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Tell me about hiring a declutterer

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MumoftwoNC · 27/10/2025 11:06

I'm looking for anyone who can share their experience of hiring a declutterer... I have booked a declutterer to come and help sort my house and I just want to get a feel for what to expect and how best to prepare.

For context, my house is a bit of a tip and I get embarrassed by it. Every flat surface (windowsill, chest of drawers) is just used as a dumping ground, and neither dh and I "tidy as we go". If I look at my chest of drawers right now, it's got a couple of dd's drawings, some books, a folded scarf, a couple of birthday cards (at least 3 months old), phone charger cables, hair ties, empty deodorant packaging, a dozen random bottles of cream or perfume, a little bag of lavender, some thawed ice packs etc. It sounds like a quick job clearing that but multiply that by literally every surface in my house!

Has anyone done this, got a declutterer in? Was it helpful? Embarrassing...? I'm a bit nervous that I'll spend a day (and the money) and it won't be much different afterwards

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trainedopossum · 27/10/2025 17:04

Yes it was helpful and yes, it was embarrassing, or at least I felt embarrassed that I didn’t know how to live in my own home in an organised manner. She was very matter of fact about it and put me at ease.
It’s easy to buy containers and folders and stuff you hope will help but what I needed was to learn the skill of matching my things to their appropriate homes according to size and accessibility.

MumoftwoNC · 27/10/2025 17:34

Thank you very much for sharing your experience!

Did your declutterer get properly stuck in or kind of act as a consultant (like in the marie kondo netflix show?)

I really don't fancy someone just sort of giving me ideas about storage and pep talking me... I really want someone who'll (figuratively) put some marigolds on and help me chuck things in the skip etc.

(I say figurative marigolds because it's all clean, just cluttered!)

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trainedopossum · 28/10/2025 01:19

It was more about organising things so everything had an appropriate place (eg store the things you use most in the most convenient place). At the time I lived in a one bed flat with loads of storage but no idea how to use it so everything was kind of crammed in together.
I suspect everyone is different. Can you contact yours and ask for more detail?

StarCourt · 28/10/2025 01:46

i’ve been looking up declutterers locally too

FlamingoFloss · 28/10/2025 02:23

I’d so love someone to organise me!!

Summerhillsquare · 28/10/2025 04:01

Had no idea there was a market for this. I'd love to do it.

FrogsWormsandButterflies · 28/10/2025 07:36

If it’s clean surely you move the clutter to clean?
3 month old cards are surely dusty?!

MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 07:42

trainedopossum · 28/10/2025 01:19

It was more about organising things so everything had an appropriate place (eg store the things you use most in the most convenient place). At the time I lived in a one bed flat with loads of storage but no idea how to use it so everything was kind of crammed in together.
I suspect everyone is different. Can you contact yours and ask for more detail?

I've had a good chat with her and I think she'll be led by what I need/want but I guess I'm wondering what they "usually" do.

Edit- and therefore thanks for sharing what yours did!

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MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 07:43

FrogsWormsandButterflies · 28/10/2025 07:36

If it’s clean surely you move the clutter to clean?
3 month old cards are surely dusty?!

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I don't think I'm unusual in not worrying about the amount of dust a birthday card can have on it...!

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MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 07:45

Ah thank you, I will have a read!

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FrogsWormsandButterflies · 28/10/2025 07:55

MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 07:43

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I don't think I'm unusual in not worrying about the amount of dust a birthday card can have on it...!

And surely the whole surface isn’t clean if things have been on it for 3 months?
It’s unusual to have a birthday card up 3 months after the birthday

drspouse · 28/10/2025 08:05

FrogsWormsandButterflies · 28/10/2025 07:55

And surely the whole surface isn’t clean if things have been on it for 3 months?
It’s unusual to have a birthday card up 3 months after the birthday

I don't think you are the target audience for a declutterer if you think this is unusual.

MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 08:06

FrogsWormsandButterflies · 28/10/2025 07:55

And surely the whole surface isn’t clean if things have been on it for 3 months?
It’s unusual to have a birthday card up 3 months after the birthday

Thank you for your delightful contributions to this thread. Well done for having a pristine house and disposing of birthday cards after the precisely appropriate duration of display.

Thanks again to the helpful commenters on this thread. I've got a lot out of the ama thread, drspouse

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humblebea · 28/10/2025 08:17

It’s probably not all the same things for three months though! You can dust under a couple of cards and things get moved all the time so they don’t really gather dust. It’s just that nothing gets put back were it belongs or it doesn’t belong anywhere so gets left on a surface until it’s next used.

CurlewKate · 28/10/2025 08:23

A friend of mine hired a declutterer after her wife died-her wife had been a hoarder and a shopaholic. It transformed her life-getting rid of all the stuff kind of decluttered her memory of her wife too-helped her forget the bad stuff and move forward. The declutterer spent some time finding out exactly what she wanted, then cleared all the obvious rubbish without my friend present, then sorted all the new stuff still in boxes and took it away and arranged for it to be sold. Then she and my friend went through everything else together. She was lovely, kind and calm and non judgemental. But very firm!

lunar1 · 28/10/2025 08:34

People who do this job generally love it, and get an immense sense of satisfaction from the work. They aren’t judging you, anyone with that attitude would do it for a bit and get zero positive reviews and recommendations.

we all have areas in our life where we want to improve, if you have the money, spend it and enjoy the results. Life is too short to give a shit about the passive aggressive ‘but I don’t understand how…’ cunts, they are brought to us by the same providers as the ‘that was too many lettuce leaves for lunch’ brigade.

MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 09:32

That's really good to know that people have had good experiences. And it makes sense that they do it because they enjoy it rather than being judgemental!

As an aside, trying not to feel defensive but... I'm about to pop to the supermarket and they sell birthday cards there. I'm pretty sure they stay on the shelves for months and are unlikely to be dusted often. Cards don't rot like food...! When I said my house was clean, I meant, we don't leave old food out, or dirty nappies or whatever. Laundry gets cleaned. I didn't say my house was totally dust free, I said one wouldn't need marigolds to tidy it (it's just stuff on surfaces like phone chargers, a half-used candle, etc)

If having a birthday card out for several months is unsanitary, I'm amazed that pp manages to go to any kind of workplace because most of us pin up thank you cards and photos on our desk walls and never take them down or dust them.

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MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 09:42

The declutterer is booked for next week so I'll report back when she's been :) I've asked her to come twice, a fortnight apart.

I've booked one of those mini skips, and I'll book a baby bank collection (they take toys and baby/toddler clothes in good condition), and she says she'll take other charity stuff away with her. Really hoping I can get rid of lots and lots of stuff.

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columnatedruinsdomino · 28/10/2025 09:46

Well done for realising you have a clutter problem and it's not always easy to do it on your own without outside help. One thing, the whole family need to be on board once you have decluttered. You can't be battling against others who still put things 'down' instead of 'away'. Good luck!

TwinklyStork · 28/10/2025 09:47

The best tip I ever heard for the sort of clutter you describe in your OP is “never leave a room empty handed”, so for example the thawed ice packs would have been taken back to the kitchen when I got up to make tea in the morning.

Some of it sounds like just normal stuff that might live on a chest of drawers anyway but things like the birthday cards and the empty deodorant packaging - I guess I’m just curious why they’re not in the bin or the recycling. So that may be a place to start, do you have adequate resources in the house to do that?

SundayMondayMyDay · 28/10/2025 10:01

I hope you don’t mind me posting, as I have never had a professional declutterer in, but I have helped a few family members and friends with declutterring. And I am currently trying to go through a decluttering process myself. I suppose what that means is that it is much easier to do a decluttering process when you do not have the emotional attachments to the stuff (if it is someone else’s clutter) than if it is your own.

