the building to another.
It was a huge amount of laundry. It was about fifty big bags of laundry. My arms and legs were exhausted every week

Eyesopenwideawake · 05/11/2025 12:14

She's 20, not 70! It won't do her any harm.

Sez1990 · 05/11/2025 12:15

It does sound very intense OP as it’s physical work for long days. I assume she is employed not self employed? As the rules for shifts and breaks don’t apply if you’re SE. But as others have said I would be positive about it and not encourage her to quit immediately, as having a hard job when young makes you appreciate easier slower work. I don’t think it’s helpful for other people to say they worked 80 hours a week and were fine because they probably didn’t also have ASD and MH problems

BerryTwister · 05/11/2025 12:17

My first job as a junior doctor age 24 was 8-5 Mon-Fri, and one full night every 4 days (with no day off the following day). I also worked every 4th weekend, so I'd work a full 12 days without a day off, and there'd be several overnights in that time too. I still found time to have a social life. Your DD is young, and this work pattern should surely be well within her abilities (unless she has health problems).

TyroleanKnockabout · 05/11/2025 12:18

Finto1111 · 05/11/2025 12:12

I agree. Laundry alone is extremely heavy work. And in housekeeping, there is mountains of laundry.

When i worked in housekeeping in a hotel, i didnt even have to change the beds. I just had to transport laundry from one side of the building to another.
It was a huge amount of laundry. It was about fifty big bags of laundry. My arms and legs were exhausted every week

Yes! I think people must underestimate just how physical the work is. I permanently ruined my knees when housekeeping full time in my early 20s. 5 days was the max we could do in a row.

Moonboots123 · 05/11/2025 12:20

JoeSikoraTommysStory · 05/11/2025 11:54

@AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti& @Moonboots123 sitting on your arse in an office job isn’t going to exhaust anyone. Hard manual physical work like housekeeping will exhaust most people.

My second job was in a bar for eight hours a night on my feet running around after a full day in the office thank you 👍🏼

TyroleanKnockabout · 05/11/2025 12:22

Moonboots123 · 05/11/2025 12:20

My second job was in a bar for eight hours a night on my feet running around after a full day in the office thank you 👍🏼

I’ve done bar work too and it was tiring, but it absolutely didn’t compare to housekeeping.

TokenGinger · 05/11/2025 12:22

She’s only just started. Let her try it before you’re looking for other jobs. She might thrive. Your viewpoint is spinning negativity on to it that isn’t needed. Let her figure it out on her own.

When I was 16-18, I was at college full time, worked in a restaurant two evenings a week, and worked Saturday and Sunday doing house keeping in a hotel, and would work through the school holidays in the hotel to cover annual leave for those who wanted to take time off with their kids. I was fine. I was out of the house 7 days a week. Even now, 20 years later, I have an incredibly strong work ethic.

You might just find that having this purpose each day helps with her mental health problems. My colleague really struggles at the weekend when she doesn’t have any routine or purpose to her day and thrives on being in work.

Let her figure it out for herself before discouraging her.

Finto1111 · 05/11/2025 12:24

TyroleanKnockabout · 05/11/2025 12:22

I’ve done bar work too and it was tiring, but it absolutely didn’t compare to housekeeping.

And the worst thing is they often don't respect health and safety with regards to lifting weights.

I was five foot 2 and I was expected to lift weights way more than is advised in health and safety .

I never want to see laundry again

Mightymooo · 05/11/2025 12:24

@moonboots123 you did a full 8 hour day in an office followed by another 8 hour day in a bar? When did you sleep??

Agree with others, it will be exhausting. I havent worked in hospitality but have worked in other manual jobs and also office work and there is no comparison. I don't think there would be any harm in asking the manager if that is a normal shift pattern. Hopefully they're just short staffed and it gets better

AppropriateAdult · 05/11/2025 12:25

PumpkinTwistyWindToots · 05/11/2025 11:40

Whatever you do, don't give her the idea of quitting or tell her this is unfair etc etc
She is lucky to have a job, work for young people is hard to come by these days and it's far better for her to work hard and be tired from hard work than sit around on benefits waiting for something better. Teach her resilience and strength.

She is not ‘lucky’ to have a job where she does hard physical work for 9 days straight for minimum wage. It’s this sort of attitude that helps perpetuate a system whereby the rich get richer and everyone else stays where they are.

I’m not saying she should quit; she’s young and most of us have had to work a shitty job at times, it’s not the end of the world. But it’s ludicrous to try and convince her she should be grateful for having a job at all.

drspouse · 05/11/2025 12:28

I did housekeeping work as a student and I was HOPELESS at it because I was just way too slow to do it to the standard required in a hotel.
These days, I could do a home cleaning job (it would take me 2 hours to do the clean our cleaner does in 2), I am more organised, but I still couldn't do hotel cleaning - I'm just not that quick and also not that perfectionist.
So, while I am totally not advocating this, she may find if she's really exhausted they decline to give her more shifts etc.

Illbefinejustbloodyfine · 05/11/2025 12:29

It was normal when I was that age. I dont remember having ANY days off, I worked as much as I could, for the money, then went out after work. I worked in hotels, housekeeping, restaurant and bar.

I dont think the idea that she doesn't "have" to do it as no responsibilities, is a good attitude to foster tbh. Now is the time to work hard and aim for something better if she wants

Birchtree1 · 05/11/2025 12:35

BerryTwister · 05/11/2025 12:17

My first job as a junior doctor age 24 was 8-5 Mon-Fri, and one full night every 4 days (with no day off the following day). I also worked every 4th weekend, so I'd work a full 12 days without a day off, and there'd be several overnights in that time too. I still found time to have a social life. Your DD is young, and this work pattern should surely be well within her abilities (unless she has health problems).

This!
She is young. It's fine.

WFHforevermore · 05/11/2025 12:54

Finto1111 · 05/11/2025 11:27

Plenty of people work 6 days a week and DON'T make good money.

The job where I had to work 6 days a week - I wasn't making good money

Ok.....did you have a point though?

ItsNotMeEither · 05/11/2025 13:10

She’s 20, she will be fine. Make sure she uses it to her advantage and starts stashing some savings away for whatever her goal is.

it might not be sustainable long term, but for now, she might as well take advantage of the hours on offer.

LittleRobins · 05/11/2025 13:19

It’s more common than you think. I worked ten days a row in my 20’s quite frequently.

Zov · 05/11/2025 13:27

Not normal at all, no.