My partner moved into my house three years ago. I'm retired but he's younger and still works so his monthly income is nearly double mine. The house is owned by me and he doesn't pay any rent. When he moved in I was stupid enough to open a joint account with him. The account was to cover all household bills, food plus tax and insurance and maintenance on our two cars. It wasn't long before he started taking advantage of the situation. His teenage daughter stays every other weekend and half of the school holidays. I asked him to put extra money into the account when shes there as he buys a lot of luxury items for her all coming out of the joint account. He also started to pay for all his petrol -for work- and for running around after his daughter - all out of the account. After an argument he would pay some extra into the account but things quickly slide back to normal. He doesn't earn a high wage but after paying money into the joint account and paying child maintenance he still has a disposable income of over £1000 a month. He's always pleading poverty but spends his money on drinking, gambling on the horses and over indulging his teenage daughter.
I've now asked him to move out and hes going at the end of the month. I feel really bad about turning him out because he hasn't got anything and in a lot of ways hes been a good partner, but i just feel that he has been using me to subsidise his lifestyle.