If you are financially better off than the rest of your family…

[Overnightfloats]

How does it make you feel? Does it impact your relationships, even if the gap is not huge?

I am much better off than my parents and send them money monthly, as well as sort out big unplanned expenses. I do find this mildly annoying but can’t let them go without.

My DD is mid twenties and it’s too early to say how her career will pan out as she is doing a very specialist PhD. I support her too at the moment and worry that she will never earn enough to enjoy a good “adult” lifestyle and also feel like I will never be able to drop the ball. I am a good earner on salary, sensible with money, DH is the same. So, a lot of responsibility, some irritation and some guilt is how I feel.

I have more cash than both my siblings. 1 has a massive house and land so more asset in that way.
1 sibling has lots of BTL so asset that way.
Our household wage is the highest of them.
I had the money to full renovate and future proof our parents house as they got older and like to think theyre appreciative of that but ive never discussed it with them.

Sorry to hear this
I hope karma prevails and people are kind to you now
and that you find a new role soon x

We’ve always had the lowest income but one of my brothers and his ex wife borrowed any equity their home accrued by remortgaging numerous times so when they divorced they were both having to start again plus there were loans. My other brother also divorced and came out of it badly so he’s starting again at 50. Whereas we have lived within our means, saved up for holidays or anything we’ve needed, overpaid on our mortgage so we’re mortgage free. They still earn more but they waste a lot. Over the years they’ve borrowed from our parents, we never have, I assume they’ve repaid them but I don’t worry about that as it’s their money to do what they want with.

We would be on my side of the family certainly. Like others have said, not hugely differing salaries but more sensible with money. My Dsis for eg wouldnt go on as many or as nice of holidays as us but she is foolish in some ways with money. For eg when her kids were small I offered her some of my ds clothes for her boys, she said no 'my kids dont wear second hand clothes', she would buy a car she cant afford on credit etc never buys in sales, like summer sale for kids for next summer etc she doesn't plan anything, wouldn't shop around for better deals on utilities etc
My DM is similar but not her fault as my late Dad made poor financial decisions and left her in a financial mess. She is actually good with money. I support her as much as I can, help out with big expenses, will get her voucher for hair salon every so often, pay tradespeople if something needs repairing. She is very grateful and I dont mind because she's my Mum!
My DSis on other hand just acts jealous and begrudging. Always comments that its well for me and DH etc we work bloody hard. She is in the same role for 10 years, her DH 20 years. Je had opportunity to go promotion about 5 years ago. Didn't go for it because he 'couldnt be arsed'. So look in conclusion OP we help out who we can when we can but wouldn't help DSis as she needs to cop on and instead of being jealous of us, try taking a leaf from our book!!