Lack of energy around DH and DC

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When I'm alone all day (very rarely happens) I feel energised and get stuck into tasks really well.

When DH and teenage DC are around, I feel incapable any just want to flop around doing nothing.

Why is this?

DH is a very 'busy' person, so it's not as though I want to sit and chat to him.

I've experienced this situation for years OP.
I too have wondered why it is like that.
I've always accomplished so much more when I've been on my own in the house.
If DH and DS are just sitting around chatting over a cuppa, or on the computer, I find it distracting somehow.( Annoying)?
I have noticed lately as I've tried harder to become more oblivious to their presence, that now my hustling around has the affect of making DH feel guilty, and lazy perhaps, which is win- win as he now tends to get up and get doing something too.

Interesting. DH rarely sits down and is always active (his whole family are like that), but it isn't that I feel exhausted watching him because I feel frozen to the sofa even if he's in the garden and I can't see him.

On my own in the house and, I can accomplish loads!

@Hfstjsufysyfykdhoxg I was going to say that when DH goes in the garden I go woohoo!
He can be out there for hours when he goes and I really get a lot done!
Maybe when your DH is in the garden you feel a time constraint?
Like he could pop back in at any time?
Some individuals just work so much better on their own than when others are around, perhaps that's how you work.
I don't feel frozen in place when DH and DS aren't doing anything I just feel it impedes me somehow from doing all that I know I can accomplish when they're not there!

There was a long thread about it recently you might find interesting- a lot of us in the same position!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4932835-in-a-state-of-inertia-when-dh-around

I'm the same. I'm a fairly active person, but to apply that activity to the house, I need DP and DD elsewhere.

So this weekend I'm re-caulking the bath, but that's fine because I'm not in anyone's way when I'm doing it.

But if I want to blitz the lounge, then I need them both to fuck off out of the house for a couple of hours.

I honestly thought only I felt like this! It's so weird, I really can't explain it. Kinda makes sense when DP is around as he does have a habit of interrupting me or telling me it would be better if I did xyz in a different way (why it makes any difference to him how I do a chore God knows, honestly think that in his brain this unwanted advice is somehow ticked off as him helping or doing the task himself) but it's the same when DD is here and she d just be in her bedroom or the living room

I feel this way too. It's like they drain my life force by osmosis.

Also why are they constantly in the way of where I want to get to?

I am the same, get nothing done at the weekend when people are at home but super productive when home alone. I think I get more satisfaction cleaning etc when alone because I know it’s going to stay that way for longer than 10 mins

Maybe there is a part of you, deep down, that really wants to live on your own.

I’m exactly the same! Only when it comes to cleaning and jobs around the house though!

I also have ADHD though …

I find this too.

I'm retired while DH still works. My week days when he's not here are full and I'm always doing something: out for a walk, going to a gallery, doing some kind of crafting, housework, U3A, playing my piano. When he's here at the weekend I barely do anything except loll about on the sofa while he watches sport. I don't know why because he doesn't demand my presence, it really is down to something in me. It's something I need to put effort into changing - I don't want to spend the rest of my life vegetating in the same way that I do at the weekend when he retires and is home all day.

I'm the same ,

Look up 'social pacing' and 'relational inertia'. These are real things! It's so annoying...I feel so lazy when my husband is around and it throws my plans out totally unless I'm really disciplined!