Is mumsnet mean?

[Dalmationlover]

I see so many abrupt or just downright rude replies to fellow humans on here. People can have different opinions and be polite surely. Some proper misogynistic insults seen recently calling other people dramatic / hysterical (hyst is from uterus). Come on mamas we can do better than this 😭

what is it that makes some people here like this?

• maybe there are lots of rude people anyway but I just stick around the less rude ones lol
• People feel they can be meaner when there’s anonymity. Is this what people think but filter out when their own name is behind it?

peace and love ✌️

Was it actually nasty though?

I've never had a FWB but isn't it just sex with no commitment, no relationship, no love or other deep feelings/emotions?

Which is surely similar to using a male or female prostitute for sex, but obviously without the money or sex trade coercion etc?

Weirdly it always tends to be the first couple of posters a lot of the time. I’d say 2% of Mumsnet are on here to be mean and goady, the majority of people are kind and offer great advice.

I always have this image of this really sad lonely man or women, stuck at home with nothing better to do, so they try and upset people online. I rarely let it affect me because it’s always their issue.

Does it really matter what a stranger thinks?? This is a discussion site, do not take things to heart. If someone calls you a FC just laugh it off.

I don't care what anyone thinks of me. I know I'm a good person - that is a fact not an opinion. So if someone dislikes me - F them.

FWB is entirely about enthusiastic consent between adults, prostitution is about the exploitation of vulnerable girls and women. Not the same at all.

Mumsnet has always been known as a nest of vipers and if you wanted somewhere more sugarcoated you were directed to nethuns. Does that place even exist anymore?

Yes it's mean

People are behind a keyboard

That said, when someone has a problem, often there are many helpful replies

I love your username by the way. And you're right, there are helpful replies too!

FWB is entirely about enthusiastic consent between adults, prostitution is about the exploitation of vulnerable girls and women. Not the same at all.

No I get that, but the PP said 'unpaid' prostitute so I'm guessing they just meant the free sex without commitment.

So I was wondering if it really was meant in a nasty way or not.

I wouldn't even clock that as being nasty. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with consensual prostitution. Sl*t shaming is a thing of the past. I'd see that comment as the person trying to let you know the other person is benefiting at your expense but lacking the tact to do so in a more eloquent manner.

What if a woman uses a male prostitute?

mamas …… cringe !!!

it can be mean, but equally it is often the voice of reason -

it’s the straight up truth that someone who had to live with u may struggle to say -

isn’t that we come here ?? To have the benefit of discussion with anonymity - which means you can shortcut to the truth without the fluff

Yes, there are sometimes ridiculously unkind comments from people who would claim to be equally as mean in real life but are no such thing.

They are weak because when a reasonable reply is posted, they don’t and can’t counter it.

We’ve always been a nest of vipers that’ll never change

Yes, it was nasty and a sleazy inference, as you’ve just also made.

If name changing wasn't allowed, people would have to be much nicer or at least more civil, otherwise people simply wouldn't respond to them.

But for obvious reasons, people need to name change.

It's interesting how one person's 'reasonable view', is someone else's 'nasty'.

I don't think I've been nasty at all in my musing of the PP's post.

But you obviously think differently and that's fine.

Yes although I used to think of vipers as being blunt but relevant and often well-meaning and intelligent.

Now it’s usually not even one of those four. Often aggressive, missing the point, goading and thick. I miss the vipers! Vipers assemble 😆

Oh give over, you’ve compared FWB to using a prostitute. You’re not adjacent to nasty, you’re rolling around in it.

Why is being a prostitute a bad thing? Someone being a prostitute doesn't make them a bad person does it, surely?

OG viper here! 21 years and counting

Prostitution is not consensual, it's coercive. And, shocker, women can enjoy sex too, a FWB situation is just a way of improving safety and quality without having to worry about meeting the parents.

Buy why do you think that??

None of my musings were nasty, they were just simple musings!

Do you look down on prostitutes? What is it about them that makes you think it's nasty to ask the PP if the poster who compared being FWB with free prostitution, was actually being nasty or just pointing out that the free sex without commitment was a similar thing in their view?

I don't know why you felt the need to say "shocker". Men can also be prostitutes

She was probably just jealous 😁