Child In Salon

[Salons]

Hi had an upsetting thing happen today and I’m looking for a virtual handhold as I’m too embarrassed to share in real life.
I was in a salon getting my nails done (a very rare self pampering treat for me) when a child of around 5/6 (who’s Mother was at the next station) came up to me and said, ‘why are you so big, you need to stop eating so much food’
For context I am overweight and I have gained weight due to a chronic illness and stress from having a child with serious health issues. I’m a size 16 and I’m short so not giant but equally not slim. I don’t need an extender belt on an aeroplane and can fit in to regular seats etc but I do know I need to lose weight
I’m barely keeping my head above water with all the things I have to juggle and it’s made me feel even worse about myself.
I know he’s only a child but he literally walked over to say that to me and his Mother said, ‘ so sorry he watches too much Tik Tok’

This little oik has spoilt the OP's treat to herself. If children weren't allowed to roam around what should be an adult only environment, this sort of thing wouldn't happen.

Yes lovely, swearing at a kid. You'd be no better then.
Deal with it properly. No swearing needed.

Yes, quite.

But it's still a question no-one here can answer (unless perhaps the OP may have overheard the reason).

@MissScarletInTheBallroom children are humans too - you can't just ban them from every venue because you don't like them. You wouldn't say the same about the elderly - ageism isn't ok at any age.

Some places aren't appropriate for a child - mainly for safeguarding reasons, but a salon is not one of them.

I think a salon is the right place for a child ONLY if that child is capable of sitting quietly reading, colouring etc without annoying any of the adults there who are paying good money for a treat.

If you're not a customer having your nails done, your presence is only going to be a nuisance. This is even more the case if you're a child who can't be trusted to sit silently on a chair for the duration of the appointment.

I like children very much but I don't want to be disturbed by them when I'm having a beauty treatment.

The child is old enough to know better and the mum needs to step up and parent. No 6 year old should be watching TikTok and most decent parents would have had a firm word and made their child apologise.

I used to be 18.5 stone and had many such comments in public places. When you’re not having a great time it really hurts, more because you were trying to have a little treat and feel a bit better. As the PP said, we are not our weights but I totally get why you’re upset. 💐

Kids are dicks. Enjoy spending the day thinking of awful things you could / should have said and then move on.

@MissScarletInTheBallroom You called a child you don't know an oik - really sounds like you like children.

Banning children from places makes them less accessible for mothers, and only encourages an us and them mind set regarding them.

Again - would you ban all elderly people from a salon if one old woman "disturbed" you with a rude comment?

Banning children from venues that are safe for them to be in is ageism.

I would have said “why are you so rude, did your parents not teach you how to behave”.

Horrible brat. His mother should be ashamed and embarrassed.

Maybe they're the kids of the woman who was having a tantrum on here the other day because a spa wouldn't let them come in with her whilst she got her nails done

Surely the child should have been in school Friday morning...not making a nuisance of himself.

It doesn't matter whether it's safe for them to be there, they have no reason to be there and they are not paying customers.

This particular child clearly is an oik, because he went up to a woman he didn't know and ruined her treat to herself by making unkind comments about her appearance. Sounds like his mother should worry less about her nails and more about her parenting.

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply. I’m still feeling pretty deflated but it has helped sharing.

'Yeah, I am fat but I can always lose weight and I will always have a nice personality. You will always be a poorly raised, nasty, rude little shit'.

Watch the pathetic mother's face fall.

Should've replied saying something like "Well why are you so rude? You should mind your own business more!"

So sorry you had to put up with that OP. I agree with previous posters, this is all about the child's parent, not you. Hopefully she had some words with him outwith the salon.

A size 16 is average. The kid was a fucking little shit with a cunt for a mother x

His mother should have reprimanded him severely and apologised to you, not the halfhearted "So sorry, he watches TikTok."

Her parenting fail. He was very rude.

The mum needed to give the child a stern telling off at the very least.

I think the child was looking for a reaction. At size 16, even if you're short, you are hardly conspicuously overweight in this day and age. I bet he would have found some insult to throw at anyone who happened to be sitting in your chair, whatever they looked like.

Plenty of salons don't allow children; given that the parent is likely to be occupied with hands/hair/face being beautified, then they are in effect unsupervised during the treatment/haircut/whatever.

Elderly is obviously completely different as they may be clients themselves or - if waiting for a friend/relative - unlikely to need that supervision.

God, some kids and some parents.

Mate, ignore it.

I don't lump myself in with the amorphous mass that is Mumsnet but I agree 100% with the poster who asked why a child was in the salon in the first place.
People go for beauty treatments to feel better about themselves with some peace and quiet and pampering. No, children should NOT be there for precisely the reason shown here by the OP. She has told us she spent the rest of her appointment in tears, ffs.

There is nothing wrong with you OP.

And everything wrong when a 5 year old is allowed to watch Tiktok and hasn't been taught basic manners about not being rude to people.

I'm angry on your behalf because I know no matter how many of us reassure you and tell you not to be upset about this you will still feel hurt by what happened.

It's the second thread I've read today where Tiktok has been directly responsible for an OP being really hurt by someone who has learned their behaviour from it.

😂🤣😂