I’d say you need to try and have a very open mind before you go in, and be receptive to changing your mindset about the stuff you have, and why you keep it, and what you actually need. Unless you seriously change your mindset, then any improvements you make won’t last!

Key turning points for me have been the realisation that life improves in so many ways (for the whole family) when rooms are tidy and surfaces are clear. Everyone (in our house) is less stressed when there is no visual clutter, and keeping on top of things like dishwashing and laundry become easier (for whoever does them) when there is not always an ongoing battle of keeping surfaces clear and repatriating stuff (flotsam and jetsam) around the house.

Being able to let go of stuff is so hard - hopefully the declutterer will support you to work through why you hold onto things. eg birthday cards - I always used to think I had to keep them, but never actually read through them again, so may as well just recycle them after a week? There may be the occasional card you want to keep (from your children when small, eg, so that is fine to keep), but the rest is just ‘stuff’. And ‘stuff’ can be a massive burden.

For me, I have held onto stuff in the past as I have felt that I ought to, if someone has given me something, even if I don’t like it. But actually, I now think that the loved one who gave me the object that I no longer actually want or need would not want it to be a huge burden to me, and be making my house difficult to live in.

I have also found Dana K White (books & blogs) to be really helpful. The idea of the ‘container concept’ where you don’t just buy more storage containers, but actually stop and think - the shelf / cupboard for mugs that I have will only hold x mugs, so I will just choose my favourite x mugs and then will donate the rest. The same with bookshelves - use the existing book shelf as a natural limit to the amount of books you keep. And then operate a ‘one in, one out’ approach.

Good luck with the decluttering!

MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 10:19

TwinklyStork · 28/10/2025 09:47

The best tip I ever heard for the sort of clutter you describe in your OP is “never leave a room empty handed”, so for example the thawed ice packs would have been taken back to the kitchen when I got up to make tea in the morning.

Some of it sounds like just normal stuff that might live on a chest of drawers anyway but things like the birthday cards and the empty deodorant packaging - I guess I’m just curious why they’re not in the bin or the recycling. So that may be a place to start, do you have adequate resources in the house to do that?

I literally recycled the empty deodorant pack and the cards immediately after posting... obviously? I just quoted them as examples of things I could see.

Dh and I have extremely busy lives. I have two part time jobs, he has a full time job. We have two kids, one at school and one at nursery part time, so in opposite directions. If he's opening a new pack of deodorant and quickly rolling it on, while a toddler is grabbing his leg wailing for his breakfast, it is not top of his mind to recycle the deodorant wrapper. What is top of his mind to finish getting dressed in max 10 seconds, then picking up the toddler with both hands shouting "ZOOM to the MOOOON" and then carrying him downstairs for his breakfast. He has no spare hands or thoughts for the deodorant wrapper. Ditto if I'm in that situation.

And frankly I would not want him any other way.

And I'm done justifying myself on this thread - I've reflected on it and I love how our house is busy and fun and we have better things to do 99.9% of the time than tidy away birthday cards. I'm happy letting it accumulate and doing big blitzes periodically.

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MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 10:20

So I hope I've assuaged your "curiosity", oh curious one.

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MumoftwoNC · 28/10/2025 10:21

lunar1 · 28/10/2025 08:34

People who do this job generally love it, and get an immense sense of satisfaction from the work. They aren’t judging you, anyone with that attitude would do it for a bit and get zero positive reviews and recommendations.

we all have areas in our life where we want to improve, if you have the money, spend it and enjoy the results. Life is too short to give a shit about the passive aggressive ‘but I don’t understand how…’ cunts, they are brought to us by the same providers as the ‘that was too many lettuce leaves for lunch’ brigade.

Life is too short to give a shit about the passive aggressive ‘but I don’t understand how…’ cunts

Aargh I forgot to take this advice...!! Thank you lunar1

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