Would he be on probation for this?

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I have been seeing a new man for about 2 months, everything has been going well so far, but now there is a red flag. He has told me that he had a 2-year court battle with his ex over custody of their 10 year old daughter. He sees his daughter every other weekend, and when his ex needs him to have her, and has her more over the school holidays. I have not met his daughter.

Last week he received a letter from the HM Prison & Probation Service instructing him to attend a keeping in touch appointment. The letter explained that the appointment was to discuss recent information shared by a third party. He explained that he is still on probation from the court case and is now worried they could stop him seeing his daughter.

Does this sound true?
He says his ex just refused to let him see his daughter and he has spent thousands trying to get her back and won his case. He has been open with me about the letter but I'm just not convinced there isn't more to this. I was under the impression you went on probation after being sentenced for a crime, is that right?

I am thinking about putting in a Claire's Law application, would they share this information?

Just a little update, I applied for a Claire's Law disclosure and attended a meeting with the police. As I explained there is no way I would get back with him, they said they wouldn't proceed with the disclosure - fair enough.

While I was there I logged a complaint against him regarding him harassing me and threatening me with his sister and sharing screenshots on my son's charity page. I had to unblock him on text to get the screenshots and I forgot to block him again. Last night I had more messages, a lot of which don't really make any sense. I have asked him to leave me alone, he kept on and then I have now completely blocked him again. I am not sure whether to report this and turn it into an official complaint. He also said that he had reported me to the police. I have no idea what for, but he has provided a crime number. I haven't heard anything back from the police but now I am worried as I am about to start college with the hope of becoming a radiographer and have a clean police record.

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He must think you are a fool

Sorry just read your update. You’re doing the right thing, report any harassment.

You did the right thing by reporting him. I would continue to report to make sure what happened to you is on record. Anyone can get a crime reference number by reporting pretty much anything. It's a reference number for logging it. When you have a professional DBS check the police have to have a real justification to disclose anything that isn't a conviction. I would be very surprised if this came up but you might want to just mention it and his probation involvement. You could also contact your local probation service and try and get in touch with whoever is monitoring him to ask them to address the behaviour. Keep all the texts and back them up

God op I'm so sorry

Bull 💩 he has not reported you not a chance

You have done the right thing

My god I was shaking reading your update

What a vile man
I have been there

So many of these 🐀 around

Please stay safe xxx
Report every single thing else he does and take it all the way forward
It did this and so glad I did

I would definitely report him.

Definitely report this! Ask the police to add the info to your file. Also they should disclose anything that has come up on CL as you are still at risk and you have a right to know if you are potentially in danger. Also contact Women's Aid for advice.

Your family need to block him too. Report him to the police if the harassment continues but tbh given he’s on probation you should report him anyway.