Could my 54 year old husband have had his drink spiked tonight

[MadKitty]

Just that really. He went for drinks after work with a colleague. We don’t drink much in general, maybe a couple of units a month. I picked him up from the station at 11pm, all the other passengers left and I could see on my phone that he was still on the platform. Called him and he was barely coherent. Saw him staggering down the platform holding onto a railing.

After 10 mins he gets in the car, he’s soiled himself, grey and uncommunicative. Talking weird and not making sense. Walked in the house and literally dropped to the floor. I know, I know….. you’re thinking he’s been on a bender. He’s had less than a bottle of wine, maybe 3 glasses from what I’m gathering. This is the opposite of who he is and how he drinks.

Nearly 3 hours later he’s still lying on the floor with his head in a bowl. He’s so confused and unlike him. 111 tell me he’s just drunk. I’m hoping in the next hour I can get him standing so I can get him in the shower. He said this came on suddenly during the 20 min train journey. Could this be spiking?

Anyone around who might have some insight?

Not so in London.

Could he be having an allergic reaction to something?

A&E!!

Less likely for men but it does happen, certainly in London - city boys are targets for their watches and wallets.

In 25 years of my healthcare career with 15 on the front line, I have seen two people who I believe were spiked.
it’s very rare and the usual MO is a sexual one.
if your husband doesn’t drink much and then drank 3 glasses of wine, that’s quite a lot? I’d be slaughtered after 3 glasses of wine in an evening.

What an idiotic thing to say. I’m embarrassed for you.

My dd was spiked, her friend found her, got a bouncer to carry her to a taxi and took her to hospital. We met her there and the hospital told us (QMC, Nottingham) that they don’t collect statistics on spiking. They can’t tell if it’s a pill or a needle unless there is an obvious mark. I was gobsmacked frankly. It was like it did matter as a crime because she was just some young girl in a tiny dress.

Was there ever a post so fitting the user name? I think probably not.

Ignore anyone on here saying drinks spiking is rare - it’s not rare and they are ignorant.

what is rare is shitting yourself, being grey, uncommunicative and that ill from alcohol especially just three glasses of wine. He needs checking out medically.

@SoMuchBadAdvice

as a non drinker why are you even commenting? You clearly are clueless.
three glasses of wine does NOT put a person in this state.
awful advice from yourself. Why are you even commenting on something you clearly know nothing about??

Yeah I absolutely got paralytic on Coca-Cola as the designated driver for the evening! I wasn't spiked I just didn't realise that 2 coca-colas would get me drunk!
And yes it was just coca-cola because when I'm the designated driver I always make a point of going to the bar and getting my own drink and watching them make it!

I have to disagree. Depending where you are in the country it's a massive problem, especially in cities & uni areas.

Keep checking pulse and breathing and that his face hasn't dropped on one side to try and rule out medical episodes. It's several hours later now so hopefully he's a bit more coherent.

As for spiking, yes he could have been, especially if he has been honest about only having 3 wines. It absolutely does happen to men. Our friend (male) was in London at a gig. He's not a big drinker, only has one or two beers when he goes out. He got chatting to some seemingly friendly people at the bar and after that he doesn't remember anything else. He managed to get home on the train, but can't actually remember that bit at all. When he got home his wife said he was completely confused and incoherent. He'd lost his phone too though still had his wallet.

She tracked his phone and it was already in Liverpool! Soon after the location sharing was turned off so clearly stolen.

They suspected he was spiked and reported to the police. Police said they had had multiple reports of suspected spikings at the same gig and all of those people had had their phones nicked. So it really does happen, male or female, and not always a sexual motive.

OP, does he have his phone?

yes this poster is a victim blaming twit who hasn’t experienced something themselves and therefore has decided it’s a ‘myth’. They literally even say everyone’s had an experience or knows someone who knows someone….but yet instead of believing all those people, decides to discredit them based on his/her own opinion.

I’ve been spike three times. First time it was the barman - he spiked my then boyfriend too and other people in the club. It was our first drink of the night so no we weren’t accidentally just drunk. My then bf was a scary looking guy who normally wouldn’t get messed with and it brought him down, I don’t even know how we made it to the next day. I just remember him grabbing me and pulling me down the stairs as he clocked what was happening. We were like Bambi on ice and then just remember him saying we have to get away from the club the. everything going in and out of blackness while watching him collapse against the wall of the club outside in the same fashion.

second I was out with a girlfriend having a quiet drink. Not drunk.

