I’m fifty tomorrow

[IstillloveKingThistle]

I feel fortunate to get to half a century. Some people don’t.
However, I feel overwhelmed by it and wonder if this is normal. I am not vain but am conscious of ageing too and well, just feel a bit meh about it all. Not even any excitement.
Have enormous family pressures at the moment and am carrying a heavy load of emotional worry.
Not sure if this is anything as to why I feel quite down about it.

Can someone give my head a wobble please..

Happy Birthday to you!
I understand where you are coming from and it is a strange feeling.
Hopefully you will have a lovely day celebrating and not think too deeply about it all.
Enjoy your day x

You don't need to wobble your head @IstillloveKingThistle ,your feelings are perfectly natural. You have a ton on your plate and a milestone birthday can give your life a particular and unwelcome focus.

My milestone birthdays had something exciting happening each time and it wasn't until my 70th that I got that oh shit feeling of ageing.

Is there any way of sharing the burden of your family worries? Do the worries have an end in sight that you can focus on?
I'm not going to suggest a spa day but possibly conscious efforts to take care of yourself. You'll know best the things you like.

Oh and have lots of photos taken at 50. You'll look back at them, in happier times I hope, and see how young 50 is.

Have a wonderful birthday. All the best.

It’s a tough one! Often this is the time of life when we are facing a lot - everything from ageing parents to worries about children. Oh yes, and menopause just to add to the merriment. No wonder we might feel less than frivolous. I’m down the road a bit from 50 now, nearer the next decade birthday. I’d say to my 50-year-old self ‘trust your wisdom and embrace it.’ I’m more tolerant, more at peace with myself and more sure of myself than at any other time in my life. It’s not all gloom, OP. Happy birthday!

Join the club 💐🎂🍾

It’s got to be better than my 50th zoom party during Covid!

Life goes on…. As though I think any birthday post 18 can be a bit meh. X

Happy birthday OP from a fellow 1975 baby.. it is a strange one and I’m a few months ahead of you and on paper I’m in a shit show of career changing, older kids, aging parents a husband a feel a bit meh about and a ton of other stuff oh and peri..

But I'm also so grateful to be here and to be 50, it’s a bit of a pinch me moment, I do have some friends the other side of 60 and it’s giving me hope for the next decade.

Happy birthday for tomorrow. Enjoy every day, cherish your loved ones, and fuck the people off who give you hassle.

The older I have become, the less fucks I have to give, and the less tolerant of arseholes I've become.

Also, a life sentence now is much less of a deterrent these days, so people appear to be more wary of pissing me off 🤣

@IstillloveKingThistle Happy Birthday and you are still young. The following won't get rid of worries or stress but may help you relax for a little for a few hours. If possible, consider doing things like watching a 80s film, playing some 80's or 90's music, playing 80s games. If you prefer more physically thrilling stuff, plan trip to Alton Towers, a hot air balloon ride, parachute jump or anything that gives you a buzz. And what's the worse that can happen? Even if something weird happens, that event will make a great story to share.

I am fifty today and actually it’s fine it’s another day. Tomorrow will be fine for you.
I was feeling worse last month at the thought of it but now that it’s here I don’t feel any different.

Happy 50th x

Happy Birthday for tomorrow!

I turned 40 today and was similarly feeling a bit out of sorts but I used it as a restorative day instead. I made a list of things that are at the forefront of my mind and then put it in my desk draw and then enjoyed a peaceful day, I won't look at the list until school starts again, I've given myself permission to take things at my own pace for now.

Happiest of birthdays to you! Hope your 50th has been a wonderful day 🍸🩷

Thank you so much for all of your lovely replies and kind wishes.

You've all made me feel a little better already.

I feel sad about what’s happening in my family and as well my sister has inoperable brain cancer. My big beautiful only sister . It is breaking my heart . So I almost feel guilty for even thinking about having a nice day - when she is going through radio / chemo and is having a horrible and life changing time. I saw her today though- made her a lovely organic salad with chicken, gave her some flowers ( sunflowers - her favourite) and I also gave her a few little treats.

My goodness, it’s all so difficult.

Your kind words mean so much. Thank you to each and everyone of you 🩷

Happy Birthday, @IstillloveKingThistle! 🎉

I’ll be 51 this autumn and I felt similar to you last year, it’s a big milestone. Many of us are also in the “squeezed middle”, supporting both elderly parents and teenagers/young adults-in fact, I think most of my friends are in this situation to some extent! Hang in there.

Happy 40th birthday to you! Hope you have had a really lovely day. 🍸💕

It’s an odd feeling isn’t it. I’ve even hidden my birthday on social media ( not that I want fuss ) but it just feels so weird. And yet I am so grateful too.

It’s my DH 50th birthday tomorrow too!

a life sentence now is much less of a deterrent these days

😂😂😂

Happy Birthday! May you have a happy next decade

I'm so so sorry about your sister, so unfair. It sounds like you've had a wonderful day with her, another precious memory with her to add to the bank x.

Thank you so much 😊

This really resonates. My elderly parents are housebound as my Dad is recovering from major cancer surgery.
I have a teenager as well.. 😵‍💫🙃

Am currently in bed after a nice shower drinking a glass of wine.. 🍷
Thank you again everyone for your lovely wishes 🩷

Happy birthday to you! Please enjoy it. I totally get how you feel about family stuff. My 50th birthday is about to happen and my dad is in hospice. Huge hugs and loads of birthday wishes to you, have the best time, but I know how hard this is. I get it. I

Happy 50th to your DH! Hope he has a lovely day 🍸

Hugs to you -am sorry to hear this. Things sound really tough for you.
Hope that you enjoy your 50th birthday as much as you can and that you have something nice planned 🩷

Happy birthday op 🥳🥳
50 today (it’s past midnight now! 🤗
sounds like you had a nice time with your sister. I’m really sorry to hear of her situation, it must weigh so heavily on you. We will always have stress and worries in life but good times come too, life is all about walking the line between the two really isn’t it? Sometimes we have to dig deep and get through it and others we fly high on cloud 9.
Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed to any of us, try and find some good in every day.
And I hope you have something nice to look forward to today.
💐

DH was 50 2 weeks ago and I’ll be 50 next year.

All 4 of our parents are dead and we have a beautiful DS who starts Reception next week.

Just play the hand you’re dealt with and try and enjoy every minute of it. Worrying gets you nowhere.

Happy birthday OP! Congratulations! Have a wonderful day and know that someone in the NW of England is thinking of you xx