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Would it be weird to message my ds old teacher to let her know, my ds got his first choice uni place ?

51 replies

HollyIvyWine · 18/08/2025 15:16

I could only contact her via messenger and we are not fb friends

bit whenever I’ve seen her she always asks after him

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ThatCyanSheep · 18/08/2025 15:16

I don’t think so! I think it would be quite nice for her to know.

cestlavielife · 18/08/2025 15:16

The teachers will know who got what

HollyGolightly4 · 18/08/2025 15:17

Could you message her on her school email?

I definitely love to know how my past pupils are getting on and would be delighted to hear the good news about your son, but if you aren't friends on FB, she might not see the message.

ThingsgetbetterwithalittlebitofRazzmatazz · 18/08/2025 15:19

How long ago did she teach him?

Greedybilly · 18/08/2025 15:20

I'm sure she'd be really chuffed thst you'd let her know!

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/08/2025 15:24

cestlavielife · 18/08/2025 15:16

The teachers will know who got what

Not if it was a primary school teacher.

Crinkle77 · 18/08/2025 15:26

I'd contact via the school.

24Dogcuddler · 18/08/2025 15:28

I’m sure she’d be delighted to know. When I got into University many years ago, I got a card from my Nursery teacher who wrote “ Don’t forget where your education began “ in a card.
She’d heard via a relative.

Haggisfish3 · 18/08/2025 15:30

I’m a teacher and would be delighted to know.

SarahAndQuack · 18/08/2025 15:30

It'd be lovely. Just bear in mind she may not see/check messages that go into her non-friends inbox (which would be the argument for doing it through school, if you know she's still working there). It's a really nice thing to do.

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/08/2025 15:31

As a retired Nursery/Reception teacher myself I would be really interested to find out what ex pupils have done.

way2serious · 18/08/2025 15:32

I work in education and always love to hear what past pupils are doing and what they have achieved.

StrokeRecovery25 · 18/08/2025 15:34

I would be delighted to hear from you, but I'd never ever see it if you did it on messenger. A card via the school would be my absolute preference, but email via school or whatever.

congratulations & well done to your boy!!

HostaCentral · 18/08/2025 15:37

DD's recently visited their old primary school, which celebrated 80 years, and is closing down. They are in their twenties. All the old teachers were there and were really interested and proud of what they have achieved.

OhBumBags · 18/08/2025 15:38

As a teacher I'd be happy to know.

As a child, I'd see it as my mother completely overstepping unless she checked with me first.

CountryQueen · 18/08/2025 15:39

Send a card to school

SummerHolidayMemories · 18/08/2025 15:39

I don’t think you should go through messenger. If you don’t have her school contact details then you should call once schools back to ask for those.

SpecialMilkMonitor · 18/08/2025 15:39

Definitely contact the school she teaches / taught at. She’ll probably be thrilled.

The final years of my school career were weirdly disrupted, I did my A’ Levels alone and didn’t maintain any contact with my former school. Instead of references I sent essays when I was applying to university. Anyway … Few years later, I bumped into my former History teacher as we were each crossing a bridge in Cambridge.

So what are you doing here today? She asked.

History at X College. I replied.

Her face!

She couldn’t have been more delighted. It was a moment …

sillibillies · 18/08/2025 15:42

Think it would be lovely. Better to send an email to school address though.

if you don’t know her email, just send to main school email and ask them to forward it on.

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 18/08/2025 15:54

I messaged my DD's temporary teacher after she got her GCSE results. Over the two years she studied for her GCSE's she had 6 teachers for one subject and she was completely disheartened and ready to give up. The temporary teacher took over the class with the promise that she would see them through to the end of year and my DD came alive in that subject again. She finished with 2 A*s for the subject because the teacher was so encouraging. She was a friend of a friend on FB so I sent her message and said how very much we appreciated her and how grateful we were to her for relighting the fire. I had a lovely reply from her.

3teens2cats · 18/08/2025 16:18

We love hearing about how children are doing, even many many years down the line. Keep it professional though. Do it through school email address, even just the admin one and mention which teacher you think specifically would like to know. Don't find her on social media and then direct message. It makes me feel uncomfortable when parents look me up on social media and send messages or friend requests.

DorothyStorm · 18/08/2025 16:19

Email the school. FAO: teacher’s name

Catsandcannedbeans · 18/08/2025 16:36

I wouldn't mind. I’m a maths tutor, so not in a school and pretty much every results day I get messages like this from people who I tutored who moved away, or passed their GCSEs and have now gone on to do none maths related subject so didn’t need me anymore. It’s nice. Mostly emails, but I get a couple of Facebook messages.

Middlemarch123 · 18/08/2025 17:44

I’m an ex teacher and was always delighted to hear news like this. It made a hard job worthwhile.

Pieceofpurplesky · 18/08/2025 17:48

As a teacher I love hearing from past students - it's part of why we do what we do.