Would it be weird to message my ds old teacher to let her know, my ds got his first choice uni place ?

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I could only contact her via messenger and we are not fb friends

bit whenever I’ve seen her she always asks after him

Email her on her school email

If you see her, then wait until you see her and tell her then. Nicer to do it that way.

Sorry I should have clarified, she was a primary school teacher and now we have no younger ones at primary

Not via messenger, no.

As the others. Would love to hear but not via messenger. That's stalker ish and I don't want to have to start thinking about communicating with parents when I've not opened a work app.

Can you send a card to the old school? Or ring them and ask if they can pass it on?

Send a card to the primary school if you don’t have her work email. I’m primary and would love this! So good to hear they’ve done well! Also it would be so lovely to receive something positive in the post first day back!!

I think they would love to hear the news but
personally wouldn’t send anything through messenger to their personal Facebook.
can you email the school they work at?
I bumped into my sons old English teacher recently and she was thrilled to hear he’s just completed a journalism degree

Teacher here. Primary. Please send a message!!

I’ve had a few emails over the years from past pupils. I can hand on heart say that I was utterly delighted to receive every single one and love hearing what they’re up to.

The one that was particularly incredible was the lad who is now at uni studying the subject I’m most passionate about. He directly referenced some of the stories I told them as children as what sparked his love for the subject too.

There will be an email for the teacher on the primary school website or an ‘enquiry’ one. Definitely send it and let us know if you get a response!!

I'm very proud of 'children' I remember from primary school when I hear about their achievements.

Ok will she date message then, so you you definitely think via school email then ?
as I thought messenger would be a bit more causal
but I also don’t want to to seem stalkerish either

Ds had a head of year that saw them all the way through from year 7 to year 11. The sixth form he went to wasn't attached to the school and she made me promise I would update her on where he ended up post 18.

I emailed her via her school email as I had that already and I also asked her to pass on a message to another member of staff for my other child's update. She was absolutely thrilled and thanked me profusely. I think it is nice for them to know where they end up.

I accidently bumped into my DC's primary teacher on holiday and she was saying how much she loved working at that school and then she saw my fully grown adult children behind me. She was horrified as it made her feel very old but she did say she would recognise them anywhere. She loved hearing what they were up to.

It sounds like you bump into her every now and then, so just tell her when you next see her. I think it’s a bit strange to send an email as she probably just asks about your son when she sees you to be polite as it’s an obvious thing to ask about considering she used to teach him.

As a retired teacher myself I would pretty much guarantee she is genuinely interested and not just being polite.

Back in the days of Friends Reunited I found two girls from my first ever Early Years class in the mid 80s had messaged me. It was a very deprived area and one was doing a degree and planning to work in tv and the other had a job and was buying a house in the suburbs with her partner, she said how happy she was with her life. It made me happy to know that.

I found out more recently that two boys who had a lot of problems in their earlier life have overcome that and done very well. I am less pleased when I read ex pupils' names in the crime columns of the local paper. It happens.

Or just tell her next time you see her

I’m not saying she wasn’t interested enough to hear when they bumped into each other, but maybe not interested enough for an email.

Is she still working at the primary school? Send in a card for her and she’ll be chuffed to bits.

I think it’s a lovely thing to do. My daughter had to leave secondary due to severe bullying. We had a lot of support from her form tutor who agreed with my decision. After that, I updated her on any milestones (daughter thrived in a new setting) right until she graduated from uni with a first class with honours degree. Teacher was always so delighted to hear from me and enthusiastic about my daughter’s success. Go for it! I think if it’s primary though, I would probably go through the school.

Work email is ok, but not private Facebook messenger. A) you're not friends and B) teaching is her job - don't cross that boundary.

I would definitely do it via her school email so it's all above board. If you do it via Messenger her school's social media policy might prohibit her from replying.

Long serving teacher here . . . . I absolutely love hearing about my ex-students. Some parents come up to me in the supermarket / high street. Others send me an email at school. I am always very touched that they thought of me and feel very proud to have contributed towards the child's education.

Do let her know.
A few years ago I received a lovely card in the post from a former pupil (I taught him in Years 5 & 6) telling me he’d just qualified as a doctor and thanking me for instilling a love of learning in him.

I was delighted- absolutely made my day and I still have it pinned up in my office.

I had a wonderful German teacher at GCSE , my mum used to work somewhere public facing that she used occasionally. The day after A level results (I went to a 6th form college my school didn't do a levels, so 2 years after I'd left) she went in and said to my mum I'm so glad you're here, so how did she do. When my mum told her I got an A in German (no stars then) was going to Durham and for a degree including languages, she clapped and hugged my mum. I did go to a comp in a shit area and was the first person in my family to do a levels let alone a degree.
Teachers do remember students and I'm sure she'll be pleased. I would email her at the school though rather than FB, or your son could send her a nice card.

Not the same, but I messaged a teacher from ds primary school. She did the referral to asd pathway, she saw what I saw and was so compassionate. Everyone else said he was quirky! Not autistic.

When he got his diagnosis (started in year 5, diagnosed in Yr 9) I emailed her. To tell her about the diagnosis but to also thank her for believing me and being on my side.

She emailed back to say thank you for letting her know and that she was available for any support or just for a chat any time. Was nice to have

Why not? It reflects very well on her teaching!