Are you bothered if an OP doesn't come back?

[DiamandaTheGreat]

I've realised I have a vague/subconscious limit of approx 4/5 pages of responses following an initial OP ...if an OP hasn't come back to respond by then, I guess I start to wonder whether I really want to get involved commenting. But I've seen so many threads recently with a single post from the OP and 15+ pages of responses (often on quite...contentious stuff), so maybe my approach isn't the norm? I guess it comes down to whether you're responding to connect with/advise the OP, or whether you look at it more as a precursor to a general discussion (and of course on how much you value OP updates, but for me that sort of depends on the topic).

Nope doesn’t bother me as I will normally comment once then forget to check again anyway!

Mildly miffed if it’s an engaging topic with an obvious update possibility. A bit worried if it’s someone experiencing a crisis.

It doesn't bother me, but means I won't bother reading the thread as it's pointless.

I have my settings so all posts are on one page.

I just assume they’ve been taken by the crows.

I didn't used to be probably because I wasn't as engaged in the posts as others.
Post, and move on.
Lately though I've given it a little more thought and I figure how rude for someone to come on especially when they're asking advice or having a problem and people are kind enough to offer their support and advice or just commiseration.
I don't mean someone who's suffering a crisis, there could be a lot of reasons why they don't respond.
I'm just talking about those who are asking advice, receiving good advice and or support and then you never hear from them again.
I think that's very rude and then I think they're either rude or maybe they're not real.

Yes, I am. I want the OP's feedback on the replies.

I'm not going to bother posting on a thread if the OP can't be bothered to engage. It just makes me think they're not genuine.

Not if it is (kind of like this thread) - share a funny story, do you do xyz etc. The OP needs to come back if they have asked for advice or need to clarify something. But on a funny story type thread the OP just saying haha and yes me too doesn't add much 😅

On threads with a larger number of posts, I always filter to see the OP’s posts and won’t bother reading if they haven’t come back within a reasonable timeframe.

Yes, I think it’s rude if the OP doesn’t come back or the OP is trolling.

If I have contributed to the thread, especially if I have tried to offer a useful comment, then it definitely bothers me.
If I stumble across a thread that is many posts long and the OP is obviously not coming back then I just ignore and click onto something else. It's slightly annoying that I have to check if (a) OP is a plopper or (b) some other poster is resurrecting a years'-old thread but that's life. It does make MN a less enjoyable experience, though. I think if I was in charge I would think about adding it to the reasons for banning posters (temporarily, at least).

I do hope you will return, OP.

Yes this. Assuming a reasonable amount of time has elapsed. But a goady thread...with one post from OP and 15 pages across 2 days? Nah not going to bother!

No but I hate it when people ask for, and receive, a lot of help (or tips about something) and are too entitled to return to say thanks. Eg how do I sort this? 50 answers. Silence. Fuck them and their rudeness.

Oh absolutely. I have my settings that all posts are on one page, and if I don’t see a ‘see next post’ from the op, then I generally skip it.

Occasionally, especially if there's multiple pages where more info is needed and OP doesn't come back to answer questions. I do understand though when OP doesn't come back on an aibu when multiple posters say OP is bu

V irritating when it's a real life event such as "is my neighbour dead, not been seen for 3 weeks" and then you never get an update or conclusion

No, and am continuously bemused at the rage from some when an OP doesn’t! Especially if it’s only been a few hours.

Yes, it does seem a bit pointless.

I'm sure it was suggested, on here, that it was sometimes , someone doing research ….,

Nah I just hide the thread.

Depends on the topic but mostly threads are started for a discussion so yes it does piss me off. The ones which are personal to the OP and they get pages of advice and then nothing - so rude.

I started a thread in May under a different username in Relationships asking advice and did reply to quite a few of the comments but the thread took off and there was a big debate on one particular aspect. It came up in my feed, my Facebook and I was really concerned it would come up on my daily mail app which Dh reads. I was so concerned about being identified I had to stop answering and let the thread die out but felt guilty as some people had given me some very good advice and I would have liked to reply. So this may be another reason people stop answering.

So where are you @DiamandaTheGreat ?

Or a large bat ate them mid-flight

Not really. Sometimes it's a little frustrating when I really want to know the outcome of a thread but we all have busy lives outside MN.

Not really. Sometimes it's a little frustrating when I really want to know the outcome of a thread but we all have busy lives outside MN.

If a post has over 100 posts I check if the OP has returned. If it's a long post of people asking questions and screaming at each other on the OP's presumed situation I can't be bothered.