Third one I was drinking a bit before we went round to meet this guy my friend was dating (she had bad taste), had a drink there then suddenly was absolutely out of it. Ended up locked in a bathroom with thrfriend of mine who hadn’t been drinking much who was throwing up and wetting herself while all I remember is being in and out of consciousness and nothing until being in a taxi with my phone dismantled in my bag. Getting out and my then boyfriend freaking out at me because if called him and then he’d heard some guy shouting and the phone going dead.

I was also in a bar with friends on nye once and a guy walked by at the end of the night and stupendously unsubtly plonked a pill in my friend’s drink. It literally splashed up as he did it.

My life has clearly been different to the poster but I that doesn’t mean I’m so stupid I don’t know the difference between being spiked and not. There’s a bizarre delay between having the drink and the effect hitting - hence why it sounds like OP’s husband may have been. And it feels like being drugged - because you were.

and it does happen to men.

My sons drink was spiked and he was sexually assaulted in a bar in New York. The bar manager was, he thought, just being friendly and gave DS a free shot just before the bar closed. DS. Was the only customer left. He became extremely woozy and was assaulted. Thank God he managed to get away - he thinks adrenaline kicked in and "woke him up" . Also he's. 6'3" and broad, so the dosage may not have affected him as badly.

It definitely happens.

ETA and he hadn't drunk very much at that point as the drinks were so expensive. Also, he said it was completely different to being drunk.

@MadKitty how is he this morning. I hope that the worst has passed now.

yes I think he could have had his drink spiked, I had a similar experience nearly 40 years ago now at a party where I ended up in a hell of a state, which was very out of character for me. I can "hold my drink" and it's never happened since. The only logical explanation to my mind was that one of my drinks had been tampered with.

Hope all’s ok this morning OP.

Unfortunately some people do it to random people for nothing other than to have a laugh, others try on a "non-target" to see the effects how long they take etc before spiking their real target :(

Could one of his colleagues have slipped vodka into one of his drinks for a laugh? If he does not usually tolerate alcohol well and didn't know about the extra alcohol he may have got horrendously drunk very quickly without realising. Spiking doesn't just have to be with illegal substances it can be with alcohol and can be very dangerous. A silly prank that can have serious consequences.

He could have food poisoning. I once acted like that with food poisoning. I’ll never forget it. Really horrible experience

It's not as uncommon as people are saying. I've twice been spiked - neither in the last 10 years.

I was always a big drinker, however drunk I was, I've never fallen over. Even in high heels on ice.

The first spiking, it was about 10pm, had had a few drinks, but the night was only beginning. I suddenly felt a really weird feeling and knew - I said to my friend 'get me out of here, I've been spiked'. Luckily she took me seriously and we got outside the pub, but on the walk home I collapsed on the floor and she could not get me up.

Luckily, a Police car was passing, and they took us home. The last thing I remember is being outside the pub - the rest I only know because she told me.

Second time I popped into a bar with a friend for a quick drink after a long walk, and we were talking about getting a takeaway on the way to her house for a movie night. Next thing I know I'm waking up next morning, in my own bed. Went downstairs, and an uneaten takeaway was in my fridge.

Friend's boyfriend had met us at the takeaway, and apparently we were both paralytic (he thought we were drunk) so he took us home.

Neither of us remember anything after leaving the bar.

In both cases, I have no idea how/when the spiking happened, and there was no noticeable taste change. But it certainly wasn't down to drink.

A more likely scenario is that his colleague persuaded him to try some sort of drug that he didn't react well too. Or they met some mates who had some stuff with them. It sounds like teenage stupidity but I was amazed at how many middle aged men have access to coke, mdma, mushrooms or weed recreationally. It could even have been something as innocuous as a THC gummy.

I work in a university and it happens all too often.

I was thinking possibly drugs. Maybe he tried some, or his mates did it for a joke (obviously not funny).

Obviously it could be something serious however much more likely that he cannot handle his drink (possibly had more than he is saying). MN is a massive drama filled place.

Is it possible that it's food poisoning? Otherwise drink spiking or mates having a "laugh"

@Chenecinquantecinq

three glasses of wine don’t make a person shit themselves, go grey, uncommunicative, and ill for hours on end. It just doesn’t happen.