Genuine question - if you are slim do you feel hungry on a regular basis?

[Cruisebaby]

I'm genuinely curious about this and please, no responses of the 'I have two salad leaves a day and I'm full' variety!

The reason I ask is that although I'm not overweight, I do feel permanently dumpy. Not helped by being 5'3 and having 32G boobs admittedly and even though I've lost a little weight in the last few months I'm struggling to shift any more. I'm currently 9 st 7 and a sort of appley hourglass if that makes any sense.

What prompted my question is that I had lunch with a friend today who is the same age as me (late 50s) but very slim. The sort of slim where there is no excess fat at all and I am sure that every single item of clothing she tries on just fits without issue. When it came to ordering, she chose the lowest calorie item from the starter section and was adamant that was all she needed. Rather than look like a total glutton I also ordered a small meal but was bloody starving by mid afternoon. When I think about it, I rarely see her eat much and in situations where others might have a biscuit she will just sip on water or eat a few nuts.

It's left me wondering, is eating like that what it takes? I love my food but I really hate my body shape now and even regular strength training seems to make little impact. Is it possible to happy and ravenous at the same time? 😩

My BMI is 18 and I'm constantly STARVING. I do have a disease that means my body works hard to get normal functions done so I think I just burn through calories like a furnace.

I do intermittent fasting and only eat when I feel genuinely hungry. I find this helps me to better gauge how much food I need, whereas I used to eat when I no longer felt full which lead to overeating and weight gain.

I don’t go hungry, but I do allow myself to feel hunger which I used to think were the same thing.

@KPPlumbing I've just reread this and this is exactly how mealtimes went when I was a child. It would be 'surely you have room for that last potato' etc etc and I'd duly stuff it in (probably so I could then have a piece of chocolate!)

@MargoLivebetter That's interesting to hear of your experience. One of the other thought I have had is going down that route for a couple of months just to see if it helps me find a new pattern. I'm obviously below the recommended BMI for it though so would need to buy online and that worries me a bit.