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Could my 54 year old husband have had his drink spiked tonight

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MadKitty · 31/10/2025 01:53

Just that really. He went for drinks after work with a colleague. We don’t drink much in general, maybe a couple of units a month. I picked him up from the station at 11pm, all the other passengers left and I could see on my phone that he was still on the platform. Called him and he was barely coherent. Saw him staggering down the platform holding onto a railing.

After 10 mins he gets in the car, he’s soiled himself, grey and uncommunicative. Talking weird and not making sense. Walked in the house and literally dropped to the floor. I know, I know….. you’re thinking he’s been on a bender. He’s had less than a bottle of wine, maybe 3 glasses from what I’m gathering. This is the opposite of who he is and how he drinks.

Nearly 3 hours later he’s still lying on the floor with his head in a bowl. He’s so confused and unlike him. 111 tell me he’s just drunk. I’m hoping in the next hour I can get him standing so I can get him in the shower. He said this came on suddenly during the 20 min train journey. Could this be spiking?

Anyone around who might have some insight?

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Lalgarh · 31/10/2025 08:21

Yes thc gummies and a lot of seemingly innocuous stuff.

The grey pallor is worrying. The doctor should be open now. Any chance of a call out where you are

Abhannmor · 31/10/2025 08:23

My brother became intolerant of alcohol, quite suddenly. Headache , fever , racing heart and weakness . Could it be some kind of allergy?

Chenecinquantecinq · 31/10/2025 08:24

Cherrytree86 · 31/10/2025 08:21

@Chenecinquantecinq

three glasses of wine don’t make a person shit themselves, go grey, uncommunicative, and ill for hours on end. It just doesn’t happen.

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It can particularly if combined with illness (there's a lot about) or food poisoning as someone has said. Everyone on here jumping to rare possibilities instead of the most likely.

GaIadriel · 31/10/2025 08:25

I've never really come across anyone being spiked and I've been out a lot in recent years. I can just remember a few stories from back in my school days. I'm sure it happens but I'd say it's probs fairly rare.

Mayflower282 · 31/10/2025 08:25

How’s he doing @MadKitty ?

User564523412 · 31/10/2025 08:29

AmericaIsSoAwesome · 31/10/2025 06:16

Poor man, he will be so upset when he's feeling straight again. I hope he's okay whatever happened. Could it be possible he's given into peer pressure and had a line etc? Whatever it is please be kind to him if and I mean IF it's something he's done as I highly doubt he'll do it again. If it's something sinister like spiking act fast re CCTV while it's still available. Hope all ends well x

I think this is more likely or he simply got a stomach virus/food poisoning. Even from a criminal point of view it makes absolutely no sense to spike the drink of two adult men having a casual drink. When are you supposed to rob him? Do you follow him home on the train where he's obviously going to be picked up by his wife and try to take his wallet?

The risk vs reward of trying to slip something into the drink of two men on a weekday evening is simply too big. Someone would have had to intercept the drink between the barman and table, put something in, then observe the targets the entire time for the moment to rob them. This isn't the same thing as someone buying drinks for a girl where they have far more opportunities to put something in.

Three drinks on an empty stomach is easily enough to give someone serious symptoms if they normally don't drink that much. Especially if they're coming down with a virus at the same time

Toydrum · 31/10/2025 08:32

I hope the OP comes back with an update and her husband is well.

Milliemoons · 31/10/2025 08:34

My brother was spiked. We assume it was an accident as he was out for a female friend’s birthday and had bought a round of drinks. We assume the person had shot for one of the women and accidentally got his.

My brother is also very muscly and when I was talking to a friend about it he said that he knew of people who spiked drinks for fun. Often picking on muscly men or older and more confident drinkers just to “bring them down a few pegs”. These spikers are fragile people. So we’re not sure entirely of the motive but both are possible.

He had very similar symptoms, except her was unconscious on the train home, throwing up and soiling himself. Had his stomach pumped and spent the night on fluids in a&e. He’s not really drunk much since.

It is entirely possible.

Ruggerlass · 31/10/2025 08:34

Try telling that to my friend who’s an A&E nurse. Spiking is more common than you think.

Nolongera · 31/10/2025 08:35

Lostsadandconfused · 31/10/2025 02:05

Drink spiking is so rare it’s pretty much an urban myth.

Yes I know, everyone has had a personal experience or knows someone who knows someone etc etc.

It’s almost always someone not realising how much they’ve drunk, drinking on an empty stomach etc.

I wouldn't say it's an urban myth but I would say it's a lot less common than people believe.

I know 3 people who will tell you they have been spiked yet the reality is they chose to take drugs and ended up in A and E. They don't want to tell family they have chosen to take drugs. So all their family and most of their friends believe spiking is common.

I recently got in a right state, skipped lunch, all afternoon bender, dislocated shoulder and carried into a taxi. I was convinced I had been spiked until someone pointed out I had drank an entire tray of vodka and coke.

I am not saying it doesn't happen.

User564523412 · 31/10/2025 08:35

Lalgarh · 31/10/2025 08:21

Yes thc gummies and a lot of seemingly innocuous stuff.

