I am ranting about MY wooden spoons

[Pancakeflipper]

Just having a rant...
I recently has a stay in hospital. I'm.back home, recuperating and getting back to household stuff.

DP and teens managed well without me. I'm now gradually getting back into household mode.

Just discovered I am missing 3 wooden spoons. They live in a jar of utensils next the cooker.

Asked DP and he said he binned them as the jar was too full and no-one needs more than 2 wooden spoons.

I have one for curry dishes, one for soup making, one small spoon,, one for baked beans/scrambled egg type stuff, 1 for baking. And 2 others of differing sizes for general cooking.

I am livid. They were causing no harm in the jar. I want my spoons.

Two belonged to my grandma (Fab cook). 2 I kinda collected from student days. Thats provably totally unhygeni c being old spoons,.but I dont care - they are good spoons. The smallest spoon is just a delight to use. One has a scorch mark on the handle from.some culinary disaster. They are well.established seasoned spoons.

He has form for this -- I went away with teens for a week once and he threw out some tupperware. And once he threw out the plastic carrier bags we re-use.

Apparently I am weird. But I don't care. I want MY spoons. I don't want new ones.

RIP wooden spoons - you've been faithful stirrers for many years.

I would be livid too!

That would annoy me, I've got over a dozen wooden spoons in a decorative flower pot beside my cooker and a couple hidden in a drawer too.

No way. Id be absolutely raging tbh. Dh here knows hes not to even consider disposing of a single item in the kitchen!

I’d be really upset about this!
I lost custody of a lot of family cookware. I chose to replace it from a charity shop so it was someone else’s nan’s/mum’s stuff since I no longer had my own.

I'm almost relieved you'd be livid too because my DP and teens think I'm being OTT because "it's only a few spoons, we can always buy some more tomorrow if you are so bothered.. " duh duh duh...

I would be absolutely fuming, OP. RIP your spoons 😓 And RAAARRR at your husband! 😡

Unless he cooks every meal and has sole control over the kitchen - he had absolutely no right to do this! I had an ex who would periodically decide to 'tidy up' (why this didn't mean that he could clear up his own piles of crap or do his own laundry I have no idea) and would throw away 'rubbish' that was stuff I needed or used.

He is now an ex and I keep all my things intact.

Well you can. It’s not a big deal

I would be so angry too, OP!

But that's like saying you can replace any keepsakes you've been given or any memorabilia you keep or any items of sentimental value. You can replace the THING but you can't replace the memories associated with it.

But those specific spoons will never come back. Perhaps only a true cook can understand that.

Are you my DP ?
Because they aren't your spoons to bin. You never bake. You cook when I'm not able out or I'm out.
I don't bin your screwdrivers

(Apologies, I'm ranting and you aren't likely to be my DP).

That would annoy me too.

I would be raging too!

If someone threw away MY small spoon, and my extra flat spoon, and my slotted spoon, and my spoon with a pointy bit on one corner (good for sauce)…. I would be so upset. Fortunately DH feels the same about spoons… but if he didn’t he wouldn’t just chuck them! I have a weakness for jugs and we have too many but he wouldn’t dream of throwing any away

I’d be raging too over this, op. The cheek of him, who is he to chuck some of your stuff out!

They were seasoned sooons. It takes ages to get wooden utensils to be nice to use. Your “D” H deserves a good telling off and you deserve some very expensive treats (including any cookware you desire).

Not your DP.

I have, however, binned things that maybe shouldn’t have been binned. And it’s really not the end of the world

(plus you should replace your wooden spoons regularly anyway because they hold onto bacteria!)

How many screwdrivers has he got?🤔
Or chargers, extension leads, bloody cable tie thingamajigs? Maybe you need to have a bit of a sort out. 🤨

No they don't. Unless wood is damaged, it has anti bacterial properties. Hence wooden chopping boards.

Obviously he thinks it's ok because the spoons aren't something he values personally. How would he like.it if while he was vulnerable in hospital you threw out something he did value - his ties, pens, whatever little thing that you wouldn't have feelings about but he does.

He was using the kitchen so he started forming opinions about things there - fair enough. He should have put them aside and asked you when you came back.

All that said I'd be more bothered about the lack of remorse when you were upset that the actual throwing out.

I’m livid for you. My favourite spoons are my oldest, I’ve been looking for replacements but I can’t find the right size and shape.

How dare they ! Now you'll have to buy 'white' wooden spoons 😕

Wood chopping boards are just as bad 🤢

I would seriously throw something of his out next time he is out the house and see how he likes it. Twat.