Help me come to terms with my wrinkles

[SpinningTops]

I am 37 but have fairly pronounced forehead wrinkles. I have a very expressive face where I move my forehead a lot. The rest of my face is pretty wrinkle free. I hate it, focus on it every time I look in the mirror and they seem much deeper than others.

I have had Botox which helps and was about to book in again (it was about 5 months ago) but I started to think maybe I need to come to terms with it. I moisture, have used tret etc. this is just me!

There’s nothing wrong with getting older, my genes mean my wrinkles might be worse than some but I’m healthy!

Men are attractive, wrinkles or not, why can’t a woman be?

Help me come to terms with this, I would prefer not to be told they’re dreadful and there’s no hope for me 🤣

I'll tell you a little secret, OP.

Men don't see them. All these women injecting litres of Botox on their face... not one single man will notice a difference. Even if you point it out to them, they will look confused and go "oh... yeah I guess". Try it.

They don't notice. Only we do.

What aurynne says.
people also ultimately notice more if you’re interesting and caring and fun to be around.

I’m 33 and have worst “wrinkles” than that… I just thought mine were expression lines!

She never said the op was responsible for her cancer. You’ve missed the point.

Temp means the op should really get some perspective on what’s important and actually how privileged she is to be healthy and to have the opportunity to get older.

Nothing to do with being responsible for someone else’s cancer.

I also thought Jodie Foster looked more attractive in her 50s than in Silence of the Lambs (she was 28)

At your age I had fruit peel in a beauty saloon - the ones where the skin within a week literally peels off your face. It was amazing forehead wrinkles went and has taken about 20 years to start coming back. Lighter skin like yours works best for the peel - I would suggest looking into it. At the time it was £200 but I am guessing more now. Some people were using them then instead of Botox.

She hasn’t said she is. But the OP needs to realise that aging is a gift not given to all and stop being so shallow as to think people even care what her forehead looks like. And if hearing the reality from someone not given the gift of aging seems “harsh” then you’re a sadly ignorant person.

@SpinningTops No one cares. Literally not a single person cares about what your forehead looks like. Only you.

In my work I see many wrinkled faces and these people are the lucky ones who have lived long enough to have lives full of stories and memories. Sadly many people do not have the chance to gain wrinkles and would have loved to. Would have given up all their “good looks” to have more time with their families and pain free days.

Try to gain a bit of perspective in life and stop focusing on shallow things each day. Instead focus on the positives and the things you’re grateful for. Spend your Botox and beauty money on other people less fortunate or on making good memories or on a hobby that helps you see your body as something strong rather than ornamental.

I've literally never noticed anyone having lines on forehead

I have noticed crows feet

I don't think noticed faces look good. Older women who look their age look good. Older women trying to look young look odd.

I'd just enjoy being 37, still young enough. I'm 46 and feeling young enough too! One day I'll be Older!

Tret

What does your forehead look like when the Botox is in full effect? If it's smooth, I'd keep having that and repeat when it's starts to wear off. If you're leaving it too long in between then you are going to have lines that will get deeper and won't drop out with the Botox. There's nothing wrong with lines and wrinkles - it's personal choice and you're a long way from acceptance by the sound of things!

I know someone who has deep wrinkles on her forehead, eyes and around her mouth, much much worse than yours. She's such a lovely person though and her face lights up when she smiles, so it really doesn't matter.

it may matter to her though- no one likes deep wrinkles, even if they tolerate them! Not ever can afford to have treatments, either.

This is savage but…. You’re not wrong 🤷‍♀️

Somebody somewhere always has it worse, so there’s no point comparing something so vastly different. How did Gaza get dropped in a thread about beauty?

Also: Wrinkles are fine and most people I see have them at 30+

Like @AramintaWildbloode I have stage 4 cancer. I'm 44 and statistically should be dying about now (though treatment is currently working so I'm hopeful I'm one of the lucky ones who'll get several more years). But I almost certainly won't grow old. For me, being a wrinkled old lady is the ultimate dream and privilege.

Today is metastatic (incurable) breast cancer awareness day. I've spent a joyful day at a charity event for sufferers, where we could have make up done, hair styling, manicures, take part in crafts and enjoyed a delicious lunch. Whilst also remembering the friends we've lost, many not even 40 years old.

Plenty of us like to look our best, enjoy fashion and beauty, love a makeover and pampering session; nothing wrong with that. But I guarantee not one of the hundred or so women I was with today gets hung up on a few wrinkles. Many have lost their hair, lost their breasts, become permanently disabled. But we're grateful every day to be alive, and we'd all give anything to live to old age.

There's your perspective.

Just need to get perspective. Think about more important things.