The grey pallor is worrying. The doctor should be open now. Any chance of a call out where you are

We went on a school trip to the Netherlands many years ago and I recall a group of older "cooler" kids having gotten their hands on some weed. There was one girl who looked like death on the train back. Face entirely grey, almost non-responsive and was sick everywhere. All she had was a few puffs on a joint but clearly didn't react well to it.

Toydrum · 31/10/2025 08:36

User564523412 · 31/10/2025 08:35

We went on a school trip to the Netherlands many years ago and I recall a group of older "cooler" kids having gotten their hands on some weed. There was one girl who looked like death on the train back. Face entirely grey, almost non-responsive and was sick everywhere. All she had was a few puffs on a joint but clearly didn't react well to it.

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This is what I’m thinking, possibly bad reaction to drugs.

LushLemonTart · 31/10/2025 08:36

Can you contact who he was out with? I hope he's ok?

ADHDwifeHP · 31/10/2025 08:37

My middle age and very responsible cousin and his wife were spiked in a pub near Bristol late last year, they had been out for a quiet pint as in one or two just the two of them. They both collapsed on the walk home and were found at 5am by a dog walker. Taken to A&E by ambulance as had injuries from falling over. They recon it was done as a prank by a team of hokey players on the pub with them. It absolutely does happen. Horrible!

LushLemonTart · 31/10/2025 08:37

User564523412 · 31/10/2025 08:35

We went on a school trip to the Netherlands many years ago and I recall a group of older "cooler" kids having gotten their hands on some weed. There was one girl who looked like death on the train back. Face entirely grey, almost non-responsive and was sick everywhere. All she had was a few puffs on a joint but clearly didn't react well to it.

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I don't react well to it. Tried it eons ago. Again hardly had any.

ClairDeLaLune · 31/10/2025 08:38

Lostsadandconfused · 31/10/2025 02:05

Drink spiking is so rare it’s pretty much an urban myth.

Yes I know, everyone has had a personal experience or knows someone who knows someone etc etc.

It’s almost always someone not realising how much they’ve drunk, drinking on an empty stomach etc.

My daughter is a student. It’s not rare at all, get real.

Hope you took him to A&E OP.

Christmasbear1 · 31/10/2025 08:38

Take him to a&e. They can do tests to see if he's been spiked. I work for 111 and had a similar aged man whose family thought he was spiked. I'm surprised the clinician hasn't taken it seriously .

DiscoBob · 31/10/2025 08:38

I'd say it's very unlikely. I mean surely spikings happen when spiker is trying to rob or SA someone? So the fact he felt unwell suddenly on the train when he's nowhere near anyone who could've done it makes me think it's not that.

If you drink 'a couple units a month' then what could've easily been nearly a whole bottle of wine in a short time period it could easily get someone feeling pretty fucked.

I hope he's alright again by now!

Iloveeverycat · 31/10/2025 08:39

Drink spiking is so rare it’s pretty much an urban myth.
You are very wrong it happens a lot now you can even be injected now when out.

DickDewey · 31/10/2025 08:41

Hoping he’s ok today. Even if he’s not much of a drinker, 3 glasses of wine would not normally incapacitate someone to this degree. And he shat himself? That’s just not right. Could he have food poisoning?

LBFseBrom · 31/10/2025 08:42

Some people don't need much alcohol to be blind drunk. I have a very low tolerance level and become quite ill easily, it's just not worth it so don't drink at all now.

As long as he comes round, drinks plenty of water, he'll be fine and know not to do it again. If he isn't then seek medical advice but it sounds familiar to me.

researchers3 · 31/10/2025 08:43

Lostsadandconfused · 31/10/2025 02:05

Drink spiking is so rare it’s pretty much an urban myth.

Yes I know, everyone has had a personal experience or knows someone who knows someone etc etc.

It’s almost always someone not realising how much they’ve drunk, drinking on an empty stomach etc.

It certainly isn't rare, where i work, on my team, every female has been spiked at some point.

Shartly · 31/10/2025 08:46

My friend was spiked last month, at a pub you totally wouldn’t expect (usually just friendly nice regulars from what I know). For reference, it came on quite fast- went to the toilet as felt a bit offish, the people with her realised she’d been gone for a bit too long as it was closing time and she was nowhere to be seen. She’d passed out against the toilet door so they had to break it down, and it took about half an hour for her to regain consciousness (ambulance came and took her to hospital and they did CPR at the pub just in case). Apparently she just went really really hot, stripped off her clothes to try and cool down and then passed out. Really scary.

Only indicator she could think of was that her straw was gone when she got back from the dance floor, nothing odd otherwise. She was fine the next day just really shaken up. I’m not sure it’s as rare as some people think it is based on what hospital staff told her.

Alondra · 31/10/2025 08:52

It's very unusual for a man to get his drinks spiked, and likely he drank more than he could tolerate when he rarely drinks.

Hope he's ok now except for an awful headache.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 31/10/2025 08:52

Lostsadandconfused · 31/10/2025 02:05

Drink spiking is so rare it’s pretty much an urban myth.

Yes I know, everyone has had a personal experience or knows someone who knows someone etc etc.

It’s almost always someone not realising how much they’ve drunk, drinking on an empty stomach etc.

I’m please don’t call lots of peoples trauma an urban myth. Lots and lots of people have been. Some with needles. I understand you were not trying to be a dick so I’m asking nicely to not use that phrase again.